Not Everyone Is Good At The Same Things & That Is OK

Not Everyone Is Good At The Same Things & That Is OK

Some of our distinguishing characteristics as human beings are just how unique and special we are.


People are constantly being told that everyone can be anything they want.

That is an awesome thing to think about, isn't it? I can pick any career or lifestyle path in front of me and be good at it with a little hard work and dedication.

The sad reality to this is that that is actually the case.

As human beings, we are each unique and different in our own ways. We have different likes, dislikes, aspirations, skills, etc. Some people are quick to understand math equations and science experiments, others are amazing storytellers both visually and in writing.

Some of our distinguishing characteristics as human beings are just how unique and special we are. So why try to take that away?

Equality is great. Between all people and creatures of this earth. Everyone having a FAIR CHANCE at being what they want to be is so incredibly important. But, not everyone is going to succeed at everything they do, and that is absolutely fine.

Hard work and dedication goes a long way, but if you aren't equipped with the skills you need to be a front-runner in that career field, and truly succeed, then you probably won't.

Telling people only hard work and dedication will get them anywhere is sometimes problematic. For example, my parents wanted me to be a basketball player in high school. They thought if I just tried harder, and worked harder, I would end up getting better. The truth is, I just didn't have the aggressive enough attitude, and running and dribbling just wasn't my thing.

I moved on to discover that I was really good at volleyball, making the varsity team as a freshman, and playing throughout high school. And I enjoyed it. I had the skills, and I had the mentality. By failing at one thing, I found the thing I actually was good at and wanted to do.

It is important to realize that while you might not succeed at everything you attempt to do, but every failure brings you closer to what you are supposed to be doing and what you are capable of doing.

We are all made with our individual abilities, skills, and passions, and that is the beauty of this life we live. We are all designed to do different things and not be forced into boxes. Yeah, it isn't the greatest when we really want something but it turns out we aren't so great at it.

It is important to realize, though, that you are unique and different and hard work and dedication are important, but doing what you love and what you are good at is just as important and will carry you further to success.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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