Why I Dropped Sorority Recruitment

I Dropped Sorority Recruitment In The First 6 Hours, The Process Wasn't Genuine

To put it lightly, it's not for everyone.


Joining a sorority was something that I have wanted to do for as long as I can remember. In middle school, I read a book and the main character ended up going to college and joining a sorority. Through this, she found her best friends, her future bridesmaids, and the girls that she could trust with everything. This picture perfect idea of a sorority had been in my head for the past six years, so when I FINALLY was able to join a chapter for myself, I was over the moon. In fact, I was PNM 14, that's how quickly I applied for recruitment.

At my university, the recruitment process started a week before move in. This meant that my family and I headed to Pullman, WA with a truck full of stuff ready to move me into college. After moving in everything and getting my room just the way that I wanted, it was time to say goodbye to my family. And let me tell you, I was a mess. Not even 30 minutes later I was in a room meeting the girls in my recruitment group still recovering from saying goodbye to my family. It was overwhelming, to say the least.

Aside from my day going from saying goodbye to my parents straight into recruitment mode, we spend the evening on a field with thousands of other girls hearing from passionate members of the Panhellenic Council on my campus about all of the wonderful benefits of joining a sisterhood on our campus. We heard about the rules and guidelines of recruitment and how each of the next few days would look. I left that field looking sororities a completely different way.

I personally am not a huge feminist.

Of course, I am all for equal rights and female empowerment, but the way that the women spoke on my campus just was not something I resonated with. I didn't like not being able to do anything all week other than rush. The idea that I couldn't vent about my day to my boyfriend or other friends on campus was something that I did not agree with. Being told that I was going to spend the next day learning about what I value in myself from people that didn't seem to buy into it either just did not sound appealing.

There were so many things that I just couldn't connect within the process that I felt like it was the best thing for me if I dropped.

I spent the next week in my room, getting ready for classes, working out, meeting people on campus that weren't going through recruitment either. I learned more about myself in that week that I wasn't going through recruitment than I think I would've if I had gone through recruitment. There are completely times that I see girls on our Greek row or when I go to my roommate's sorority house with her that I wish I wouldn't have dropped. But there are also so many more times that I see people spending so much time devoted to their chapter, that I wonder how they are not failing their classes.

For some, joining a sorority is completely for them and something that they would never change, but for me and I'm sure many others not getting involved in that way is also a really good thing. Knowing yourself and understanding more about what you hope to get out of college will always help to make those tough decisions like should you, or should you not rush.

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ASU Students Push For A Healthier Dining Hall To Counter 'Freshman 15' Fears

The freshman 15 is an avoidable curse, but many students will continue to follow into its trap.


Arizona State University students are pushing for change within the downtown Phoenix dining hall as they strive to avoid the infamous freshman 15.

The downtown Phoenix campus offers fewer dining options than the Tempe campus and has a less appetizing dining hall. The freshman 15 is a common scare among students living in the dorms, who are often freshman.

The freshman 15 is defined as a student who gains 15 pounds or more in their first year of college. Studies prove the average freshman does not exercise the right amount, is sleep deprived, has a poor diet, increases their stress level, alcohol consumption, and fatty food intake, which is most likely causing their weight gain.

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Daniella Rudoy, a journalism major and fitness instructor at the SDFC, relived her freshman year as she provided tips for incoming freshman.

"There are a lot of workouts you can do in your dorm room as long as you have access to YouTube or a floor. You can go on a run, a walk, or do exercises that do not require equipment," Rudoy said in support of college fitness.

Rudoy said that mental health, fitness, and nutrition all correlate with one another.

"I follow the saying abs are made in the kitchen. So if you are working out day and night, but eating a giant pizza and chicken wings with a pack of beer when you come home you aren't doing yourself much good," Rudoy said.

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The main cause for weight gain is increased alcohol consumption. 80 percent of college students drink and this includes binge-drinking, which is unhealthy for many reasons.

Students who do not drink are most likely gaining weight because of their exposure to an all-you-can-eat dining hall. The downtown Phoenix campus offers a salad bar as their only consistent healthy option for students, therefore students are left eating hamburgers, fries, and pizza.

"I haven't been to the dining hall this semester. Last semester, I went because I had no other options. I am a vegetarian and the dining hall is not accommodating to those with allergies or food restrictions. I find it very difficult to find vegetarian options," Lexi Varrato, a journalism major said.

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Varrato explained that she believes the freshman 15 is "100% real" and that incoming freshmen should research their meal plans and ask their school how their dietary restrictions will be accommodated before purchasing a non-refundable meal plan.

Megan Tretter, a nursing major at Seattle University emphasized that not every dining hall is like ASU's and that the freshman 15 is "definitely not a problem" at her school.

"I always eat healthy at my dining hall. There are a lot of good and healthy options at Seattle University. I usually go to the smoothie line in the morning, have a salad for lunch, and make myself an acai bowl after work with avocado toast in our floor's kitchen," Tretter said in support of her school's strive for healthy options.

College students across the United States have healthier dining options than ASU, but many colleges still face the same problems that students here are facing.

Tara Shultz, a journalism major at ASU believes she has avoided the "very real" freshman 15 by living at home.

"I believe the freshman 15 targets dorm residence and first-year students who do not live at home as they do not have their parents as a guide and are forced to eat at a dining hall that only serves fatty foods," Shultz emphasized.

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The downtown Phoenix campus offers students access to the SDFC, YMCA, and Taylor Place gym, where students can take group fitness classes, run on a track, play basketball, or swim. Alternative options for students are purchasing a membership at Orangetheory or EOS Fitness.

Most students agreed with journalism major Vanessa Gonzalez that they have little time to work out due to their workload, but many students like Varrato, Tretter, and Rudoy explained that they try to work out every day as it is a stress reliever and it enriches their mental health.

Steve Fiorentino, the owner of Powered Up Nutrition encourages college students to learn what they are putting in their bodies.

"I think it starts with nutrition. Students believe they can outwork a bad diet and I believe that is their number one mistake. My advice is to stop eating fast foods and start eating whole and healthy foods along with supplements," Fiorentino stated.

The freshman 15 is an avoidable curse, but many students will continue to follow into its trap. The campus dining hall is not always the reason to blame as students have the option to decrease their meal plans, become active, and make healthy choices!

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To My Big, As She Graduates

My sorority big is so special to me.


Biggie Big,

I have known you for less than a year, and yet somehow you are already a vital part of my heart and family. Your love of others is infectious, your hard work and determination are astounding. I thought I took on a large workload, yet you outshine me in so many ways. You take 23 credit hours, work (sometimes two jobs), are a 24/7 dog mom, and manage friends and a boyfriend all while making it look easy.

I am so incredibly blessed to have been graced with you as my Big. Thank goodness for whatever stars have aligned that led me to you, because I can not think of a Big that would have fit me better. We are both very busy, busy girls and we understand that. We are there for each other when we need it most and when we just need to let loose a bit. You are the person I turn to when I need someone to listen to my venting, someone who understands my boy problems, and when I need someone to tell me that taking me-time is OK and I will succeed in whatever I do.

Anyone who has the pleasure to meet you will be greeted with the biggest smile and the most contagious laugh. You seem to find light in every situation and show everyone respect and interest. There is never a dull moment with you, that can be guaranteed. You change everyone's lives for the better.

Biggie, you are going to go far, I have no doubt about that. I hope you are never too far from me, but I want you to do whatever is best for your future. I am ecstatic to see where life takes you. It's incredible that life has given me someone who I see standing by me at the altar or holding my babies in the future. This bond of sisterhood is real and I'm glad it was formed between us.

Good luck Biggie, know I am always here cheering you on!

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