Immigration Didn't Kill Mollie Tibbetts, Men Being Unable To Process Female Rejection Did

Immigration Didn't Kill Mollie Tibbetts, Men Being Unable To Process Female Rejection Did

If this was strictly an immigration issue, we wouldn't see white men doing this over and over again, too.


Men don't like to be told no.

Janise Talton-Jackson was shot dead after rejecting a man's advances at a bar.

Caroline Nosal's killer waited for her to get off her shift at work and surprised her by shooting her to death.

Lisa Trubnikova, a married lesbian woman, was killed by a man who was completely obsessed with her.

Andrea Farrington was shot 3 times in the back by a man that she was "playing."

Unfortunately, I could list more. One positive outcome of these horrific cases is they have helped open a dialogue about toxic masculinity, male-on-female crime and the inability for men to handle women's rejection.

So how come when the killer of Mollie Tibbetts, the subject of a national story about a missing college student, was found to be a man whose advances she rejected, the conversation shifted another way? That would be because the murders of the aforementioned women were all in the country legally. And Christhian Rivera was, allegedly, not.

To put it bluntly, blaming this murder on illegal immigration is absurd.

If violence against women was a problem because of illegal immigration, there wouldn't be stories like the ones above. There wouldn't be astronomically high rates of domestic violence.

Put simply, a lot of women would still be alive if American citizens weren't a problem when it comes to violence against women.

If a problem is widespread and persistent without even taking undocumented immigrants into consideration, the problem might lie outside of the realm of the perpetrator's immigration status.

In fact, there really is no association between increased crime and increased undocumented immigrants. According to Dave Mosher at Business Insider, "While tragic individual stories of murder are worthy of public attention and the victims worthy of justice, they are also single trees in a forest of data."

The bottom line is this: If Mollie Tibbetts' (and other women who have died at the hands of undocumented immigrants) killer hadn't come to the United States illegally, more than likely, she would still be alive. But that type of "if this, then that" mentality works with every killer, regardless of citizenship.

If Janise Talton-Jackson's killer hadn't gone out to the bar that night, she might still be alive.

If Caroline Nosal's killer had not gotten a job at that grocery store, she might still be alive.

If Lisa Trubkinova had never crossed paths with her obsessed killer, she might still be alive.

If Andrea Farrington's killer had chosen to work somewhere else, she might still be alive.

Every single woman who has died at the hands of an obsessed stalker, an angry partner, a random rejected stranger, an infatuated coworker, could have missed the situation altogether had something in either of their lives gone differently. Because immigrant or not, your chances of ending up on the wrong end of a terrible situation come down to chance: You were there, they were there.

If Mollie Tibbets had chosen a different college, if she had been working that night, even if she chose a different jogging path, this tragic chance encounter may not have happened.

If Christhian Rivera had lived in a different state, if he had made plans that night, and yes, if he hadn't come to the United States in the first place, this tragic chance encounter may not have happened.

But it did.

And it wasn't a result of his immigration status, it was a result of a culture where men feel entitled to women's bodies, conversations and time.

It was a result of men believing they have a right to a woman, however they please. It was a result of men being unable to handle the rejection of the women they feel entitled to.

Any man who gets so angry when a woman rejects his advances that he "blacks out" and murders her might have problems beyond being in the country without documentation.

Mollie Tibbetts' death is heartbreaking in every imaginable way. Young college students dying in the prime of their life is sad and frightening and infuriating.

But using this tragic situation, one that further demonstrates the dangerous side effects of male entitlement, to further an agenda against immigration is not only unproductive, it is harmful. There isn't an unbalanced epidemic of violence against women from undocumented immigrant men - fighting against an epidemic that simply isn't there is a colossal waste of time.

Beyond that, allowing a few select cases to mold your views (and, at the upper-political level, your policies) takes time and resources away from where they should be focused: In this case, violence against women from all races and citizenships statuses.

Not to mention, it goes to criminalize an entire group of people who, statistically, are not causing more problems than anyone here legally.

Shayanne Gal / Business Insider

Mollie Tibbetts' might still be alive if her killer didn't come here illegally. But she would also still be alive if he didn't feel entitled to her and her time. And a lot more women would be alive if the latter were true, too.

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6 Things You Should Know About The Woman Who Can't Stand Modern Feminism

Yes, she wants to be heard too.


2018 is sort of a trap for this woman. She believes in women with all of the fire inside of her, but it is hard for her to offer support when people are making fools of themselves and disguising it as feminism.

The fact of the matter is that women possess qualities that men don't and men possess qualities that women don't. That is natural. Plus, no one sees men parading the streets in penis costumes complaining that they don't get to carry their own fetus for nine months.

1. She really loves and values women.

She is incredibly proud to be a woman.

She knows the amount of power than a woman's presence alone can hold. She sees when a woman walks into a room and makes the whole place light up. She begs that you won't make her feel like a "lady hater" because she doesn't want to follow a trend that she doesn't agree with.

2. She wants equality, too

She has seen the fundamental issues in the corporate world, where women and men are not receiving equal pay.

She doesn't cheer on the businesses that don't see women and men as equivalents. But she does recognize that if she works her butt off, she can be as successful as she wants to.

3. She wears a bra.

While she knows the "I don't have to wear a bra for society" trend isn't a new one, but she doesn't quite get it. Like maybe she wants to wear a bra because it makes her feel better. Maybe she wears a bra because it is the normal things to do... And that's OK.

Maybe she wants to put wear a lacy bra and pretty makeup to feel girly on .a date night. She is confused by the women who claim to be "fighting for women," because sometimes they make her feel bad for expressing her ladyhood in a different way than them.

4. She hates creeps just as much as you do. .

Just because she isn't a feminist does not mean that she is cool with the gruesome reality that 1 in 5 women are sexually abused.

In fact, this makes her stomach turn inside out to think about. She knows and loves people who have been through such a tragedy and wants to put the terrible, creepy, sexually charged criminals behind bars just as bad as the next woman.

Remember that just because she isn't a feminist doesn't mean she thinks awful men can do whatever they want.

5. There is a reason she is ashamed of 2018's version of feminism.

She looks at women in history who have made a difference and is miserably blown away by modern feminism's performance.

Not only have women in the past won themselves the right to vote, but also the right to buy birth control and have credit cards in their names and EVEN saw marital rape become a criminal offense.

None of them dressed in vagina costumes to win anyone over though... Crazy, right?

6. She isn't going to dress in a lady parts costume to prove a point.

This leaves her speechless. It is like the women around her have absolutely lost their minds and their agendas, only lessening their own credibility.

"Mom, what are those ladies on TV dressed up as?"

"Ummm... it looks to me like they are pink taco's honey."

She loves who she is and she cherished what makes her different from the men around her. She doesn't want to compromise who she is as a woman just so she can be "equal with men."

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Trump May Want To Steal Citizenship From People Like Me, But That's Not What America Is About

What's happening to us? How can we be okay with closing our doors when we were once so welcoming?


My parents immigrated to this country in 1994. They came on a legal work visa, and got their citizenships in 2007. They had my brother in 1995 and 4 years later, they had me. My brother and I, under the 14th amendment to the Constitution of the United States which states birthright citizenship, were born US citizens. I grew up here as an American citizen. To me, my identity as an American is incredibly important to me. That seal on my passport means I have so many opportunities available to me that I could never have anywhere else. And I intend to serve it back. I defend it, I call it the best country in the world, I am an American citizen. It is a point of pride for me, like it is for so many others.

And now, Donald Trump wants to get rid of that right.

He thinks it's ridiculous that people like me have citizenship in this country.

This country opens its arms and welcomes people to it, built on the foundation of the American dream and the land of opportunity for all people. We've had our fair share of issues with immigration, inclusion, and racism, but this country has never yet been so xenophobic as to slowly attempt to close its doors to any and all.

The first sentence of the 14th amendment states, "All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside," granting citizenship to all legal, law-abiding people born on American soil.

This amendment clearly shows that at one point, immigration was a beloved thing. It was a defining factor of progress in society, it was what made America a wonderful salad bowl with so many different cultures mixing together to create something new. Wake up call, America, immigration is the reason you have different kinds of food, the reason you have computers, the reason we won the second world war, the reason white people are able to appropriate cornrows, henna, music, etc., the reason... I could go on. This Amendment welcomed all immigrants, allowing them to come with peace of mind, knowing their children and their families would be well taken care of here in America, which is truly their only main motive.

America's core principles are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. The pursuit of happiness. This happiness is what immigrants come here in pursuit of. For a better life for their families, for their children, for themselves. And here, with travel bans, immigration quotas, and now this clear violation of rights, Trump is definitively throwing up a giant middle finger to the very core principles of our country.

What happened? Why are we closing our doors? What are we so afraid of?

Possibly, Trump will never be able to overrule the constitution. But the very fact that these kinds of ideas are even being supported and vocalized by the President of the United States is frightening. It's highlighting a very dangerous shift in our culture. America has been a globalized nation for far, far too long to start shutting its doors now. This trend of nationalism isn't supportable in the world today; we're far too dependent on our global relationships and part of that is having open borders to the world.

Part of that is recognizing that immigrants have every right to be in this country and have every right to be contributing citizens.

Mindy Kaling puts it well:

It's not like immigrants enjoy uprooting their entire lives and moving to a brand new country where they possibly know no one, where the culture is different, where life is going to be extremely difficult for them until they can get back on their own feet. They come here because they want to make their lives better, and through it all, they contribute to the country in ways that only diversity of thought and culture could.

And if the argument is based on illegal immigrants, the constitution is already set up that way. Illegal immigrants are not being granted citizenship, and their children are not granted citizenship either. That's a hotly contended issue of the interpretation of the 14th amendment, but that's how it is already set up.

Removing the legal right for any child born here, raised here, and who is truly American to be an American - that just doesn't make sense.

And, okay how would citizenship even work then? It would be granted solely based on blood? Okay, well then hand over your passports every single white person ever, because you don't belong here either.

Truly, Trump is a genius. He said just the right thing to poke at a contentious point in the nation right before one of the most important elections happening during our time. He's saying just the right things he needs to say to stir controversy, polarize, and energize people to get to the polls. His audience lives off of this kind of rhetoric and it charges them up. But we're not going to take this sitting either. We know the truth, we know the facts, we have the capacity to see exactly what this snakey businessman is trying to do. Rush the polls, forward-thinking citizens of America. Rush the polls on election day and make the change we need to see happen. It's up to you now.

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