Be Confident And All Will Come Together

7 Ways You Can Stand Tall And Boost Your Confidence Because, Babes, Confidence Is IN

Believe in yourself and all will follow. Here's seven tips and tricks on how to be confident in your body and life.


Everyone nowadays is preaching confidence.

"Confidence is sexy."

"Confidence is key to being happy."

"Just be confident!"

Confidence this, confidence that. Yeah, confidence is great and all, but how does one gain such confidence? Social media makes it seem like some people have the whole confidence thing down pat. It makes you sit staring at their posts thinking, "HOW? They make it seem so easy!"

Yes, of course, they make it seem easy; because it is easy. But it only became easy for them over time. They weren't always like this. It took time, effort, and a little of self-love to get there.

So, how do they do it? Well, that's what this article is here for! I don't consider myself extremely confident in all that I do, but I've come a long way from where I was. I've learned to love my body, I don't have to listen to what others say to make a decision about how I may look, and I take rejection a lot better than I used to. It's a daily process, but I've learned to love who I am and love the process of growing.

Instead of preaching confidence, let's just do the damn thing and be. Here are 7 ways you can instantly boost your confidence and start living that self-loving lifestyle.

1. Clean out that social media.

You may have heard this tip a lot, but it honestly is one of the best things you can do for yourself. You are who you surround yourself with, so if your feed is filled with negativity and hate you're going to feel all of that negativity and hate. Take the time to clean through your socials and unfollow any account that makes you feel anything less than confident. If unfollowing is too much, just hit the mute button on their profile. No negativity in your circle!

2. Me time is necessary.

People person or not, you need your alone time. You need this time to learn how to be confident and comfortable being in your own body. Go to the gym, read a book, take a walk, listen to your favorite podcast before you go to bed, pray. Do something every day that makes you happy. Five minutes or two hours, every second will help you reach that state where you're truly happy just being with yourself.

3. Dress confident, be confident.

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Now, this doesn't mean you need to wear heels and a dress every day to "dress confidently." My favorite outfit where I feel like a freaking bada** is black leggings, a sweatshirt, converse, and my leather jacket. I don't need to be dressed high-class to be confident. Dress in whatever way makes you happiest and most comfortable.

4. Get sleep.

Sleep, people! This is something I really need to work on, but getting a good night's sleep in essential for a lot of things, especially feeling good the next day. Start your day off right feeling energized and positive. I bet you'll feel ten times better with a little extra sleep in you.

5. Look into the mirror before you leave, and smile.

Weirdest tip I can give you, but it has worked wonders for me. Every morning before I leave, I'll check my outfit one last time and then smile at myself. It sounds so weird, but giving yourself that positive reinforcement will carry throughout the day.

6. Stop caring about what other people think.

If you're feeling yourself that day, feel yourself! Post that selfie, walk with a purpose, do you. Don't let anyone else's opinions matter. You are the only version of you out there, might as well live it up not giving a damn what others think or say.

7. Speak it into existence.

Say it out loud even if it's to yourself. "I'm confident." "I'm confident." "I'm confident." Write it, say it, think it. The more you start to verbalize it, the more it'll come true. Speak it into existence.

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PSA: Keep Your Body-Negative Opinions Away From Little Girls This Summer

But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with.


It's officially swimsuit season, y'all.

The temperature is rising, the sun is bright and shining, and a trip to the beach couldn't look more appealing than it does right now. This is the time of year that many of us have been rather impatiently waiting for. It's also the time of year that a lot of us feel our most self-conscious.

I could take the time to remind you that every body is a bikini body. I could type out how everyone is stunning in their own unique way and that no one should feel the need to conform to a certain standard of beauty to feel beautiful, male or female. I could sit here and tell you that the measurement of your waistline is not a reflection of your worth. I completely believe every single one of these things.

Hell, I've shared these exact thoughts more times than I can count. This time around, however, I'm not going to say all these things. Instead, I'm begging you to push your insecurities to the side and fake some confidence in yourself when you're in front of others.


Because our negative self-image is toxic and contagious and we're spreading this negative thinking on to others.

We're all guilty of this, we're with family or a friend and we make a nasty comment about some aspect of our appearance, not even giving a single thought to the impact our words have on the person with us. You might think that it shouldn't bother them- after all, we're not saying anything bad about them! We're just expressing our feelings about something we dislike about ourselves. While I agree that having conversations about our insecurities and feelings are important for our mental and emotional health, there is a proper and improper way of doing it. An open conversation can leave room for growth, acceptance, understanding, and healing. Making a rude or disheartening remark about yourself is destructive not only to yourself, but it will make the person you are saying these things around question their own self worth or body image by comparing themselves to you.

My little sister thinks she's "fat." She doesn't like how she looks. To use her own words, she thinks she's "too chubby" and that she "looks bad in everything."

She's 12 years old.

Do you want to know why she has this mindset? As her older sister, I failed in leading her by example. There were plenty of times when I was slightly younger, less sure of myself, and far more self-conscious than I am now, that I would look in the mirror and say that I looked too chubby, that my body didn't look good enough, that I wished I could change the size of my legs or stomach.

My little sister had to see the older sibling she looks up to, the big sis she thinks always looks beautiful, say awful and untrue things about herself because her own sense of body image was warped by media, puberty, and comparing herself to others.

My negativity rubbed off onto her and shaped how she looks at herself. I can just imagine her watching me fret over how I look thinking, "If she thinks she's too big, what does that make me?"

It makes me feel sick.

All of us are dealing with our own insecurities. It takes some of us longer than others to view ourselves in a positive, loving light. We're all working on ourselves every day, whether it be mentally, physically, or emotionally. But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with, our struggles and insecurities should not form into their own burdens.

Work on yourself in private. Speak kindly of yourself in front of others. Let your positivity, real or not, spread to others instead of the bad feelings we have a bad habit of letting loose.

The little girls of the world don't need your or my negative self-image this summer. Another kid doesn't need to feel worthless because we couldn't be a little more loving to ourselves and a lot more conscious of what we say out loud.

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Stand In The Mirror

An exercise in self-love.


If you're reading this, then I want you to stop what you're doing right now, get up from wherever you're sitting, and go stand in the mirror.

Yes, that's right. Close your laptops, put down your phones, and walk to the closest bathroom, or vanity, or wherever else you can see your reflection the most clearly. Pretend like you're the only person in the world for a little while.

Are you there? Good.

Now I want you to look at yourself, very closely.

Start with your eyes. How beautiful they look underneath the light; you can see all their colors, just like a painting! Something that unique belongs in an art museum, don't you think?

Those eyes of yours have seen so many wonderful things. Think of all the sunsets they've allowed you to witness, all the times your best friends have grinned from ear-to-ear and all the books you've read.

Now, look at your lips. Think of all the lovely people they may have kissed, all the Thanksgiving dinners they've touched and all the funny faces they've helped you express.

Think all of the times they've opened to exude laughter and joy, to express awe and other associated feelings words cannot express.

Now it's time to examine your arms. Shrug your shoulders and admire the way they fall so gently at your sides, like water flowing from the mouth of a river. Think of all the wonderful things they've helped you to reach, of all the trees they've helped you climb and monkey bars they've helped you swing through. Think of all the people they've hugged, and all the dogs they've helped you pet.

Finally, move to your legs. Think of all the races they've helped you win, all the hurdles they've helped you jump through and all the lengths they've helped you swim.

Think of all the pristine places they've carried you to, and reflect upon all the places you'll soon be heading to.

Can't you see now that you're a masterpiece, dripping with color and beauty, emotion and experience, from every fiber of your being?

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