Immigration Didn't Kill Mollie Tibbetts, Men Being Unable To Process Female Rejection Did

Immigration Didn't Kill Mollie Tibbetts, Men Being Unable To Process Female Rejection Did

If this was strictly an immigration issue, we wouldn't see white men doing this over and over again, too.


Men don't like to be told no.

Janise Talton-Jackson was shot dead after rejecting a man's advances at a bar.

Caroline Nosal's killer waited for her to get off her shift at work and surprised her by shooting her to death.

Lisa Trubnikova, a married lesbian woman, was killed by a man who was completely obsessed with her.

Andrea Farrington was shot 3 times in the back by a man that she was "playing."

Unfortunately, I could list more. One positive outcome of these horrific cases is they have helped open a dialogue about toxic masculinity, male-on-female crime and the inability for men to handle women's rejection.

So how come when the killer of Mollie Tibbetts, the subject of a national story about a missing college student, was found to be a man whose advances she rejected, the conversation shifted another way? That would be because the murders of the aforementioned women were all in the country legally. And Christhian Rivera was, allegedly, not.

To put it bluntly, blaming this murder on illegal immigration is absurd.

If violence against women was a problem because of illegal immigration, there wouldn't be stories like the ones above. There wouldn't be astronomically high rates of domestic violence.

Put simply, a lot of women would still be alive if American citizens weren't a problem when it comes to violence against women.

If a problem is widespread and persistent without even taking undocumented immigrants into consideration, the problem might lie outside of the realm of the perpetrator's immigration status.

In fact, there really is no association between increased crime and increased undocumented immigrants. According to Dave Mosher at Business Insider, "While tragic individual stories of murder are worthy of public attention and the victims worthy of justice, they are also single trees in a forest of data."

The bottom line is this: If Mollie Tibbetts' (and other women who have died at the hands of undocumented immigrants) killer hadn't come to the United States illegally, more than likely, she would still be alive. But that type of "if this, then that" mentality works with every killer, regardless of citizenship.

If Janise Talton-Jackson's killer hadn't gone out to the bar that night, she might still be alive.

If Caroline Nosal's killer had not gotten a job at that grocery store, she might still be alive.

If Lisa Trubkinova had never crossed paths with her obsessed killer, she might still be alive.

If Andrea Farrington's killer had chosen to work somewhere else, she might still be alive.

Every single woman who has died at the hands of an obsessed stalker, an angry partner, a random rejected stranger, an infatuated coworker, could have missed the situation altogether had something in either of their lives gone differently. Because immigrant or not, your chances of ending up on the wrong end of a terrible situation come down to chance: You were there, they were there.

If Mollie Tibbets had chosen a different college, if she had been working that night, even if she chose a different jogging path, this tragic chance encounter may not have happened.

If Christhian Rivera had lived in a different state, if he had made plans that night, and yes, if he hadn't come to the United States in the first place, this tragic chance encounter may not have happened.

But it did.

And it wasn't a result of his immigration status, it was a result of a culture where men feel entitled to women's bodies, conversations and time.

It was a result of men believing they have a right to a woman, however they please. It was a result of men being unable to handle the rejection of the women they feel entitled to.

Any man who gets so angry when a woman rejects his advances that he "blacks out" and murders her might have problems beyond being in the country without documentation.

Mollie Tibbetts' death is heartbreaking in every imaginable way. Young college students dying in the prime of their life is sad and frightening and infuriating.

But using this tragic situation, one that further demonstrates the dangerous side effects of male entitlement, to further an agenda against immigration is not only unproductive, it is harmful. There isn't an unbalanced epidemic of violence against women from undocumented immigrant men - fighting against an epidemic that simply isn't there is a colossal waste of time.

Beyond that, allowing a few select cases to mold your views (and, at the upper-political level, your policies) takes time and resources away from where they should be focused: In this case, violence against women from all races and citizenships statuses.

Not to mention, it goes to criminalize an entire group of people who, statistically, are not causing more problems than anyone here legally.

Shayanne Gal / Business Insider

Mollie Tibbetts' might still be alive if her killer didn't come here illegally. But she would also still be alive if he didn't feel entitled to her and her time. And a lot more women would be alive if the latter were true, too.

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The Trump Presidency Is Over

Say hello to President Mike Pence.


Remember this date: August 21, 2018.

This was the day that two of President Donald Trump's most-important associates were convicted on eight counts each, and one directly implicated the president himself.

Paul Manafort was Trump's campaign chairman for a few months in 2016, but the charges brought against him don't necessarily implicate Trump. However, they are incredibly important considering was is one of the most influential people in the Trump campaign and picked Mike Pence to be the vice presidential candidate.

Manafort was convicted on five counts of tax fraud, two counts of bank fraud, and one count of failure to file a report of a foreign bank account. And it could have been even worse. The jury was only unanimous on eight counts while 10 counts were declared a mistrial.

Michael Cohen, Trump's personal lawyer, told a judge that Trump explicitly instructed him to break campaign-finance laws by paying two women not to publicly disclose the affairs they had with Trump. Those two women are believed to be Karen McDougal, a Playboy model, and Stormy Daniels, a pornstar. Trump had an affair with both while married to his current wife, Melania.

And then to no surprise, Fox News pundits spun this in the only way they know how. Sara Carter on Hannity said that the FBI and the Department of Justice are colluding as if it's some sort of deep-state conspiracy. Does someone want to tell her that the FBI is literally a part of the DOJ?

The Republican Party has for too long let Trump get away with criminal behavior, and it's long past time to, at the very least, remove Mr. Trump from office.

And then Trump should face the consequences for the crimes he has committed. Yes, Democrats have a role, too. But Republicans have control of both chambers of Congress, so they head every committee. They have the power to subpoena Trump's tax returns, which they have not. They have the power to subpoena key witnesses in their Russia investigations, which they have not.

For the better part of a year I have been asking myself what is the breaking point with Republicans and Trump. It does not seem like there is one, so for the time being we're stuck with a president who paid off two women he had an affair with in an attempt to influence a United States election.

Imagine for a second that any past president had done even a fraction of what Trump has.

Barack Obama got eviscerated for wearing a tan suit. If he had affairs with multiple women, then Paul Ryan and Mitch McConnell would be preparing to burn him at the stake. If they won't, then Trump's enthusiastic would be more than happy to do so.

For too long we've been saying that Trump is heading down a road similar to Nixon, but it's evident now that we're way past that point. Donald Trump now has incriminating evidence against him to prove he's a criminal, and Special Counsel Robert Mueller is just getting started.

Will Trump soften the blow and resign in disgrace before impeachment like Nixon did? Knowing his fragile ego, there's honestly no telling what he'll do. But it's high time Trump leaves an office he never should have entered in the first place.

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To My Parents Who Immigrated Here 20 Years Ago, Thank You For Sacrificing So Much For My Future

Just knowing that my parents went through the hardest of hardships and still ended up successful makes me believe that I can also do the same.


First and foremost, I'd like to thank my parents.

Every day, I think about how much my parents have done for me and I immediately feel this rush of gratitude. My parents came to the United States 20 years ago with very little. They had just gotten married and they were educated but they didn't have any family in the States and knew very few people that were coming to this country. Yet they managed to build a life for themselves and their kids in which they would be financially stable and happy for a long time.

It absolutely boggles my mind that with very few connections and no technology, they were able to raise a kid right after coming into a country that they weren't familiar with. They didn't even know much English! Yet here they are 20 years later with very successful jobs, a nice house, a large family, lots of friends, and a lot of experience and knowledge.

They never tell me much about how their lives were like right when they moved to this country, but I can imagine it was hard at first and that they had to struggle. And the most amazing part is that they did all this and went through all this for their kids. They went through struggle after uprooting their whole lives in India to make sure their kids get the right education and grow up to be successful and happy. It really puts things in perspective any time I feel like my life is hard or that I can't manage it. Just knowing that my parents went through the hardest of hardships and still ended up successful makes me believe that I can also do the same.

I know for sure that no matter what I do I will never be able to live up to everything my parents have done. And I owe them my entire life and more for what they have sacrificed and done for me. The least I can do is be appreciative and grateful for everything they have given me, and be hardworking and successful to make them proud.

And to think that thousands and thousands of other parents have done the same for their kids, just wow. They absolutely deserve endless love and appreciation.

For all you first-generation children — or anyone for that matter — your greatest gift to your parents is love and gratitude. They sacrificed so much for your happiness and future so it's your responsibility to be kind and giving to them, always. To ALL the parents that immigrated here for the wellbeing of their children, thank you.

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