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I Stopped Saying 'Sorry' For A Week And, Girl, You Should Try It Too

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Oct 01, 2018

James Madison

I Stopped Saying 'Sorry' For A Week And, Girl, You Should Try It Too

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Did you know girls say sorry more than guys? Yup, it's a scientific fact. And while it's totally infuriating, it's believable. Growing up as a female, we're taught to be "ladylike," basically meaning sensitive, polite, and submissive. Not that being any of those things is wrong, but it is wrong to assume we need to say sorry for when we're not.

Think about it. When is the last time you heard of a guy being told to close his legs while sitting down? Can't think of any moments? Me neither.

But I do remember being told to sit "like a lady," countless times. I also remember saying "sorry," for not sitting like a lady. How dumb! Why should I be sorry for sitting in a comfortable way?

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Anyways, the whole girls say sorry more than guys thing got me thinking about how often I say sorry in a day. So one day I counted, and it's... a lot. I realized I was saying sorry for the smallest things. Like, wanting to ask a question at work or for my stomach growling. I obviously can't control the weird and random noises my stomach makes, so what TF was I doing apologizing for it.

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Taking all of this into account I stopped saying sorry for a week. And spoiler alert... life changed. Removing "sorry," from my vocab helped me to gain confidence in myself because I was no longer apologizing to my coworkers or my peers before I shared a thought. I stopped apologizing for asking questions, making uncontrollable bodily noises, being honest about my opinion, and let me tell you at the end of the week I felt much stronger and much more like a girl boss. Not even a "sorry, I'm not sorry," slipped out of my mouth.

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Being aware of my words over the week was enlightening, but also sad. I had no idea how often I was apologizing and by doing so I was inadvertently putting myself down, which, as a female in this day and age, is a bad move. Saying sorry without needing to is comparable to lowering your worth as a human. Think about it. Every time you say you're "sorry," you're implying that you're wrong, that you did something wrong, and or that you owe it to someone to apologize to them. If you never actually did anything wrong but you keep apologizing, you're devaluing yourself.

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Taking the time to be mindful and aware of the way you present yourself, and the way you speak is extremely important as words matter and what you say and how you say it will affect how you feel about yourself. So, if you're an over-apologizer like I was, and still sometimes am, I challenge you to stop saying sorry for a week. You might be positively surprised by the results.

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A bad day at the lake is still better than a good day not at the lake.

You know the best beaches and coves to go to.

You have no patience for the guy who can't back his trailer into the water right.

Doing the friendly wave to every boat you pass.

The cooler is always packed, mostly with beer.

Giving the idiot who goes 30 in a "No Wake Zone" a piece of your mind.

You have no problem with peeing in the water.

You know the frustration of getting your anchor stuck.

Watching in awe at the bigger, better boats that pass by.

Knowing any swimsuit that you own with white in it is best left for the pool or the ocean.

The momentary fear for your life as you get launched from the tube.

You're able to go to the restaurants by the water wearing minimal clothing.

Having unexpected problems with your boat.

Having a name for your boat unique to you and your life.

There's no better place you'd rather be in the summer.

Why I Chose a Small School Over a Big University.

1. My school is incredibly unique.

2. I am not just a number at my school.

3. I feel like I am contributing something to the community.

5. My professors know me and I feel that I can easily communicate with them.

6. The incredible people I've met

7. Opportunities

8. Students want to learn

9. Ability to join a sorority and have a house full of people I know I can talk to anytime I need to

10. I have figured out how I learn best because my school offers so many different ways of learning.

The basics of movies and pop culture pieces.

1. Jurassic Park

2. Princess Bride

3. Office Space

4. Sixteen Candles

5. Ferris Bueller's Day Off

6. Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure

7. ​Absolutely Anything (Robin William's Last Movie)​

8. Mrs. Doubtfire

9. To Kill a Mockingbird

10. A Few Good Men

11. Good Will Hunting

12. Dead Poet’s Society

13. Wizard of Oz

14. The Shining

15. Silence of the Lambs

16. Jaws

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21. Alien

22. Gone With the Wind

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