Valentine's Day is just around the corner and it's considered a time to celebrate with your loved one(s). Contrary to popular belief, it is also a time when you should be re-evaluating the people you surround yourself with. Even if you don't have a significant other to break up with on Valentine's Day, start considering whether you need to go through a friendship breakup.
1. They never seem to listen to you.
They constantly ask you to repeat what you said. Or they only ever like to tell you about their day and their problems, and never take the time to listen to you tell them about your day or your problems.
2. They constantly pressure you to do something even after you've said you don't want to.
They don't seem to take "No" for an answer.
3. If you're excited about something, they couldn't care less.
They don't necessarily have to be interested in the same things as you but that doesn't mean they can't be happy for you.
4. You always feel exhausted after being with them.
Spending time with them physically and mentally drains you.
5. You don't feel comfortable confiding in them (for any number of reasons).
You may be worried that they'll judge you. You may also be worried that they won't keep what you told them to themselves.
6. They make snide comments on things you've told them you're insecure about.
They say underhanded things about you (based on personal things you've told them) , in private and/or in front of other people.
7. You feel like you have to change your personality when you're with them.
You don't feel like you can be your true self when you're with them. It always feels like you're putting on an act when you're with them.
8. If you're constantly -unhealthily- comparing yourself to them.
It's good to have a friend as motivation to better yourself, but comparing yourself to the point where you fall into a negative hole is when you have to step back.
9. You're always the one apologizing during an argument even if you weren't the one in the wrong.
When you guys talk through a problem, somehow it gets twisted from you having the problem to you starting the problem and they somehow become the victim and you're left wondering how it ended up like this.
10. You feel like all your conversations consist of them complaining about someone or something.
Every conversation you guys have seems to start and end with complaints about everyone and everything.
11. You feel yourself absorbing all their negative energy and find that it affects your day-to-day life.
There comes a point when their toxicity and negative energy starts affecting you and how you interact with other people.
It may be hard to break off a friendship that you may have treasured at one point but the most important person in your life should always be you. You have to take the responsibility of getting rid of your toxic friendships in order to preserve your own mental health.
