Ariana Grande Was Groped At Aretha Franklin's Funeral By A Pastor, And Somehow People Blamed Her

Ariana Grande Was Groped At Aretha Franklin's Funeral By A Pastor, And Somehow People Blamed Her

A scummy pastor who couldn't keep his hands to himself had no right to soil such a reverent occasion.


For those of you who missed out on this debacle, I'll give you the brief run down. On August 31st, 2018, Ariana Grande performed alongside several other names at Aretha Franklin's funeral. Several big names were in attendance such as Bill Clinton, Tyler Perry, Faith Hill and many more. The service was utterly humbling for not only those in attendance, but also those that loved her music. Barack Obama even wrote a letter to Aretha Franklin's family, stating, "Aretha's work reflected the very best of the American story."

One of the many stars in attendance was none other than Ariana Grande. The 25 year old sang a rendition of Aretha Franklin's "(You Make Me Feel Like) A Natural Woman." Watching the video from the funeral, it is clear to see that everyone in attendance was very moved. Her performance, at least in my opinion, was an incredible tribute to Ms. Franklin's memory. Upon completion of the song, Ariana Granda stood beside Pastor Charles Ellis at the pulpit.

Ellis, perhaps unintentionally, belittled Ariana Grande, saying "When I saw your name on the program, I thought it was a new item at Taco Bell." This joke is not only insensitive, but potentially racist. Ariana Grande seemed a little taken aback by that bizarre comment, but what followed was much worse. As he was apparently trying to recovery from his joke, his hand that was originally placed at Grande's waist slowly started traveling up her side. His fingers eventually landed on the side of her breast.

In the video, Ariana Grande looks particularly uncomfortable, but seemingly paralyzed by fear. In the 30 seconds that it took for the subtle assault to take place, Ariana Grande goes from her sweet, bubbly personality to a closed off, terrified woman that had just been groped on national television. You may find yourself saying, "Did he really grope her? Maybe it was an accident." No way. She clearly tries to step away from him, but his fingers continue to roam.

After an uproar on social media, Pastor Ellis had a statement to make concerning the alleged grope, "It would never be my intention to touch any woman's breast. ... I don't know, I guess I put my arm around her." Some viewed this apology as a cop out, a weak apology, a way to escape the pressure he was feeling, and personally, I completely agree. Anyone that has seen the video of their interaction can clearly tell that Ariana Grande was severely uncomfortable, but the pastor's hands remained on the side of her breast.

The video has circulated like wildfire, causing a range of responses. Many of them can be found on Twitter under the hashtag #RespectAriana. Yet, though Grande has received an outpouring of love and support, many have not been so kind. One Twitter user stated that if her dress had not been so short, she would have been respected. Others have wondered why she didn't speak up, shove the pastor away, or otherwise react. To that I say, some people do not have the reaction to fight back. More often than we'd like to believe, the initial reaction is to freeze, to want the inappropriate touch to stop as soon as possible.

In this situation, Ariana Grande was absolutely in the middle of a freeze response. When the threat is too great to outrun or fight back against, or if the situation prevents you from doing either of the two options, you freeze. So why are we shaming Ariana Grande for the situation? Her clothes do not dictate her consent. You don't ask clothes for consent, you ask people. Someone's body is their own, and no one has a right to it. Through to #MeToo movement, we have seen so many individuals come forward with their own stories. Let this be a teachable moment.

Until we view women as autonomous beings that have a right to their own bodies, nothing will change. That pastor was utterly wrong for what he did, and based on that video, there is no other reality than the fact that he did indeed grope her. Ariana Grande's dress had nothing to do with her assault, a greedy, selfish man with no concept of respect did. That was sexual assault, end of story. There is no excuse for him, and I hope this is a wake up call to everyone around the world.

#RespectAriana #MeToo

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12 Starbucks Iced Drinks You NEED In Your Life This Summer

Must-try beverages brought to you by your local barista.

Be kind to your baristas, they can make you some pretty great drinks. With the temperature rising and the days getting longer, it's approaching the time to find your summer staple to keep you cool (and caffeinated) over the next few months.

Starbucks offers a wide variety of cold beverages that really hit the spot during the summer months, from espresso drinks to fraps, smoothies, teas and refreshers. As a Starbucks barista, I've had the opportunity to taste most drinks on the menu and receive feedback from customers on the do's and don'ts of cold beverages.

While this is not an exhaustive list, I pulled together some of my favorites to give you, the "Ultimate Starbucks Iced Beverage Bucket List for 2017" that you MUST try this season:

1. Pink Drink

Three words: Basic white girl. If you want a photogenic drink that tastes like a Starburst and makes baristas happy, the Pink Drink is for you. It's a pretty simple beverage... this Strawberry Acai Refresher combined with Coconutmilk is sure to satisfy your hipster needs.

2. Iced White Mocha

This sinfully sweet iced espresso drink is not only one of the most popular beverages on the menu, but sure to wake you up at any time of day. Jazz it up by asking for half white chocolate, half mocha sauce, topped with a mocha drizzle, and you've got yourself an Iced Tuxedo Mocha!

3. Doubleshot on Ice

If nothing else, this quick pick-me-up looks classy while giving you the energy boost you need to get through the day. With two shots of espresso, a bit of milk and classic syrup, this drink is easy to enjoy in little time... it's like a caffeine I.V.!

4. Iced Caramel Machiatto

Surprise, surprise... Caramel Machiattos are actually made with vanilla syrup. Nonetheless, these espresso-topped beverages are absolutely delicious at any time of year, but summer calls for ice! Want to change things up? Ask your barista to make it with half vanilla syrup, half toffee nut syrup to make an Iced Salted Caramel Machiatto!

5. Very Berry Hibiscus Refresher

A sister to the Pink Drink, the Very Berry Hibiscus Refresher is a fruit juice-blackberry combo that makes for a pretty chilled beverage to enjoy on the go. The caffeine content is minimal, making it a great option for any time of day.

6. Vanilla Sweet Cream Cold Brew

Cold Brew is basically Starbucks' version of a smoother-tasting iced coffee with more caffeine. The Vanilla Sweet Cream Cold Brew is a standard drink topped with vanilla-flavored heavy cream to create a sweet taste and a marbled appearance in the beverage. Want something with flavor, but not in the mood for vanilla? Try the Toasted Coconut Cold Brew!

7. Mango Black Tea Lemonade

The Mango Black Tea Lemonade is one of the most popular drinks on the menu. Iced Teavana tea mixed with mango syrup and lemonade makes for the perfect combination

8. Iced Chai Tea Latte

Iced Chais - sound so sophisticated, yet so simple to make. If you order this drink, there is a 10/10 chance that your barista will love you for it. Milk mixed with a sweet and spicy chai syrup makes for a classy drink that can be enjoyed at any time of day.

9. Iced Cinnamon Almondmilk Machiatto

The identifying characteristic that makes a macchiato, well, a macchiato is that the espresso shots are poured on top of the milk and flavoring. Starbucks' Iced Cinnamon Almondmilk Machiatto is a combination of cinnamon dolce syrup and almondmilk topped with espresso shots, a caramel drizzle and a cinnamon dolce topping to create a delicious dairy-free option in the macchiato family.

10. Sunset Refresher

This secret menu drink is fairly simple to make with a cool lime base, lemonade, lime slices, and ice topped with black tea. When finished, the drink will have an ombré appearance that makes it totally picture-worthy!

11. Iced Caffè Americano

Calling all espresso lovers: Americanos are a Starbucks signature. The drink itself is pretty simple - espresso and water topped with ice, but if you're feeling particularly adventurous, you can mix things up with a flavored syrup. This drink is sure to wake you right up, no matter the time of day.

12. Strawberry Lemonade

Want something cold but not feeling coffee or a frap? Frozen Strawberry Lemonade is definitely worth a try! While this drink is not on the menu, most baristas are happy to make it upon request. Just ask for a combination of strawberry flavoring, lemonade, and ice blended together for a slushie-like beverage!

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A Love Letter To My Air Fryer

And why you would love an fryer too...


In a previous article, I wrote about how love to use for organizing things. I'm still loving Trello. I've haven't grown bored of it and stopped using it (like I have with some other organizational systems). This time, I'm going to share another item that I love, and it's for one of my favorite things, food! I finally gave in and bought an air fryer, and after my first use, I literally said that it's wonderful! I bought a small air fryer. It only holds about two quarts, but it's perfect for quick lunches.

I thought I'd love the air fryer if it could dry fry food with little to no oil, and it does just that. I'm also in love with the air fryer, because I could simply put the food in it, set the timer and live my life for a few minutes until the food is done. I don't have to stand over it and watch the food cook. That makes the air fryer a winner! Did I mention that it really does work?! Yes, it does work. Now, you could buy foods that are already breaded and throw them in the air fryer, but if you want to go the healthier route, you can use bread crumbs, flour, and eggs to make your own crispy coatings for your foods. Dipping your food in your own homemade batter cuts out some of the salt and added chemicals in the frozen pre-fried foods.

You can also fry foods that do not even need a homemade batter. Without using the batter, I've made sweet potato French fries and burritos in it. The tortilla for the burrito turned out nicely crispy, but I didn't leave it in the air fryer long enough for it to be crunchy. The sweet potato fries came out nice. I've tried making crispy chickpeas with Italian seasoning, but they weren't to my liking. However, I have loved everything else that I've made in the air fryer. Sometimes I just put a quick meal in it, just to re-heat it, since I don't use a microwave. I just think that using the air fryer is healthier than using microwaves, and I love that I don't need to put my food in a special box or anything for it to be really crispy. If you love fried chicken or fried fish, you'd love this little machine as much as I do!

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