Girl, You Don't Need Him.
Start writing a post
Entertainment

Girl, You Don't Need Him.

Until you realize that it isn't healthy to love yourself through other's opinions, you will never truly love yourself.

575
Girl, You Don't Need Him.
Unsplash

More often than not, girls find worth based on their opinion of others. Sometime's its peers, adults, bosses, or being accepted in general. But more often than not, it's the opinion of males.

We all know a girl that's always in a relationship. One relationship end's, and she's in another before you know it. She just can't be single, always having options, moves too fast in the relationships. Has low expectations so she can find any guy. Doesn't really treat herself very well, because she just wants attention from a male, have a second option. Your nodding your head, knowing that girl, and maybe you're realizing that's you, but I have a message to that girl.

You don't need him.

You have more worth than you know. The saying "You have to love yourself before you can love another," is 200% true, and if you disagree with me, you're just not ready for a relationship yet. Sure a man can teach you to love yourself, but what happens when he's gone one day? If you only love yourself because he loves you, what does that say about yourself? When he's mad at you because you got home late, are you going to hate yourself? Are you going to let him dress you, tell you what to eat, tell you when to go to bed, and what you can do while he's at work too?

That isn't a healthy relationship, it isn't healthy to rely on somebody else to love yourself. To see yourself as a good person, you need somebody else to tell you. To see yourself as beautiful, you need somebody else to tell you. You'll give anything, and I mean anything as long as they give you attention. That isn't healthy, that isn't a strong self image, that isn't having high self esteem, and you aren't attracting the right males with habits like that.

And until you realize that it isn't healthy to love yourself through other's opinions, you will never truly love yourself. When you change yourself for somebody else, when you make excuses for his bad behavior to your friends, when you cry more often than smile, when you can't wear your favorite shirt or go out with your friends because he told you to, or because he'll be mad,you can never truly live up to your potential.

He doesn't treat you right? Bye.

He says more mean things than nice? Bye.

He doesn't trust you at the bar alone? Bye.

He makes you feel bad for just being yourself? Bye.

If he simply doesn't tell you that he loves you, so you don't think that you love you. Bye.

If he doesn't make you happy 99% of the time, he doesn't deserve you.

BYE.

There is a man out there who will love you right. He is ready. He will say the nice things, treat you right, trust you alone, tell you to go out with your friends, praise you for all the quirky things that somebody else made fun of, care about your feelings when you're upset. That man is out there, but you're never going to find him if you can't let go of the man you think you need.

But that isn't my point, because my point is that you don't need him either. You don't need a man. You don't need a male to approve of you, to call you beautiful, to hold you at night, to give you children, to be your date to dinner, to say nice things to you. Once you learn to live without attention and have zero expectations, you will quickly find somebody who gives you their all.

You're beautiful. You don't need his approval, you don't need his opinion, you don't need him to bring you down. You aren't an object to be a possession or controlled.

You simply don't need him.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
a man and a woman sitting on the beach in front of the sunset

Whether you met your new love interest online, through mutual friends, or another way entirely, you'll definitely want to know what you're getting into. I mean, really, what's the point in entering a relationship with someone if you don't know whether or not you're compatible on a very basic level?

Consider these 21 questions to ask in the talking stage when getting to know that new guy or girl you just started talking to:

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

Challah vs. Easter Bread: A Delicious Dilemma

Is there really such a difference in Challah bread or Easter Bread?

18598
loaves of challah and easter bread stacked up aside each other, an abundance of food in baskets
StableDiffusion

Ever since I could remember, it was a treat to receive Easter Bread made by my grandmother. We would only have it once a year and the wait was excruciating. Now that my grandmother has gotten older, she has stopped baking a lot of her recipes that require a lot of hand usage--her traditional Italian baking means no machines. So for the past few years, I have missed enjoying my Easter Bread.

Keep Reading...Show less
Adulting

Unlocking Lake People's Secrets: 15 Must-Knows!

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer.

946978
Group of joyful friends sitting in a boat
Haley Harvey

The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people.

Whether you grew up going to the lake, have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart, no matter how dirty the water may look.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Top 10 Reasons My School Rocks!

Why I Chose a Small School Over a Big University.

123573
man in black long sleeve shirt and black pants walking on white concrete pathway

I was asked so many times why I wanted to go to a small school when a big university is so much better. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure a big university is great but I absolutely love going to a small school. I know that I miss out on big sporting events and having people actually know where it is. I can't even count how many times I've been asked where it is and I know they won't know so I just say "somewhere in the middle of Wisconsin." But, I get to know most people at my school and I know my professors very well. Not to mention, being able to walk to the other side of campus in 5 minutes at a casual walking pace. I am so happy I made the decision to go to school where I did. I love my school and these are just a few reasons why.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lots of people sat on the cinema wearing 3D glasses
Pinterest

Ever wonder what your friend meant when they started babbling about you taking their stapler? Or how whenever you ask your friend for a favor they respond with "As You Wish?" Are you looking for new and creative ways to insult your friends?

Well, look no further. Here is a list of 70 of the most quotable movies of all time. Here you will find answers to your questions along with a multitude of other things such as; new insults for your friends, interesting characters, fantastic story lines, and of course quotes to log into your mind for future use.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments