Ladies, It's Time To Stop Being The "Mean Girl"

Ladies, It's Time To Stop Being The "Mean Girl"

We are in this fight together.


I remember those days of glaring at other girls, of flipping my hair, and making my presence extremely known. A mentor once told me to "piss on the floor and claim my spot," if I thought another woman was trying to intimidate me. And yeah, there are going to be moments in your life where woman will go head to head. It's in our nature. Just think about the riff between Queen Elizabeth and Mary Queen of Scots.


We have to stop being "mean girls" to combat our insecurities. Everyone is born with something that they don't like, the one thing that they would change. We all have them and if you don't then you are very lucky! Even I have them! For years I despised my large nose and dark hair. But the other day I found a picture of my Grandmother when she was young, she had dark hair and a large nose. I looked at the picture for a bit and I thought, "She was so beautiful, it's not even fair."

As I have grown and matured I have realized how important it is to have diversity. And diversity is very, very beautiful.

And as I have grown and matured I have also realized how many women don't respect this.

This is sad.

I have always thought heritage is something to be proud of and I know not everyone feels this way.

Ladies, you don't have to be blonde and blue eyed to be gorgeous. Brown eyes and dark hair are just as gorgeous! But you know what you do have to be? Uplifting of other women. Because that is sexy.

This past week I haven't worn makeup which was a huge risk as for years I have been hiding my thin lips and large nose. Today I even wore my glasses instead of contacts! As I went about my day with a natural face I tried my best to compliment other women.

In a world where our sisters are raped because of their dress and a workplace that pays us less, we have to stop.

I know you think you are being cute when you flip your hair and snap your manicured fingers at another girl; but it's not. Kill them with kindness.

We can not stand up to men when we are too busy stalking girls for liking pictures.

We can not stop sexual harassment when we are still calling girls slurs for the length of their dress.

We can not increase diversity when we only see particular features as "attractive."

Ladies, we have to stand up for each other. It is the only way to win this fight. We want respect from men? It's time to respect our sisters. Will it always be easy? No! But I have a challenge for you. Pick one day, wear a natural face. And just give at least one other woman a compliment. Just one day and one compliment. And if you don't feel better after doing it, you never have to do it again and you can personally call me and explain how it didn't make you feel empowered.

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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.

It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning.

You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret.

So here are 20 tattoos you can't go wrong with. Each tattoo has its own unique meaning, but don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!

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1. A semi-colon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.

2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."

3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.

4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."

5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."

6.Greek symbol of Inguz: where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."

8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya)

9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty and artistic creativity.

10. The Greek word “Meraki" means to do something with soul, passion, love and creativity or to put yourself in to whatever you do.

11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from the Hobbit. It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.

13. “Lux in tenebris" means “light in darkness."

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength & stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora" is translated literally as “Towards greater things." It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.

16. A glyphs means “explore." It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."

18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower's first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe & the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can reminds us of the inconsistency of life. It is also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.

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What’s The Deal With Women Wearing Makeup Anyways?

Makeup is a form of empowerment for both men and women it should not be seen as a way to hide insecurities.


Many people do not understand why makeup is worn. Many believe it has to do with insecurities, self-esteem issues, and more positive attention to their appearance. However, makeup is more used for empowerment and creativity for both men and women rather than a mask to cover themselves up.

Makeup has been around since ancient Egypt. It would be used for both men and women of all social statuses. According to Reader's Digest, they used makeup.

Makeup is a skill that is used because people enjoy it or appreciate it, obviously, it is not for everyone, but the people that use makeup, use it as a way of armor to empower themselves and the way they feel. It is no different from any other form of self-care people use for empowerment or to feel stronger.

According to Refinery29, our relationship with makeup has evolved over the years it is no longer seen as a way to impress men, but it is a celebration of oneself.

Using makeup gives people a chance to control the way they look and gives them a way to express themselves in their daily lives.

According to Bustle, "they are taking control of their own image and using makeup in a way that empowers them. And that is extremely cool."

Makeup is not limited to just women; it can be used for men as well. For instance, back in 2016, James Charles was the first male Covergirl. This allows all people to be involved in the empowerment and creativity that makeup gives us.

According to Health, beauty is for everyone, no matter what you look like or who you are that is what makes it so amazing.

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