Why It's Okay To Have A Few Close Friends Rather Than A Group Of Friends

Why It's Okay To Have A Few Close Friends Rather Than A Group Of Friends

They're like your adopted siblings, but better.
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These days, it's all about having 'squads' and 'squad goals,' and you can't go anywhere without seeing a group of friends together. Whether they're twelve-year-olds or college students, there is always that pit feeling in your stomach when you know you don't have what they have. And that's okay. Some people only have a few close friends, and that's actually better than having a large group of friends. Sure, having a large group of friends is nice, and it's great to hang out with a lot of people. You are part of a group and it is always nice to be a part of something. But for some people, hanging out in a group is sometimes daunting. Everyone is having different conversations, and you’re over there just sitting quietly and trying to get into a conversation with someone.

Sometimes it’s better to just have a couple of close friends. With them, you always feel wanted and the conversation flows naturally. And most of the time, you guys have been friends since you all were in diapers, or in kindergarten. You all grew up together, so you all know each other’s deep secrets that you promised you wouldn't tell a soul. And you all know who each other likes, and every time they talk to them, the rest of you giggle like crazy. The closeness between all of you is real and there is no way that it could be broken.

With a large group of friends, sometimes it’s hard to communicate with each friend. There is more than one type of friend in the group: there is the party girl, the funny person, the smart one, the flirty one, the party-pooper and so on. Everyone in the group is different, so the group dynamic is different. When everyone is together, there is usually about two or more conversations going on between different people and that makes it hard to get in the conversation. So you are always left out in conversations and it usually hurts. Most of the people don’t even know who everyone likes, or what everyone has been through in their lives. And if there is a lot of people in the group, sometimes it’s hard to find that closeness that a close group of friends would have.

With anything else, there always is an influence to have a large group of friends. Look at Taylor Swift for example, she has a large ‘squad’ with many celebrities and models. There is Selena Gomez, Lily Alridge, Behati Prinsloo, Lorde, Zendaya , Hailee Steinfeild and more.

And with the idea of ‘squad goals,' there is always more behind the actual picture. A picture does not define a friendship. Yes, the whole group is there. But what if the two girls at either end of the photo are fighting? They wouldn't show that in the picture because they wouldn't want to broadcast their fight. And even with pictures of people out having fun with friends, look at the actual big picture. If they went on a trip, and they posted more photos of the group together, it could mean that they only want photos of them together, to show off that they have a great group of friends. And if someone wanted to show off that they had a great group of friends, that person could be insecure about their friendships and relationships with others and thought that posting a lot of photos with their friends would show that they have good and close friends.

Close friends do not need to worry about showing off their friendship. They know that they have a great, close bond and that posting pictures together hanging out doesn't really mean much. And with a few close friends, it’s easier to be yourself without anyone judging you and asking why you are acting weird. Close friends know that their friendship is valuable and that they could never lose it. And with close friends, you are not just friends, but you are sisters. And a non-biological bond could never be broken.

It’s okay to have a few close friends than a large group of friends because with your close friends, it’s more than just a friendship. It’s a bond for life. They are your sisters, your bridesmaids/maids of honor and your confidantes. Don’t ever lose them.

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I Should Have Asked You On Valentine's Day

Morgan, this one is for you.
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Dear Morgan,

February 20th, 2018 will be the marking point of two years since the day I asked you to date me. We were so young back then and to be honest, it feels like forever ago. You are still the big-hearted girl that stole my heart.

As a tribute to you, I added song lyrics from oldies that I think define my feelings for you. That and because you never let me listen to my oldies during car rides. Sure maybe it’s weird, but you knew what you were getting into when we started dating.

“Then I saw her face, Now I'm a believer, Not a trace, of doubt in my mind, I'm in love, and I'm a believer, I couldn't leave her if I tried” – Believer by The Monkees (1967)

First, I just want to apologize for not asking you out on Valentine’s Day, two years ago. Looking back, it would have been a lot more romantic to have brought you balloons and a teddy bear on Valentine’s Day and then ask you to be my girlfriend. Believe me, that was the original plan but I thought it was too cliché. Besides being rejected is scary as hell. Like I was really scared.

“I've got sunshine on a cloudy day, With my girl (My girl). I've even got the month of May, With my girl (My girl, woah)”- My Girl by the Temptations (1965)

What is even scarier is writing this article to you. Again, I was going to do it on Valentine’s Day but I thought it will mean more to do it on an even more memorable day, February 20th. I am writing my love for you, to the world, for everyone to see. Yes, there will be jokes and comments, but what I learned in life is that does not matter. What matters is that you will love it. You will think that this is sweet. This will make you smile and that is all that really matters to me.

“You have found her, now go and get her. Remember to let her into your heart, Then you can start to make it better” – Hey Jude by the Beetles (1968)

So, here is the part where I tell you how I feel. The nerves that are rushing through me right now is crazy. Writing about sports and politics are easy but to put yourself and your emotions out there is a whole different game. As you know, after these last two years, I’m not an emotional or personal feelings type of person but here we go.

“When you hold me, In your arms so tight. You let me know, Everything's all right. I'm hooked on a feelin. I'm high on believing, That you're in love with me”- Hooked On a Feeling by Blue Suede (1974)

Morgan, these last couple of years have been an amazing experience. Yes, we broke up for a couple months and had our issues. What great relationships don't? But we figured them out. I would not trade this relationship in for the world. The smile I get when I think about those old memories. How much we matured and changed. The warm feeling I get when you smile. Let’s keep making new memories for infinity and beyond.

“And every night and every day. I'm gonna get you, I'm gonna get you. Look out 'cause I'm gonna get you. And I'm gonna make...

"I'm gonna make you love me. Oh, oh. (Yes I will)” – I’m Gonna Make You Love Me by The Supremes & The Temptations.

"Cause baby there ain't no mountain high enough. Ain't no valley low enough. Ain't no river wide enough. To keep me from getting to you babe " - Ain't No Mountain High Enough by Diane Ross (1970)

Hopefully, Odyssey editors will have this released before or on the 20th or this article will be very akward.

I lied this song isn’t an oldie but you know why I had to include it.

“So I'm gonna love you like I'm gonna lose you
And I'm gonna hold you like I'm saying goodbye
Wherever we're standing
I won't take you for granted
'Cause we'll never know when, when we'll run out of time



So I'm gonna love you like I'm gonna lose you
I'm gonna love you like I'm gonna lose you”

-Like I’m Gonna Lose You

Mehgan Trainor and John Legend

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5 Historical Comedies You'll Love Even If You Hate History

Who doesn't want to see a movie with a gay, dancing and singing Hitler?
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Whether you love history or not, comedy's something everyone can enjoy. After a long day at work or in class, sometimes you need a good laugh. While they're certainly not the most accurate, here are 5 hilarious historical comedies that everyone needs to see at least once in their life!

1. The Producers


Who doesn't want to see a movie with a gay, dancing and singing Hitler? This Mel Brooks movie about two producers purposely trying to force their own Broadway musical called Springtime for Hitler to fail is hilarious. Get ready to cry laughing with the Nazi playwright played by Will Ferell, and the producers played by Matthew Broderick (Ferris Bueller) and Nathan Lane (Timon from the Lion King).

2. Monty Python and the Holy Grail


This ridiculous comedy is considered a cult classic, and for good reason! It's all about everything that goes wrong on King Arthur and his knight's search for the Holy Grail. With a paraplegic knight that refuses to surrender, a prince trying to escape his marriage through song, and a vicious rabbit, this crazy comedy is nothing if not entertaining.


3. History of the World: Part 1


Another Mel Brooks work, this movie takes you from cavemen to the beheading of Louis XVI, and everything in between. History of the World: Part 1 makes fun of everything with no mercy, including the 10 Commandments, Moses parting the Red Sea, and the Spanish Inquisition, in musical form!

4. Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure


Even though it's not my personal favorite, there's no denying that Bill and Ted's is another cult classic. It's pretty entertaining to watch Keanu Reaves and his friend time travel in an attempt to pass their history final. Watch this trippy comedy, but be warned: it might give you painful flashbacks about the lengths you'll go to pass your finals.

5. Blazing Saddles


Yet another Mel Brooks movie! (Can you tell I love his movies, yet?) This movie about an African American sheriff in the old west pulls no punches whatsoever, but it one of the best comedies ever made, and one of my favorite movies ever. Check out Blazing Saddles if you're ready for non-stop laughs!

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