Leave Poor Mindsets, Habits, And People Behind Going Into The Year

Leave Poor Mindsets, Habits, And People Behind Going Into The Year

New year, new you. Here's a few things to leave behind and help you improve.
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Every year people around the US come up with a list of New Year's Resolutions, a list of things they want to add to their lives to further their self-improvement. While this is great, I think it is also important to look at what is less important in your life right now and figure out what to leave in 2017.

Habits

Are you super messy? Unorganized? Always late? What are your worst habits that are currently getting in between the person you are and the person you want to be? Leave those behind and go to the people you admire and look up to. Learn their habits and replace them with your old ones. This will help you grow and flourish. In this new year you will definitely become a new you.

Mindsets

Are you nice to yourself? Are you nice to others? Do you only hang around certain people based off how they can benefit you and not their overall character? These are the ways of thinking I have seen a lot of people exemplify this past year. And all I can say is, stop. This is so harmful to yourself and those around you. Try to focus on being kinder and more positive. Start to make a conscious decision to say one kind thing to yourself and one kind thing to someone one else every single day. A positive mindset will help you uplift yourself in your darkest moments.

People

This is the hardest one to figure out because it can be hard to let go of some relationships. Go over everyone that you talk to on a regular basis. From friends, lovers, and everyone in between. Who makes you stressed, anxious, or makes you feel unworthy? Let. Them. Go! Stop wasting your time and energy. They will be replaced with much more rewarding people in due time. Slowly begin to drift away from these people and when you get the courage, sit them down and tell why you need to leave. You'll be doing this to maintain your peace and happiness.

Don't be afraid of change. Don't be afraid of growth. A lot of people put such simplistic things on their New Year Resolutions list because everything else is too scary and hard. Choose to be better and strive higher in 2018 and leave the old you in the past.

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To The Girl Who Mocked My Sorority

Sorority girls seem to be getting more and more backlash, but why?
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To The Girl Who Mocked My Sorority,

I buy my friends? Wow. First time I’ve ever gotten that, good one.

Do you feel better now? Was it all you hoped for?

I doubt it.

I’m not the “typical” sorority girl but I’ve also come to the realization that there isn’t a “typical” sorority girl. We are all different and believe it or not we are all just like you. The letters I wear on my chest don’t make me stupid. They don’t make me a bitch. They don’t make me spoiled. They don’t make me an alcoholic. They don’t make me fake. They don’t make me a slut. And they sure as heck don’t make me any better than you.

What my letters made me is better than I was before.

Some sorority stereotypes are inevitable. Yes, I love my Big. Yes, my Littles are my life. I’m guilty of being a master with a glue gun, and I’ll admit that new letter shirts make me giddy as a 5-year-old on Christmas morning.

But here’s what you don’t know — before I joined my sorority I couldn’t speak to a group of five people without turning red. Now I help run meetings in front of 45 women. Before, I would never have had the courage to go up to a group of girls and sit with them for lunch. Now I’m actually invited (crazy, I know). Before, I struggled with my grades. Now I have sisters in my major offering help. Before, my resume was empty. Now, it's full of leadership positions and community service hours. Before, I didn’t quite feel accepted. Now, I’m welcomed lovingly into an extremely diverse group. What’s so bad about all of that?

I get it. Sororities aren’t for everyone. I’ll even go as far to say that some of us sorority girls can be a little much. But what’s the point of dissing something that you don’t understand? Next time you’re about to make a cruel stereotypical joke, think about how you would feel if someone did that to you. Instead of making fun of sorority girls, sit down with one and find out why it’s so important to her.

Sincerely,

A Proud Sorority Girl

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Rape Culture Affects Me On A Daily Basis

As a woman, rape culture affects me on a daily basis.

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Growing up a female, I was always expected to follow a certain set of rules; never walk alone at night, be aware of your surroundings, don't show too much skin. I explicitly remember when I was about twelve years old, my family was watching a soccer game at Elon University. I got up to go to the bathroom. I washed my hands and was pulling paper towels out of the paper towel dispenser with my back to the door. I heard the door open and felt hands on my shoulders. I shrieked before I realized that it was only my mother. I waited for her and as we walked back to the soccer field, she told me about how I needed to be aware of my surroundings just in case. I remember thinking that it was my responsibility to keep myself safe.

In a way, it is my responsibility. I understand the risk and unfortunately, incidents of rape occur far too often in our society. However, it in no way should be. I should not have to be worried about my safety every time I walk into a bar. I should not feel uncomfortable in a room full of grown men. I should not be subject to the victim-blaming and body-shaming that have become pivotal points in counting the legacy of rape culture.

Especially in college, there are far too many incidents. Even recently, rape culture has been so prevalent. With cases such as Brock Turner's and Jacob Anderson's resulting in light punishment, even the justice system tells victims that their trauma isn't significant enough to warrant more than a slap on the wrist. I remember having to take multiple alcohol and hazing education modules before coming to school. There was a large emphasis on how to avoid sexual harassment and how to stop it if you see it. We are a society so desensitized to rape culture that, if it wasn't our reality, it may be laughable.

I don't want to live my life in fear of what could happen to me at a party. I don't want to think about how I would go about telling others about the trauma I faced. I don't want to feel embarrassed when a guy, uninvited, rubs his hand up and down my thigh when I'm trying to have lunch with my friends. I don't want to have to be afraid of what would happen if I say no. But I do. I have to worry about these things because our society doesn't take the problems raised because of rape culture seriously.

So how do we change the justice system or the law in order to feel safe in our communities? Rape culture surrounds us continuously and until we change the mindset of those in power, nothing will happen. We need to be taken seriously. Our opinions and experiences need to be heard.

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