The Day I Realized I Didn't Have To Settle

The Day I Realized I Didn't Have To Settle

Don't Stay In Your Comfort Zone.

I know what you're thinking, "Oh look, another article about how you shouldn't settle for a guy. You should always wait for the best." While I do wholeheartedly believe that, that's not what this article is about. This is about realizing that you really never have to settle; for anything. Recently I've realized that life is short; so short in fact, that we don't even realize just how short it is until it's too late. We don't realize it until a loved one dies, or something tragic happens and then we're left thinking about how we aren't promised tomorrow.

Why is this the only thing that inspires us to make a change? Why don't we realize everyday that tomorrow is never promised? So many people go to work miserable everyday because they're too scared to take the leap and make a change. People wake up next to people they don't love because they never thought they would find better. Please do not let yourself become one of those people.

When someone or something makes you feel like you are even slightly less than enough, remove yourself from the situation. I know it's easier said than done, but at the end of the day, you have to be happy with the life you've created for yourself. Major in what you love regardless of the people that tell you it's pointless. Go on a trip across the world, talk to the person beside you at work or in class who seems like your polar opposite. Don't settle for a life that's less than extraordinary.

If there's a passion in your heart, or a calling you feel led to, go after it. The worst feeling you can have in life is that you settled for a life you didn't want, or a place you didn't want or even a person you didn't want. If you aren't the person you wanna be, don't settle. Chase your dreams fiercely. Realize you deserve the very best that you can give yourself and then go get it. Never settle, for anything. Your comfort zone is a familiar place, but you will never grow there.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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