"Accept what it is. Let go of what it was. Have faith in what it will be."
One day you wake up and things don't seem as perfect as you thought they were. Were they never perfect or were they never real? Things are NEVER perfect, we just get blind sighted. Losing a special someone is a very hard thing for many of us. Some people deal with pain and lost easier than others. People like me, suffer more because of after thoughts that get to us. "Was I not good enough?" "Was my loyalty not appreciated?" "Is there someone better ?" "Was I ever truly loved?"
I'm not only talking about relationships because trust me, friends can break hearts too. I would say losing a best friend is more painful than losing a relationship. Some people break our hearts so badly that it makes us think we'll never be able to love and trust again. These are just silly thoughts that in a couple of weeks, months or even years we look back to and laugh. Some people will leaves scars in our lives so deep that we will carry them with us forever, but SCARS ARE JUST SCARS. Scars remind us of where we've been, but WHERE WE CHOOSE NOT TO LIVE ANYMORE. Dwelling in the past is not going to change the situation you are in. Crying will not bring back a person who doesn't want to be in your life. You could offer the person the whole world and it still will not be enough. CLOSURE AND MOVING ON IS THE BEST OPTION, but by far the hardest one. The future holds the biggest opportunities. Living in the past just holds us back from everything. Letting go is never easy and starting over makes people feel like a reckless mess, but those are all temporary feelings. You will cry and think about the person you lost, but is it really your loss? or theirs? Either way let your past make you better, not bitter.
It's time to start being happy and finding new things to love. Look at the future with optimism and hope. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. It's so hard not to doubt others' intentions when the people you loved the most have already failed you. Yet, there are far better things ahead than anything you choose to leave behind. To anyone who feels identified, here are MY steps on how I moved on.
1. Sit down and breath in deep (Trust me, you are going to need it)
2. Write a letter to the person who hurt you. (It's okay to cry, I've been there)
3. Crumble it up and now write a letter to your future self.
4. Stand up, look at yourself in the mirror and read the letter aloud.
5. Tell yourself "I am in charge of how I feel and today and from now on I'm choosing happiness." Say it and write it down a million times if you have to, but most important, believe it.
