To the girl struggling with her body image,
You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.
Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.
So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.
Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.
Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.
Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.
It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.
So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.
Love your body, and your body will love you right back.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I understand that. But what I don't understand is why people have to be blatantly rude about it.
So quick background story, I wrote my first article and got tons and tons of great feedback. Unfortunately, there will always be a group of people that will have nothing but negative things to say. It didn't bother me because I wrote my article for a number of different reasons, none of which were to offend people. I wrote my article to help other people who have been through what I have been through. I wrote my article to go a different way from other articles, about the same topic, that I have read. I wrote my article about ME and how I turned a negative into a positive and what I learned from it. I was simply letting my feelings out but some people don't see it that way. My article wasn't written in a negative way, and there was no harm in it.
So of course like I said, people are entitled to their opinion and there isn't anything wrong with that. What is wrong is to make negative and degrading social media posts about me. You can dislike and disagree with what I wrote but to call somebody the b- word and to say that they were "raised by wild animals" is just down right rude. For somebody more than twice my age to say, "I always said she was a crazy b**** raised by feral animals!!! Now it's time to play the game...my way!!!!" is just downright ridiculous and I couldn't help but laugh it off. Like what games are we playing? I'm always down for Uno, heck I'm even down for Connect Four!
In fact, I actually couldn't help but laugh at all the negative comments I was reading. They were so far from the truth it was comical. I was reading that I was breaking family bonds and tearing apart relationships. In reality, I was expressing what I learned to help other people who may have needed it.
While I don't believe in bullying or that karma is coming for me like one of the many negative posts stated, I do believe in forgiving people. I do forgive everyone involved in the social media posts. I've learned to take a negative and turn it into a positive. These degrading posts have only made me a stronger, more confident person.
All in all my response to this hate is that you can say whatever you want to but I'll turn it into a positive and make it help me in the end.