Parenting styles impact children

It Doesn't Matter How Your Parents Raise You, It's Just Important To Know They Love You

Each family has their own way of raising their kids.


Everyone has grown up in a different place with different parents who choose to raise their children differently. Some people had parents that didn't really care what their children did. Other people grew up with parents were a lot stricter about where their children went, what time they came home, and who they were spending time with.

Just like everything in life, there are pros and cons to both of these parenting styles. In my 19 years, I have observed a few things about people who grew up with strict parents. Sometimes the children have that desire to do the things they want, so a sneaky child is created. They sneak out or lie about what they're doing because they don't want their parents to tell them no. Or a strict parent can create a child who doesn't really care to go out or do anything. Since they never really went and did things growing up, they tend to stick to this lifestyle even when they are older.

But lenient parents can also lead to a sneaky, wild child. Depending on how laid back the parents are, this can also create a disrespectful person who doesn't understand the concept of consequences and discipline.

Let's be real, most of us grew up with strict parents, but either way, it really shows how we were raised.

If we're being honest, the only way to get a real answer is to ask the parents themselves. If I had to guess, I would say that it's because the parents are just scared of what their children could get into if they don't monitor their lives.

On the other hand, I believe that some parents are more laid back because they just want to be their child's friend. They don't want to tell them no and cause a rift in the relationship so they just kind of let them do what they want to do.

At the end of the day, whichever way our parents chose to raise us is part of what makes us who we are today. There are probably tons of reasons why parents chose to raise their children the way they do, but everything is usually done out of love.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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