The "Angry" Black Women
Start writing a post

Stop It Pigeonholing Me Into A Stereotype Because 'Strong Black Women' Are NOT Invincible

Strong people have strong emotions

18
Stop It Pigeonholing Me Into A Stereotype Because 'Strong Black Women' Are NOT Invincible
https://c1.staticflickr.com/6/5655/22285333984_55346050c7_b.jpg

The "Strong Black Woman" has given up meals so that her kids could have them.

The "Strong Black Woman" has overlooked, dealt with the complete disregard of her position by the black males that she has uplifted.

The "Strong Black Woman" has put strangers before herself because she knew that if she didn't it would hurt her community.

Consequently, the "Strong Black Woman" continues to suffer from emotional neglect, and everyone around her is blind to her emotions.

Don't get me wrong, black women are one of the strongest members of the African American community. We withstand through many things ranging from the hypersexualization of our bodies to the slick remark about our "anger" from our peers. But, the "Strong Black Women" trope is slowly making it acceptable for people to disregard our feelings because we are "used to it" or we can "get over it". The truth is, we have emotions.

First of all, weakness in the black community is non-existent. By that, I mean that nobody addresses it. Let's say that I do decide to confront my family about being mentally ill. One of these three things could happen.

1. They'll tell me to go pray about it.

2. Try to convince me that I'm not sick and that I'm just sad.

3. They'll ignore me.

This reaction doesn't come from evil intentions, nor does it come from laziness. You see, hundreds of years ago a little thing called "slavery" happened. We still suffer from it today in even ways that you might think that it wouldn't affect, like mental illness. Our ability to prevail through slavery and the possibility of encountering a situation in which we have to deal with racism has caused many us to not appear weak to anyone.

Second of all, the general public. To them, a black woman's personality is binary. You're either the "strong black woman" or the "angry black women." With no in between. This can be quite frustrating considering the fact that we have to deal with microaggressions, abuse, sexism, horrendous sociopolitical conditions, and potential mental health issues.

You can see this in modern media and especially black modern media all of the time in characters from shows like "Maritn," "American Horror Story," and "Atlanta" and so forth.

SEE ALSO:Hollywood Should Have More Black Female Representation, The Right Way

But I guess that's light work, right? Nevertheless, it's hard to fit in when people think that you're a bitter person. So you do what anyone would do: hide your feelings until you inevitably explode (a bit dramatic, but you get what I mean). Now this happens a lot, and many don't even realize what they are doing, and it isn't everyone who possess this mentality. However, this issue is way too prevalent in society to ignore.

To sum it all up, black women, although extremely strong, are not invincible. It's true that we deal with issues that others turn away at the thought of, but that doesn't mean that those issues don't affect us at all. Some of us suffer from mental illnesses. Our issues exist and they don't just disappear with a prayer to the big man upstairs. When we confront you about our feelings we are neither angry nor crazy. We arehuman.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
beer on the beach

Summer is hot and humid, and it's almost like summer was made specifically to drink the refreshing, cold, crisp wonderful, delicious, nutritious nectar of the gods. Which is none other than beer; wonderful cold beer. With summer playing peek-a-boo around the corner while we finish up this semester, it's time to discuss the only important part of summer. And if you haven't already guessed, it's beer. There are few things I take more seriously than my beer, in order are: sports... and beer. Here are my favorite summer brews:

Keep Reading...Show less
Featured

7 Reasons SoCal Rocks!

75 degrees and sunny, plus, no humidity. I mean do I really need to say more?

1496
woman in black and white long sleeve shirt carrying girl in red jacket in Venice beach
Photo by Jeff Hopper on Unsplash

SoCal summers are the best summers by far, and honestly, no argument is needed. But, if you aren't sure why SoCal summers are the best, here are 7 reasons why!

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

25 Lyrics for Selfie Captions

Because let's be honest, we all use lyrics.

53794
woman takes a selfie for social media
Pixabay

Sometimes you can't think of the perfect caption for your Instagram post. I love using lyrics as my captions because there's so many great lines in songs that just seem to fit in the moment. Here are some lyrics that could work for your selfie or pictures of you with your friends!

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

Bruce Springsteen's Top 7 Lyrics

Everything Bruce says in his classic rock songs.

20251
bruce springsteen album cover born in the usa

Anyone who was born and raised in New Jersey (or anywhere really) knows of Bruce Springsteen, whether or not they like him is a whole other situation. I hope that his hundreds of classic rock songs and famous high energy performances, even in his sixties he can put on better concerts than people half his age, are at least recognizable to people of all ages. Love him or hate him (I identify with the former) you have to admit that some of his songs and interviews have inspirational quotes and lyrics.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

New England Summers Are The BEST Summers

Why you should spend your next summer in New England.

5169
Marconi Beach

Three years ago, I chose to attend college in Philadelphia, approximately 360 miles away from my small town in New Hampshire. I have learned many valuable lessons away from home, and have thoroughly enjoyed my time spent in Pennsylvania. One thing that my experience has taught me, however, is that it is absolutely impossible to beat a New England summer.

You cannot beat the beach. Believe it or not (which many people may not), New England has a long and beautiful coastline. Most of my high school summers were spent sitting on the Wall at Hampton Beach, getting sunburnt and eating Acai bowls from The Secret Spot. The Wall was the place to be both during the day and at night. We begin our days there with a KB's bagel and coffee, and end them with pizza and ice cream. It’s not a New England summer without that 4 p.m. text from someone, “Who wants to meet at the Wall tonight?” Nighttime is for Tripoli’s Pizza, the sound of waves, and wishes on shooting stars. Wednesday nights are especially important, as those are the nights that Hampton Beach sets off the weekly firework display.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments