10 Signs Of Anxiety You And Everybody Else Should Know
I'll be fine? Gee, why didn't I think of that!
Anxiety, by definition, is "a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome." Everybody has moments where they feel anxious. However, as of 2015, roughly 40 million people in the United States population suffers from some form of anxiety disorders, not just anxious feelings. These are defined as nervous disorders characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks. This is when worry and fear become so constant and overwhelming that they interfere with your ability to function normally.
Mental health can be a difficult thing to talk about, whether you have been diagnosed with a mental illness or not. It can be confusing trying to understand how mental illnesses manifest themselves if you have no personal experience with them. As a person who has always felt a little off and has recently been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, I am here to shed a little light on the situation.
There are some common symptoms of anxiety disorders. I asked some of my friends who also suffer from an anxiety disorder to share their experience with me, from when they are having a panic attack, or just from their bad days with anxiety.
Here is a list of 10 things they all had in common:
1. Difficulty breathing
It can be hard to catch a breath, which is terrifying and makes you want to panic even more. It may also be difficult to take deep enough breaths to calm yourself.
2. Shaking
Uncontrollable shaking. It can be a slight shake, or it can be so bad that you can't stand or sit still.
3. Fidgeting
Fidgeting with your hair, sleeves, anything you can get your hands on. When I fidget, I mess with the bottom of my shirt or repeatedly rub a soft surface, which could be soft skin, fabric, anything.
4. Feeling extremely worried about the simplest things
A lot of the time, anxiety builds because a lot of things are piling up in your brain, so when the pile gets too high, the smallest addition can make it topple over and cause a panic attack.
5. Crying
From feeling overwhelmed, upset, angry, or just scared.
6. Getting flustered
Stuttering, words not coming out, face heating up from embarrassment, and the inability to do something how you want to do it because your brain feels like it is shutting down.
7. Mind-racing
So many thoughts fly around your head, usually much too fast for you to be able to linger on them. Or maybe your mind picks out one of those thoughts and twists it around, making you think about everything that could go wrong in that situation.
8. Feeling like you are going to (or already have) messed everything up
This usually leads to not wanting to do the thing at all. Maybe it is an assignment that you have been working on and trying to make it look how you want it to look, but it isn't happening, so you get so worked up about it that you give up.
Maybe you are in charge of doing something (anything from cleaning your room or doing homework to a task at work or a major task like ensuring that something important gets done). The more pressure is on the situation, the more anxious you are likely to feel about tackling it.
9. Rapid heart rate
It feels like your heart is going to explode out of your chest. It is painful and scary. This is probably the most common symptom of anxiety.
10. Feeling nauseous
When someone is having a panic attack, their stomach does flips and makes them feel like they are going to throw up and/or makes them feel dizzy.
These are just a few of the common symptoms, and there are many different ways anxiety manifests itself. Some of these may not apply to some people. This is just a general idea of what an anxiety disorder may look like. Some other symptoms may include obsessions and compulsions, sleep problems, body tension, and feeling like you are losing control.
I cannot tell you how many times I have been told, in the middle of a panic attack, that I need to "get over it" or that I'll be fine and it's all in my head. Yes, as a matter of fact, it is in my head. That alone makes it scarier than you can possibly imagine. My own brain is against me, and that thought alone makes me feel anxious and feel like something is wrong with me. Having a mental disability is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of an imbalance in the neurotransmitters that control your mood and behavior, which makes your brain chemistry look a lot different than the brain of someone without a mental disorder, specifically anxiety.
If you know someone with anxiety, the best thing you can do is be there for them. It helps so much to have someone to talk to, or even just somebody to hug. If you have anxiety, you are not alone. You can get through it. You are strong, and I believe in you.
Stop Obsessing Over Celebrities Who DON'T Use Their Power Or Influence For Good
Someone, please explain how the hell lip kits and palettes are going to help children with cleft lips and palates.
I love celebrity news and entertainment as much as the next girl (I actually wanted to be a gossip blogger for a while), but there's a thin line between lightheartedly scrolling through The Shade Room and dedicating hours upon hours of your life to following, liking, and commenting on everything your favorite celeb does. I see why some people fall in love with famous people: they're gorgeous, some are really funny, the majority are talented but most of all, they have the most idealistic lives ever. They get to travel to exotic places whenever they want, buy fancy cars and designer clothes, and get million-dollar gifts for their birthday. Celebrities seem to have it all, but that doesn't mean you should give them your all.
Over the years, I've seen people develop serious obsessions with celebrities. They buy all of their merchandise, make social media fan pages for them, spend thousands of dollars on meet-and-greets (which only last like five minutes, by the way) and will harass, bully, and target anyone who criticizes or challenges their beloved idols. Now I don't think it's wrong to like celebrities or engage with them, but I have to call these people out on their self-destructive behaviors because what they're doing is absolutely disadvantageous to them.
There are two problematic things that occur when fans become obsessed with celebrities:
1) They neglect their own autonomy. and they glorify in their idols (or alternatively, establish autonomy through living through celebrities, who have characteristics they lack within themselves) and
2) They devote their time, money, and energy to people who probably have no idea who they are and are physically incapable of genuinely caring about them.
Reason number one is one of the reasons why we have so many young girls and boys running around acting foolish, or claiming to be from a community/background which they are not. They think it's "cool" and imitate it because their favorite celeb does it. When people neglect their own autonomy, they stop thinking about what they genuinely like and value. Instead, their world becomes focused on what someone else likes and values. It's good to have role models, but people who develop obsessions with celebrities don't see them as role models anymore, they see them as who they want to be, literally, and when you transform into someone else, you leave yourself behind completely.Furthermore, I've been unable to shake the feeling that the influx of social media — and the greater obsession with celebrities it has encouraged — has led to our new age of bandwagoners. Social media has made it easier to follow celebrities' lives and have access to their opinions on certain subjects, which is both good and bad. A lot of people are able to remain unfazed by being overexposed to celebrities and social media personalities, while others become obsessed with doing anything to establish a lifestyle like the famous people they follow. Because of this, we're facing an epidemic of people attention-seeking (or "clout chasing") and going along with any idea and believing anything, simply because someone who has more followers and influence thinks it.
It's quite tragic.
However, reason #2 is most problematic in my opinion, and is the main reason I even wrote this article: most celebs are doing nothing to give back to fans. Yes, they provide great music, acting, entertainment, etc; but, I'm talking about giving back to fans in a way that makes a concrete difference in their lives and community (making us laugh or feel good is great, but that only goes so far and can only do so much).
Let's look at some of the most popular celebrities at the moment.
Kylie Jenner
She has over 100 million followers on Instagram, so clearly, people love her. My only question is why do they love her so much? She's pretty and has allegedly — high-quality makeup (I've never used any products, so I can't vouch for that), but that doesn't call for her to be worshipped and idolized in the manner that she is. It also isn't a valid reason for why some fans go batshit crazy whenever something negative about her is said. Her followers buy her products, follow her every move, and support her endlessly... All for what? In terms of her involvement, she rarely uses her wealth or platform to do anything remotely beneficial. Her only documented instance of philanthropy was donating lip kits to Smile Train.
Yes, lip kits.
Someone, please explain how the hell lip kits are going to help children with cleft lips and palates.
Post Malone
At least Kylie Jenner tried to do something charitable. Post Malone has literally done nothing.
I'm serious, like nothing.
I guess we can count his music and concerts as a way of giving back, but it still doesn't call for the intense stanning and overwhelming support.
Cardi B
Cardi B is by far one of the hottest rappers out right now. Her fan base is huge and they're quite vocal about their undying love for her. #BardiGang, as they're called, is almost as bad as the #Beyhive with how quick they are to drag, bully, and harass anyone who has anything negative to say about the rapstress. They've made dozens of fan pages in her honor and have taken the personal liberty to devote a lot of their time to dispelling rumors about her, doing damage control, etc.
If I didn't know any better, I would think they're being paid by her, or at the very least, that they have some sort of personal relationship with the celeb. But we all know that's not true.
Unlike the other two celebs, Cardi has actually been vocal about not giving back to the community and has only been recorded doing one charitable effort, which was to donate $8000 to the family of Lesandro Guzman-Feliz, a young boy who was brutally stabbed to death in New York City. I'm glad she did something at least but is it enough to warrant extreme idolization?
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Now call me crazy, but it seems like for the amount of money and support that fans spew out to celebrities, that they are getting very little in return.
I don't mean that people shouldn't follow or support their favorite artists, I'm suggesting that they tone it down a bit. It looks absolutely pathetic to pour so much of yourself into someone who doesn't even know that you exist. A person who is benefiting and profiting off of the attention they receive from having a large fanbase, only to not do anything that enriches the lives of that same fanbase, either through philanthropy, social activism, or any other positive means.
Not only that, but superfans — and even just society in general — glorify these people and make it look like we should aspire to be them, but many don't have any outstanding or remarkable characteristics that call for it. Why are some put on a pedestal when they aren't much different from the average person? There are lots of women that are beautiful, so what other great characteristics does Kylie Jenner have that justifies her idolization?
There are tons of amazing rappers out there (many of which are unknown), so what separates Post Malone and Cardi B from the rest. What qualifies them for glorification?
Where are their revolutionary characteristics? The way people devote their lives to these celebrities, you would think they were Jesus and that's exactly the problem. If people are going to put these people on a pedestal, it needs to be for good reasons, not for shallow and simple-minded ones.
If we're going to stan any celebrities, let's glorify Ashton Kutcher, who developed an organization that is helping to save children from sex trafficking. Or we could stan Lebron James, who built a school for urban youth, and Colin Kaepernick, who has donated thousands of dollars to important causes. Hell, we could even stan twerk sensation, Miley Cyrus, who has an organization focused on helping homeless youth.
THESE are celebs who deserve to be put on a pedestal. THESE are celebs that are remarkable, who are talented and who give a fuck about the people who support them.
I'm sick of people being mindless followers and wasting more energy on other people than themselves... especially if those people are so out of touch with reality that they forget they're extremely privileged compared to other people, and that they have the ability to do something amazing with their privilege... if they only tried.