Here are 10 things that they could say to me (and anyone else who cries) instead.
It's okay to be sad/scared/upset/anxious/etc.
Sometimes when I cry, I feel like I'm not allowed to let myself feel whatever I'm feeling. This helps me feel like my feelings are valid.
I understand that this is hard for you.
Hearing someone verbally recognize why something is difficult for me is often very comforting.
I'm here with you.
Knowing I have support from someone is often reassuring, even if it doesn't immediately make me feel better.
Tell me about it.
Sometimes I just need to talk it out or vent. Being able to do that in certain situations is key. But please don't tell me to talk about what I'm feeling and then be judgmental and not be supportive It kind of defeats the purpose.
Let's take some deep breaths together.
Often times when I cry, I forget to breathe, which tends to get me more worked up. Getting me to breathe with you for a few moments will definitely help calm me down.
I'm listening.
A lot of times, I cry because I'm frustrated from feeling like I'm not being heard. All it takes is these two simple words to help me know that I am.
That was really sad/scary/disappointing/etc.
This is another good way to show me that you are listening and help me remember that it is okay to feel.
I hear that you need space. I want to be here for you. (I'll stay close so you can find me when you are ready.)
Nothing against anyone, but sometimes when I cry I just need to be left alone. That doesn't mean that I don't want support. This helps me to know you are still there.
What do you need?
This is one I don't hear a lot, but it's actually one of the most helpful. It allows me to stop and think about what would be helpful to me in that moment. Crying often makes me stop thinking about anything that isn't what I'm crying about, and this question distracts me in a healthy way.
13 YouTubers You Need To Start Watching, ASAP
Whether you have twelve minutes or half an hour, like true crime or travel vlogs, YouTube is the place you should be.
With hundreds of thousands of content creators out in the YouTube universe, I only thought that it would be right to name a few that are actually worth your time. YouTubers come in all shapes, sizes, and genres. Most YouTubers fit into multiple molds so when you find a good one it is worth it to stick with them, and dare I say, turn on notifications. Here are thirteen of my favorite YouTubers!
1. Ellen Fisher
Ellen has a well around channel with videos ranging from vegan cooking, lifestyle to gardening. Her videography is unmatchable as she spends her videos centered around nature and her family. If you ever need a relaxing video to put on right before bed, Ellen Fisher is your gal.
2. Kendall Rae
Kendall's channel is centered around conspiracy theory videos and true crime. Her videos and articulation in them keep you grounded while your head is full of all this new information. Her videos always hold every piece of information holding no gruesome detail back, lasting at least half an hour. Her videos are the ones you watch when you have time to sit and soak the crime in.
3. Levi Bernhardt
Levi's videos are videos you would expect to see from your home videos from 5th grade. His editing style is just comedic gold, and his vlogs are never disappointing. He recently moved to Korea and the amount of footage he has shot has doubled. Nothing but applause for this man right here!
4. Cut
A more popular channel, Cut is known for its masterpieces such as fear bong, truth or drink, and blind date episodes. their content ranges in time but is consistent when it comes to entertainment. Subscribing to Cut's channel will fill your subscription box with nothing but ready to watch videos.
5. KKandbabyJ
This family vlog channel always can put a smile on my face. Keren and Khoa have three adorable little boys, and a wedding on the way. Their channel shows the realness of family and how not every day is going to be the picture perfect day. They both also have their own separate channels and do other types of videos there as well. A great family vlog that shows a little diversity in the YT realm.
6. Michelle Reed
Michelle is the perfect guide to living in your early twenties and navigating life, school, relationships, and religion. Based in New York City Michelle discusses heavy topics from heart break to mental illness. She isn't afraid to show her "weak" side to her viewers and always finds the positive in situations. Michelle's channel will leave you with a calming sense, and relaxed demeanor.
7. Kristin Johns
Kristin's channel always makes me leave feeling warm, if that even makes sense. Her videos have a range consisting of lifestyle, relationship, health, religion, and my favorite her love for plants. Her plant videos always give me mad inspiration to go on a shopping spree. Also, she has two golden retrievers, Camper and Honey, who make appearances in her videos adding a wonderful bonus.
8. Wear I Live
Jenny has opened my eyes to the life of living in New York as a twenty-something-year-old. Her videos are always beautifully put together and her style is something I have never seen before. Jenny spends her time as a student but also talks about body image issues and how the standard of beauty needs to be thrown out the window. She also has great random videos that make you feel like you are right there with her in her little apartment.
9. Best Dressed
Ashley has videos that talk about her open sexuality and her body, along with killer thrifting and fashion videos. She always keeps it real and gives you the advice you wish your mom gave you years ago.
10. Tess Christine
The amount of time that Tess spends on her videos speak volumes in the end. Her perfect editing style and amazing camera shots show that hard work and dedication pay off. She makes mainly fashion videos but her travel videos are always breath taking.
11. April Athena 7
This mom of two has nothing standing in her way. April has multiple channels including ones for baking and cleaning. Her cleaning videos are what drew me in, in the first place. Her encouraging voice and dedication ot cleanliness may not be for everyone but these videos reduce my stress and are great for putting on while you clean up around your room, or even go full April and clean for eight hours straight.
12. Niomi Smart
Niomi's channel is one of the best lifestyle channels on YouTube. Her videos have a broad spectrum from travel vlogs, to skin care, and clothing reviews. Niomi has a very mellow attitude that will end up leaving you binge-watching her videos. She also has an English accent so what's not to love?
13. Cody Ko
This wouldn't be the best YouTubers to watch without Mr. Ko. Cody has over 200 videos that are nothing but pure geniuses. The fact that he not only roasts other people but mostly himself make his videos worthy of a shoutout. His videos are videos that end up on twitter and go viral only to be repeated by people on the daily. Ever heard of "too much nic?" yeah it was this guy (along with Noel).
After all of this is said and done, if you made it this far drop a like, leave a comment, and I'll see you guys next week! *hand goes over camera lens like every early vlogger in 2010*