The Truth About Your Freshman Year Of College

The Truth About Your Freshman Year Of College

Your college experience is expressed and expected to be one of freedom, fun, and learning.


Freshman year of college is something that is hyped up throughout your high school and sometimes even your middle school years. Everyone who has had a traditional college experience will speak about college like it is their glory days. "You'll have the best four years of your life" and "Man I wish I could go back" are the common phrases that you'll hear from siblings, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and family friends.

Going into my freshman year of college, I had very high expectations for what my freshman year was going to be like. I expected to gain close friendships almost immediately, to deeply enjoy my classes and class schedule, and to be able to express myself in a way that I wasn't able to express myself in college. On move-in day, I could not wait to start my college experience and I was so excited about the amazing year I had ahead of me.

In all honesty, freshman year was nothing that I was expecting it to be.

I had a really hard time transitioning from high school into college and I don't think that was something anyone could have prepared me for. Not only was it a change in terms of the environment, but it was also a major change in terms of lifestyle. I suddenly found myself surrounded by people who held a lot of different morals than I did.

I was surrounded by people who were making choices that I felt were wrong but I felt like they were all pushing me into that direction. I tried my best to fight peer pressure and temptation but along the way I found myself going down some of the wrong paths. I had an expectation that it would be so easy to uphold my own beliefs in college but once I arrived I met a peer pressure that I had never before experienced in high school.

The first semester of my freshman year was definitely a rough time for me. I didn't meet my expectations of what I thought my freshman year was going to be like, and I fell into a sequence of focusing solely on the negative aspects that were happening in my life. I feel into a deep pit of sadness and despair and suddenly I felt like college wasn't right for me because I wasn't making the choices that I wanted to be making.

When the New Year came around, I promised myself that I was going to put more of a focus on myself. I was going to stop worrying about social status, obtaining ridiculously set goals in classes, fake relationships, and finding new relationships. For once in my life, I decided I was going to put my faith into God's hands and waited to see what he decided to do with my life.

This experience was one that changed my life.

When I chose to let God control my life, I finally felt at peace in my life. I felt like I could be myself. I felt like for once in my life I didn't have to experience extreme anxiety when I felt like I couldn't take control of my own life. With time to focus on me, I finally started to regain the confidence and self-worth that I had felt before coming to school. I realized that my past was not something that defined me and I realized that it was never too late to change the way I lived.

For those of you who are wondering about freshman year, I'm sure a lot of people are going to tell you that every single minute of it is absolutely amazing. The truth is, that's far from the truth. The truth is, you're going to have days that really suck. There are going to be days when you're up to 3 am studying for the exam you eventually come to fail.

There are going to be days when you miss your own bed at home so bad but yet still you have to force yourself to climb up into your uncomfortable cramped dorm room bed. There are going to be days where you wish your Mom could be there to hug you and tell you everything is going to be okay. There are going to be days when the person you like doesn't like you back. There are going to be days where you make major mistakes and you feel major regret and guilt. There are days that are going to make you wish you had never left for college.

The thing is though is that it's totally normal.

Even though you may feel like you are the only one having bad days in college, you are most definitely not the only one. Every college student experiences these days and these moments. College is a mixture of good and bad moments meaning that it is totally okay to experience bad days in college. And even if you feel as if these bad days are a product of your own behavior and choices, please know that you have the ability to change. You have the strength and power to change the ways that you act in order to change your life. You will make mistakes, but know that your mistakes do not define you and you always have the opportunity to make a change in your life.

Your freshman year is one that's filled with a lot of mixed emotions. Like people say, it certainly can be the start to some of the best years to your life but at the same time don't let that fool you.

It's okay to not be okay in college.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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6 Things Marketing Majors Know To Be True

You might think marketing majors are just a bunch of creatives who don't know what they want to do with their lives, but you're wrong.


Yes, we're creative, and we also know what we want to do when we "grow up". Marketing is a practice that is so essential to the operation of every organization. Whether that organization is selling a product, or seeking support, marketing is just the tool to make that happen. I think a lot of times, the purpose of marketing is misunderstood, and many are misinformed about what it really is. As a marketing major, this can be a bit frustrating. People studying marketing are the future of many of these organizations. Here are just a few things that are true for many marketing majors.

1. *Watches a movie/TV show* "product placement...product placement...product. placement."

Once you've learned the concept of product placement, your experience while watching anything is changed forever. You'll begin to notice it every single time, while thinking to yourself, "you can't fool me".

2. You're constantly critiquing ads.

Once you've taken a class in advertising, you suddenly feel like you have all the answers to what makes a "good" advertisement. Whether this is true or not, we often find ourselves critiquing different advertisements we see, either out loud or just simply in our heads. For this reason, we really don't mind commercials all that much.

3. When you tell people your major they say: "so you just wanna sell people stuff?"

No. If you really want to annoy someone studying marketing, try asking them something along these lines. It's basically like asking an engineer if they just want to build stuff. There is a distinction between sales and marketing. Marketing is essential in generating sales, but it is not the same thing.

4. You roll your eyes at the fact that everyone thinks they can go into marketing.

A lot of people with degrees in who knows what often say: "I'll just get a job in marketing". With the large need for marketing professionals, there are many jobs available, but good marketing really does take training and education. It's the strategy that leads to the success of a good marketing campaign, so it is a little frustrating when people think marketing is so easy.

You don't understand why you need so much math.

Coming from Clemson, I had to take SO MUCH math. Everything from statistics, to marketing research (which makes sense), to accounting and finance. While this may not apply to those who want to go into the research side of things, us creatives are just perplexed by it. We don't feel the need to keep taking math related courses. Don't get me wrong, I do see the value in (some of) them now, but in the moment, I was miserable.

6. You're a creative.

A lot of people who desire to go into marketing are creative types who just want to apply that creativity to their future career. Creatives can be more than artists; we have the ability to contribute great things to organizations, and it is often through marketing that we can do so.

When you're a marketing major, there are just some things you become extremely aware of, and you start to see the world through a different lens. Say what you want about people studying marketing, but it is essential to all organizations, and not just anyone can do it.

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