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Life Tip: Unconditional Love Starts With Loving Yourself

You cannot show up for the world if you don’t show up for yourself FIRST!

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Life Tip: Unconditional Love Starts With Loving Yourself
Tamiel Mckee Bey

Isn't it a wonderful feeling to wake up happy and smiling, ready to start the day fresh and new? Of course, but is this the life that most of us live every day? Hell to the N-O! It doesn't make it easier than we actually have to go about the day not always feeling like our best, expectations and responsibilities hanging on our shoulders like heavy baggage. It may seem like there can never be any relief, and sometimes you may wonder if this is all there is to this game of life.

I'm here to tell you that there is more to life!

You still have time to make anything out of this experience. Nothing good is every easily obtained, but you should never be intimidated by a little self-improvement!

Now, to many people, unconditional love is a pretty loaded concept. Personally, it took years for me to finally accept that it was okay to tell people you love them and that it doesn't have to always be a big deal. Love is supposed to be universal. It doesn't end after every heartbreak or go away when you leave your loved ones for a long time. This means that not only is love infinite, but it's also open, accepting and liberating, implying that YES you can love more than one person, and YES you can love them equally! This may seem like a difficult concept to some people and simple for others, but everyone is entitled to their own perception of what love is and what it should feel like. However, I think that before you can love anyone or be any kind of support system for anyone else, you must first be these things for YOURSELF!

“So I can love myself more than I love other people?"

YES!

“What if I do love someone more than I love myself?"

That too is valid, why? You may ask, well simply because the love that you cultivate for yourself is essentially the only love that you could ever give someone else! So even if you love someone more than you love yourself, you are not depriving yourself of anything; surprisingly enough, you increase your own openness and vulnerability through selfless and unconditional love for other people.

Remember, I NEVER said this would be easy!

Learning to love the self unconditionally will take MAJOR PATIENCE! We live in a world that wants us to be everything BUT ourselves! Some of us grew up in environments that weren't always supportive of who we are or want to be! This is why you must take all the time you need to appreciate everything that you are, accept everything that you are becoming and not be so hard on yourself! There is no pressure for you to finish first; your self-love journey is set at your own pace. You can even start with the smallest things like not being afraid to look in the mirror when you wake up in the morning. Or appreciating your face and body when you are comfortable and relaxed. Maybe even just acknowledging when you need time to yourself and not forcing yourself to be social. You can learn to enjoy your own company!

None of these things can make communicating with or getting to know others more difficult. They actually make things easier for both sides!! The comfort you have in yourself is present in everything you do, especially when you are interacting with other people. You want people to accept you for who you? ACCEPT YOURSELF FIRST! People will love you more when you love yourself, and you will find more than you love in other people once you've achieved a level a genuine acceptance in yourself.

You deserve love. Everyone does, whatever it means to you. Creating it for yourself can give you a clearer image of what it really feels like so that you know exactly what to attract in your life! Love is not genuine if it is not unconditional, and love is not love if it does not start first with yourself.

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