In This Day And Age, Women Still Aren't Respected, It's Been Time For A Long Time That We Change That

In This Day And Age, Women Still Aren't Respected, It's Been Time For A Long Time That We Change That

It's been time for a long that we show women the respect they deserve. #TimesUp #SetTheExpectation

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We can be clear on two things: First, women still aren't getting the respect they deserve to have, and it's been time (for a long time) that we change this narrative.

The U.S. president's supreme court nomination (Brett Kavanaugh) has been under fire about sexual assault allegations from when he was in high school by three different women. Dr. Christine Blasey Ford has testified and I'm proud of her for stepping up to the plate. Kavanaugh also has testified and has been in denial about any kind of sexual contact with all three of them.

Regardless of whether or not Brett Kavanaugh committed this act, we are better off believing the claims made by the women, rather than telling them that the accused person could never do that, or that they shouldn't report things like this. It's wrong to immediately dismiss such claims or push them off to the side and enable this kind of behavior.

The problem that clearly exists is this: with certain people in power, these women are powerless to speak up when they have been sexually assaulted in the past. When they do come out with their story though, whether the allegation is denied by the accused, admitted, or deflected all together, accusers feel threatened after coming forward, and others who have been through such experiences but haven't come forward yet submit to that fear and don't come forward.

You know it's a problem, especially since the commander-in-chief thinks he can get away with as much [bleep] as he wants, such as this; furthermore, there are so many soundbites out there of him being disrespectful to women, whether it's muttering them under his breath (inexplicably, those right by him smiled as he said what he said), or saying them out loud ([coughs, as well as over social media]). You also know it's a problem when survivors like Brenda Tracy are being told that they're "terrible human beings."

When Mollie Tibbetts' life was taken too soon, it's because she turned down a man's desires to make advances on her. Her feelings weren't respected and it makes women feel like they can't say 'no'. They should never be afraid to say 'no', but they are afraid of it because of situations like this that took the life of a woman who had a bright future to come. Instead, people were mourning her death because of something that could have easily been avoided.

When the situation between Courtney Smith and former Ohio State assistant football coach Zach Smith came to light, it was handled in a less than satisfactory way. When Zach Smith was working at Florida, one of the football staff members at the University of Florida discouraged Courtney from pursuing charges, because Zach's career was apparently more important than Courtney's dignity.

Instances like these are EXACTLY why women fear coming forward about past abuses they've dealt with, and why they don't feel like they are believed. It's time that we believe them because we will be better off if we do.

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Women are still called sluts and body-shamed to this day for what they wear, regardless of the occasion.

Women are basically told that 'they asked for it' when asked about what they wore if they were sexually assaulted.

Women are still inappropriately touched by strangers when they're out with friends or told to 'smile more' when they're working at restaurants as servers.

Women are called 'gold-diggers' and 'attention-seekers'. But, just because you report something that has happened to you doesn't mean you're seeking attention, nor does it necessarily mean you're trying to get money from someone.

Women are still told that their bodies and looks are more important than their brains.

Women are still told that 'he would never do that to you." But he did it.

Women are still told that their voices aren't important.

Women who have come forward about being sexually assaulted are still called 'liars'. Because of this,...

Women still feel like they're powerless.

Until this stops, the problem that women still aren't respected will continue to exist.

None of this is the woman's fault. Rather, it's the fault of those in positions of power who deem that it's okay to be disrespectful, abusive, neglectful, manipulative, dishonest, deflective, in denial, or to silence women from letting the truth come out. Hush-money doesn't change the fact that they did something wrong. Denial and deflection only go so far. Those in positions of power will very seldom understand the negative impact of their words and actions.

Let me tell you this: If you didn't have a brain, you wouldn't be alive. Your brain IS important. Let's use our BRAINS to think, to think about what we can do to be part of the solution rather than the problem. #SetTheExpectation

You shouldn't tell a woman that her brain is less important than her body, and you definitely shouldn't discourage her from reporting a sexual assault case. Women still aren't getting the respect they deserve to have, and it's been time for a long time that we change this narrative.

#TimesUp

#ItsOnUs

Let's #SetTheExpectation

What does it take to respect the women in our world? Apparently, it takes years of abuse, disrespect, neglect, manipulation, and silencing. The last, I checked, none of those behaviors are respectful in any way.

Before you attack me for making this political or calling me a 'leftist', or anything of that kind, let me tell you that this is not a political matter at all. This is a human matter. A moral matter.

Yes, you ARE innocent until proven guilty, and Kavanaugh hasn't yet been found guilty, but at the same time, we must believe all the stories that are testified both through the media and under oath, until they are concluded to be true or indeterminable, and continue to believe all victims even after the verdict comes out. We CAN do both of these things while showing women the respect that they deserve. It's time that we do.

#TimesUp

#ItsOnUs

Let's #SetTheExpectation

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6 Things You Should Know About The Woman Who Can't Stand Modern Feminism

Yes, she wants to be heard too.

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2018 is sort of a trap for this woman. She believes in women with all of the fire inside of her, but it is hard for her to offer support when people are making fools of themselves and disguising it as feminism.

The fact of the matter is that women possess qualities that men don't and men possess qualities that women don't. That is natural. Plus, no one sees men parading the streets in penis costumes complaining that they don't get to carry their own fetus for nine months.

1. She really loves and values women.

She is incredibly proud to be a woman.

She knows the amount of power than a woman's presence alone can hold. She sees when a woman walks into a room and makes the whole place light up. She begs that you won't make her feel like a "lady hater" because she doesn't want to follow a trend that she doesn't agree with.

2. She wants equality, too

She has seen the fundamental issues in the corporate world, where women and men are not receiving equal pay.

She doesn't cheer on the businesses that don't see women and men as equivalents. But she does recognize that if she works her butt off, she can be as successful as she wants to.

3. She wears a bra.

While she knows the "I don't have to wear a bra for society" trend isn't a new one, but she doesn't quite get it. Like maybe she wants to wear a bra because it makes her feel better. Maybe she wears a bra because it is the normal things to do... And that's OK.

Maybe she wants to put wear a lacy bra and pretty makeup to feel girly on .a date night. She is confused by the women who claim to be "fighting for women," because sometimes they make her feel bad for expressing her ladyhood in a different way than them.

4. She hates creeps just as much as you do. .

Just because she isn't a feminist does not mean that she is cool with the gruesome reality that 1 in 5 women are sexually abused.

In fact, this makes her stomach turn inside out to think about. She knows and loves people who have been through such a tragedy and wants to put the terrible, creepy, sexually charged criminals behind bars just as bad as the next woman.

Remember that just because she isn't a feminist doesn't mean she thinks awful men can do whatever they want.

5. There is a reason she is ashamed of 2018's version of feminism.

She looks at women in history who have made a difference and is miserably blown away by modern feminism's performance.

Not only have women in the past won themselves the right to vote, but also the right to buy birth control and have credit cards in their names and EVEN saw marital rape become a criminal offense.

None of them dressed in vagina costumes to win anyone over though... Crazy, right?

6. She isn't going to dress in a lady parts costume to prove a point.

This leaves her speechless. It is like the women around her have absolutely lost their minds and their agendas, only lessening their own credibility.

"Mom, what are those ladies on TV dressed up as?"

"Ummm... it looks to me like they are pink taco's honey."

She loves who she is and she cherished what makes her different from the men around her. She doesn't want to compromise who she is as a woman just so she can be "equal with men."

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Yes, I'm A Feminist, And You Should Be Too

"The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are."
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

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Until my college years, I witnessed the way women were treated every day and I hated it. Women were looked down in the most condescending way and it really affected my self-esteem as a girl for ages because of this. Most countries in Africa, due to the history of its culture, mostly have a patriarchal society; now this would have been great if we were still in the 1800's but right now, it is really frustrating. When a girl is born she is trained all her life to be the "perfect woman" and wife for when she gets married. She is not taken seriously if she does not have a man beside her which is why most times, men intimidate women with marriage if she does not behave as is accepted. She is literally expected to ignore her inner dreams and goals in order to do what society expects of her.

I believe as humans we are all equal.

God or whatever higher power you believe in created us with the same bodily features, excluding people who are disabled. In that case, no man is higher than any woman whatsoever, everybody deserves to be treated equally. No one deserves to be discriminated because the society decided eons ago that women were too "weak' to handle certain situations. Meanwhile, the midterm elections we recently had disproved this fact. A large number of women who ran for political seats showed that women were willing to break boundaries in order to prove our potential to want to add to change in the world and nothing was going to stop us.

Feminism is not just for women alone.

If you are human with emotions and you check the news online, you would see daily reports of women being oppressed around the world. Men should also be open to seeing the discrimination happening against women happening around them, they don't have to wait for it to personally happen to them before they get the urge to act against it.

It is the 21st century, women are not just born to play roles as "baby makers" and to take care of the family. We have dreams and goals we want to achieve. Some of us dream to be president one day, some of us wish to own our own billion-dollar companies one day. The responsibility to make the world a better place does not rest on the shoulders of just one gender, it rests on everyone irrespective of it.

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