Why Society Still Doesn't Respect Women

In This Day And Age, Women Still Aren't Respected, It's Been Time For A Long Time That We Change That

It's been time for a long that we show women the respect they deserve. #TimesUp #SetTheExpectation

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We can be clear on two things: First, women still aren't getting the respect they deserve to have, and it's been time (for a long time) that we change this narrative.

The U.S. president's supreme court nomination (Brett Kavanaugh) has been under fire about sexual assault allegations from when he was in high school by three different women. Dr. Christine Blasey Ford has testified and I'm proud of her for stepping up to the plate. Kavanaugh also has testified and has been in denial about any kind of sexual contact with all three of them.

Regardless of whether or not Brett Kavanaugh committed this act, we are better off believing the claims made by the women, rather than telling them that the accused person could never do that, or that they shouldn't report things like this. It's wrong to immediately dismiss such claims or push them off to the side and enable this kind of behavior.

The problem that clearly exists is this: with certain people in power, these women are powerless to speak up when they have been sexually assaulted in the past. When they do come out with their story though, whether the allegation is denied by the accused, admitted, or deflected all together, accusers feel threatened after coming forward, and others who have been through such experiences but haven't come forward yet submit to that fear and don't come forward.

You know it's a problem, especially since the commander-in-chief thinks he can get away with as much [bleep] as he wants, such as this; furthermore, there are so many soundbites out there of him being disrespectful to women, whether it's muttering them under his breath (inexplicably, those right by him smiled as he said what he said), or saying them out loud ([coughs, as well as over social media]). You also know it's a problem when survivors like Brenda Tracy are being told that they're "terrible human beings."

When Mollie Tibbetts' life was taken too soon, it's because she turned down a man's desires to make advances on her. Her feelings weren't respected and it makes women feel like they can't say 'no'. They should never be afraid to say 'no', but they are afraid of it because of situations like this that took the life of a woman who had a bright future to come. Instead, people were mourning her death because of something that could have easily been avoided.

When the situation between Courtney Smith and former Ohio State assistant football coach Zach Smith came to light, it was handled in a less than satisfactory way. When Zach Smith was working at Florida, one of the football staff members at the University of Florida discouraged Courtney from pursuing charges, because Zach's career was apparently more important than Courtney's dignity.

Instances like these are EXACTLY why women fear coming forward about past abuses they've dealt with, and why they don't feel like they are believed. It's time that we believe them because we will be better off if we do.

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Women are still called sluts and body-shamed to this day for what they wear, regardless of the occasion.

Women are basically told that 'they asked for it' when asked about what they wore if they were sexually assaulted.

Women are still inappropriately touched by strangers when they're out with friends or told to 'smile more' when they're working at restaurants as servers.

Women are called 'gold-diggers' and 'attention-seekers'. But, just because you report something that has happened to you doesn't mean you're seeking attention, nor does it necessarily mean you're trying to get money from someone.

Women are still told that their bodies and looks are more important than their brains.

Women are still told that 'he would never do that to you." But he did it.

Women are still told that their voices aren't important.

Women who have come forward about being sexually assaulted are still called 'liars'. Because of this,...

Women still feel like they're powerless.

Until this stops, the problem that women still aren't respected will continue to exist.

None of this is the woman's fault. Rather, it's the fault of those in positions of power who deem that it's okay to be disrespectful, abusive, neglectful, manipulative, dishonest, deflective, in denial, or to silence women from letting the truth come out. Hush-money doesn't change the fact that they did something wrong. Denial and deflection only go so far. Those in positions of power will very seldom understand the negative impact of their words and actions.

Let me tell you this: If you didn't have a brain, you wouldn't be alive. Your brain IS important. Let's use our BRAINS to think, to think about what we can do to be part of the solution rather than the problem. #SetTheExpectation

You shouldn't tell a woman that her brain is less important than her body, and you definitely shouldn't discourage her from reporting a sexual assault case. Women still aren't getting the respect they deserve to have, and it's been time for a long time that we change this narrative.

#TimesUp

#ItsOnUs

Let's #SetTheExpectation

What does it take to respect the women in our world? Apparently, it takes years of abuse, disrespect, neglect, manipulation, and silencing. The last, I checked, none of those behaviors are respectful in any way.

Before you attack me for making this political or calling me a 'leftist', or anything of that kind, let me tell you that this is not a political matter at all. This is a human matter. A moral matter.

Yes, you ARE innocent until proven guilty, and Kavanaugh hasn't yet been found guilty, but at the same time, we must believe all the stories that are testified both through the media and under oath, until they are concluded to be true or indeterminable, and continue to believe all victims even after the verdict comes out. We CAN do both of these things while showing women the respect that they deserve. It's time that we do.

#TimesUp

#ItsOnUs

Let's #SetTheExpectation

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This Is How Your Same-Sex Marriage Affects Me As A Catholic Woman

I hear you over there, Bible Bob.
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It won't.

Wait, what?

I promise you did read that right. Not what you were expecting me to say, right? Who another person decides to marry will never in any way affect my own marriage whatsoever. Unless they try to marry the person that I want to, then we might have a few problems.

As a kid, I was raised, baptized, and confirmed into an old school Irish Catholic church in the middle of a small, midwestern town.

Not exactly a place that most people would consider to be very liberal or open-minded. Despite this I was taught to love and accept others as a child, to not cast judgment because the only person fit to judge was God. I learned this from my Grandpa, a man whose love of others was only rivaled by his love of sweets and spoiling his grandkids.

While I learned this at an early age, not everyone else in my hometown — or even within my own church — seemed to get the memo. When same-sex marriage was finally legalized country-wide, I cried tears of joy for some of my closest friends who happen to be members of the LGBTQ community.

I was happy while others I knew were disgusted and even enraged.

"That's not what it says in the bible! Marriage is between a man and a woman!"

"God made Adam and Eve for a reason! Man shall not lie with another man as he would a woman!"

"Homosexuality is a sin! It's bad enough that they're all going to hell, now we're letting them marry?"

Alright, Bible Bob, we get it, you don't agree with same-sex relationships. Honestly, that's not the issue. One of our civil liberties as United States citizens is the freedom of religion. If you believe your religion doesn't support homosexuality that's OK.

What isn't OK is thinking that your religious beliefs should dictate others lives.

What isn't OK is using your religion or your beliefs to take away rights from those who chose to live their life differently than you.

Some members of my church are still convinced that their marriage now means less because people are free to marry whoever they want to. Honestly, I wish I was kidding. Tell me again, Brenda how exactly do Steve and Jason's marriage affect yours and Tom's?

It doesn't. Really, it doesn't affect you at all.

Unless Tom suddenly starts having an affair with Steve their marriage has zero effect on you. You never know Brenda, you and Jason might become best friends by the end of the divorce. (And in that case, Brenda and Tom both need to go to church considering the bible also teaches against adultery and divorce.)

I'll say it one more time for the people in the back: same-sex marriage does not affect you even if you or your religion does not support it. If you don't agree with same-sex marriage then do not marry someone of the same sex. Really, it's a simple concept.

It amazes me that I still actually have to discuss this with some people in 2017. And it amazes me that people use God as a reason to hinder the lives of others.

As a proud young Catholic woman, I wholeheartedly support the LGBTQ community with my entire being.

My God taught me to not hold hate so close to my heart. He told me not to judge and to accept others with open arms. My God taught me to love and I hope yours teaches you the same.

Disclaimer - This article in no way is meant to be an insult to the Bible or religion or the LGBTQ community.

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