Why Do We Give A F*ck?
As Kelly Clarkson once sang, "I never stray too far from the sidewalk so I won't get hurt."
Can you remember being young and just not giving a crap? You wore what you wanted, you said what you meant, and didn't think about what people might think. Why does that change?
As we get older, there are things that happen that tear us down. Someone called you fat, or stupid. You were passionate about something and someone said 'that's unrealistic'. The older we get, the more we care, and the less we say and do what we really want, because of the fear of someone thinking negatively about us.
When we were young, we wore that princess dress to the supermarket or that tye dye sweatshirt every day to school in fifth grade. At some point, we realized that we should stop doing whatever the hell we want. It is wild that we all care so much about what other people are going to think of us WHEN EVERYONE is thinking that.
When are we going to realize that if you dance like an idiot, people aren't going to think you're weird, they are going to think, 'wow that's pretty cool that they don't care'. We are all holding our breath… and for what?
Break the rules, all of the greats did. Do you think Ruth Bader Ginsburg was worried about what people would think about her persistence for the abolition of sexist laws? How would things be different if Rosa Parks moved her seat on that bus without argument?
Start a movement, because movements and actions don't start until that one person decides to make a change, and everyone else realizes: okay, that's pretty awesome.
We've all had that crush but talked ourselves out of saying/doing anything about it because 'what happens if's begin to flood our consciousness. I'm not going to apply to that internship because I'm underqualified. How the hell do you know you won't get it?
The following is a reference from "Predatory Thinking" By David Trott. Actor Warren Beatty slept with A LOT of beautiful women. Someone asked how does he do it. He replied, "I ask every woman I meet if they will sleep with me." He continues to explain that he gets a lot of no's but he also gets a lot of yes's. "We are guaranteed failure but that is better than rejection' said David Trott. We instantly go to that place of 'oh what if they say no' but why don't we think, 'what if they say yes?' Now I'm not suggesting asking every person you're interested in to sleep with you but anything is good in moderation.
You have to ask yourself, what are you missing out on because you talked yourself out of it? You'll never regret doing something that you really wanted to. Even if it didn't go as planned, now you at least know the answer or have experienced something, learned from it, and can now soundly move on.
I know we have all heard this before and at this point you just want me to shut up. But hear me out. If you did one thing that scared you it could change your entire life, hopefully for the better.
