5 Things I Gained After Joining A Sorority

5 Things I Gained After Joining A Sorority

2. Authentic bonds I always yearned for

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Before going through recruitment, I had mixed feelings about being in a sorority. I always found it intriguing because, as much as I love my brother, I yearned to have a sister. At the same time, I was familiar with the stereotypes and didn't want to end up being a stuck-up, air-headed, help-I-just-broke-a-nail, foo-foo girl. Nevertheless, I decided to sign up for formal recruitment, and boy, am I glad I did. Here are 5 things I gained after joining my sorority.

1. Sisters I never had

I can't believe how quickly I became close with girls I never would've met if it weren't for joining my house. My sisters and I all have individual interests, passions, and backgrounds, yet each and every one of us love each other so well. They all inspire me with their drive, persistence, and compassion.

My sisters give me guidance, a safe space to share all of my biggest secrets and most embarrassing moments, and companionship when I need it most.

Of course, not every day is picture-perfect, but what I love about sisterhood is that at the end of the day, we know we will always have each other's backs.

2. Authentic bonds I always yearned for

My first semester of college, most of the friendships I made seemed pretty superficial. It wasn't that my friends didn't have substance; moreover, we were more friends because it was convenient. We met because we lived in the same hall, were in the same club, or had a class together. I loved these friends, but they weren't the people I felt comfortable having deep conversations with.

After joining my sorority, I found my best friends. I found both people who saw life in a similar way as me and people who offered different perspectives. I found study buddies, coffee dates, shoulders to cry on, and people to laugh with. I found people whom with I could obsess over Nutella in one moment and be talking about our biggest insecurities in the next. I found people who I could truly play my favorite music for in the car, not just some playlist I play because I think it's what other people like.

I found people who let their guards down, giving me the confidence to do the same. I found people who loved me for my authentic self.

3. A ton of new clothes

On Bid Day, Big-Little Reveal, and Initiation, I received baskets overflowing with clothes, canvases, and all sorts of fun items that had to do with my sorority and/or my school. I felt so vintage rocking a shirt from a 2002 philanthropy event, and I felt so connected to a graduated sister of mine when I put on a pin someone saved from when she ran for president of student government.

Now, I can't wait to pass on my clothes and other fun mementos to future members.

4. A sense of place

When I wanted to go to the dining hall, my first semester of college, it was so stressful trying to find people with coordinating schedules to eat with me. Once I switched to my sorority's meal plan, I didn't have to worry anymore. I could eat breakfast, lunch, or dinner any time within the dining hours and know I'd be able to sit by and talk to anyone. I always felt comfortable and accepted in my home--something I waited a long time to feel.

Even before I lived in the house, I could go over and study, lounge on a futon, or eat from the snack kitchen. I never felt alone, even if the sisters I normally spent time with weren't home. I felt such a sense of belonging in my new community. I felt needed.

5. A home away from home

I am so thankful to feel like I have a family and a purpose both in my hometown and at school. While my sorority alone is not what gave me confidence, the amazing people I met through joining my house gave me more than I could have ever asked for. As cheesy as it sounds, going Greek helped me find my home.

Almost a year after joining my house, I feel overwhelmingly thankful for each of the unbelievably empowering women I've met, and I feel even more blessed to have the privilege of calling them my sisters. They all set an amazing example of love, acceptance, and inspiration, and I hope I can give them at least half of that in return.

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7 Reasons You Should Order A Vodka/Water/Lime When You're Out

There’s a reason the Vodka/Water/Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every weekend.
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We’ve all been through it. Whether it was sometime in high school, out freshman year of college or the day we turned 21, at some point you have or will tried to order a drink while you’re out on the town. I’m here to end all the experimentation, and give you a go-to drink that is sweeping across college campuses everywhere, the Vodka-Water-Lime, and the reasons why, are clear to see.

1. It will keep you hydrated

It may seem trivial but hydration is key if you’re planning on drinking any amount any time, or so I have been told. But let’s face it, biology grants us the ability to chug concoctions called 4-Lokos with ease while drinking the recommended amount of water per day almost impossible. The drink that solves both issues—Vodka-Water-Lime.

2. It doesn't taste that bad

I’ll admit I was a little skeptical at first, but this drink isn’t that bad to swallow, especially when you think about some of the other things you could be drinking. There’s a reason why the only way people can drink tequila is in shot from or in a lime slushy. As the old saying goes: if you drink enough everything just tastes like water, and this one already has water in it!

3. It gets you drunk

That’s right. It does the job. Isn’t that really all we want in a drink anyway, everything else is just trivial.

4. It establishes immediate common-ground

What is that girl next to you at the bar about to order? You guessed it. Now imagine that you are about to order the same thing, she is practically begging to dance on you at this point, it’s that easy.

5. Easy, Quick, Universal

There are just three simple ingredients, and the amounts of which are subject to your personal preference and tolerance levels. It doesn’t require the aid of Chet the self-proclaimed mixologist to make—it’s so easy a baby could do it! And it’s known virtually everywhere, if you’re ever in a place that doesn’t have either vodka, water, or limes, you’re probably there against your will anyway.

6. Health Benefits

Since most people don’t drink liquor straight, the use of a chaser or mixer is required, but we all know the problems that causes. Sugar and alcohol don’t mix well, not to mention the calories in soda. Vodka-Water-Lime has not calories and no sugar added. On top of that, the presence of water and lack of soda is almost a guarantee that you won’t be hungover the next day.

7. It's shameless

With all of the numerous benefits, it’s impossible to give someone a hard time for ordering this, yet it happens. Becky’s friends may tell her that she looks great and shouldn’t be concerned about her calories. WELL MAYBE BECKY JUST LIKES THE TASTE. Still, Bradley may get bold and order one out with the boys, but since there’s nothing to crack open, he may be the butt of their jokes, but Bradley knows that he made the right choice.

NOTE: limes can be substituted for other in-season citrus fruits.


There’s a reason the Vodka-Water-Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every week. The facts are there; it’s not fake news. Vodka-Water-Lime should be your new drink. It’s not just something you adopt in college or for a few nights out, it’s a lifestyle. The Vodka-Water-Lime is classy and sophisticated, it is a drink that you can order somewhere fancy like a restaurant or a Carnival cruise ship, or even on your wedding night.

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Winter Intersessions Don't Have To Be All That Bad

A lot can happen in 10 days.

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Something I think that is important to note here in the beginning is that a lot can happen in just ten days. It may not seem like a long time, but from the time frame of starting a Gender Studies class on Men, Women, and Greek Life and finishing it, we saw the rise of the new Gillette commercial, which touched on men needing to hold men accountable and stop letting the male societal development continue in this never-ending circle. But also, the death of a Sigma Alpha Epsilon brother due to hazing and alcohol abuse, which I might add got next to zero media recognition.

Ten days ago I started a Gender Studies Topics class called Men, Women, and Greek Life. I had zero idea what the class would be when I registered for it since it was just labeled "Gender Studies Topics." But even when the syllabus was sent out a few days before the class started and I found out the name, I still had no clue what we could learn about in this class other than men are in fraternities and women are sororities.

Over this ten-day period, I learned so much from how we "do gender", to culture, to ambivalent sexism, and to intersectionality. To get more specific, I learned a lot about Greek Life in the sense of pledging/rushing, relationships among women, relationships among men, hazing, body objectification, and sexual harassment. But it was about much more than what I learned in the context of Greek Life; it was also a matter of what I learned about myself and society individually and collectively.

I don't want to go too in depth about what I learned specifically.. not in this article at least. I want to focus on the fact that in just ten days, I know more about people, society, the multiple cultures, and the type of men and women we produce in the Greek system than I ever thought was possible to think about. I also saw a lot of the application of these subjects in the real world whether it was through articles, magazine interviews, emails sent out by Greek members, books like TFM, Dirty Rush, and Greek University, or real life/real world pledges dying because of the Greek culture that has developed over time.

It's so fascinating to me that within ten days, in a class of nine people, meeting three and a half hours a day, having a discussion based class experience, I learned more than I probably have in my entire collegiate experience. My outlook, opinions, perspectives, views, and beliefs about certain things have been challenged in the most educating way. I wasn't told I was wrong, I was respected at all times, I was open-minded to the ideas and thoughts that others had. I didn't have time to sit and worry about my grades, or over analyze each class period, or memorize a lecture word for word like I normally would have done for a class.

We watched episodes from the show Greek and Law and Order: SVU along with a movie called Revenge Of The Nerds (which I never would have watched if it had not been for this class). But because we watched these episodes and this movie and then had to analyze the content in relation to our class topic, I won't be able to watch a show or a movie and not recognize that there are really disturbing underlying contexts that we wouldn't notice on any other given day watching our favorite tv show or favorite movie. And believe me- I have already noticed this from trying to watch shows and movies.

What I am trying to say but is difficult to explain is how great of an experience it has been to take a ten-day intensive Gender Studies Class because it was meaningful, powerful, and at times was information that no one likes talking about because it is hard to talk about- especially on a college campus. But because of this experience, I have grown so much as an individual and as a woman affiliated with the Greek system.

So if you ever get the opportunity to take a winter intersession class, especially a Gender Studies class, you should take full advantage because you will go in the classroom on the first day thinking you have plenty of knowledge and leave on the last day thinking about how naive you were at the beginning. And I think realizing you were being naive in the first place shows a greater deal about a person than someone who believes they know it all already and don't need to become more educated about what really happens in the real world.

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