Should Parents Support Their Adult Children?

No, Karen, My Parents Aren't Spoiling Me, It's Called Being Practical

Are we spoiled or is it necessary?

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"You're spoiled and your parents aren't doing any favors for you."

I hear this a lot, not only from people my age but from older generations as they sip on their drinks and scoff my way. It's because I know if I need something, all I have to do is ask my mom and dad and they'll do their best to help me. Some people would call that spoiled. But growing up, I never had anything handed to me. My allowance was having a place to live, running water and food in my stomach.

Yes, I am nearly 19 years old and have my parents supporting me. Yes, my brother is 21 and has our parents supporting him. The facts are simple: we need help, we can't do it on our own and they know that.

I am an out-of-state college student attending Auburn University. It is NOT cheap. My brother works as a delivery driver for a pizza place. He makes $4.25 an hour, works six days a week and relies on tips.

Making that $4.25 an hour, he would not be able to pay rent, not to mention gas, food, insurance, or any other expenses.

Here's the vicious cycle that I face.

You go to college so you can get a job. To pay for college, you need a job. However, it's very difficult to get a job if you have no previous experience but can't get experience if you've never had a job.

Most jobs have set shifts and won't work with your college schedule. Yes, I am aware there are people that are able to pull this off. I also know people that had to drop out of college to work more because they couldn't afford college, rent, food, etc. with what they were being paid.

My parents aren't spoiling me. They're being practical.

There is a difference between parents sending you USD $1,000 for existing and helping you pay your grocery bill because you couldn't afford it this time. There is also a difference between being 40 and living in your parent's basement and being 20 and needing help sometimes.

Don't judge a person having their parent's help when you don't know their circumstances. Someone may be struggling with mental health issues that block their ability to do certain things.

Just because my parents didn't leave me in the alligator pen doesn't mean that I'm spoiled.

It means that they know I work my hardest to do what I can, to make money and get good grades in the classes we pay for. They know how stressed I always am and know that I can't always do it on my own.

Parents should support their children until they have the ability to do it on their own. We're not there yet.

Don't judge me, and I won't judge you, Karen.

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A Letter To High School Seniors On Graduation Day

The rest of your life begins today.
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Dear High School Senior,

Today's the day you've been waiting for your whole life. You'll wake up a little earlier than usual, brush your teeth and go downstairs for your last breakfast as a high school student. Your mom will look at you with tears running down her cheeks wondering how her baby grew up so quickly. Your friends will be texting your group message non-stop with words of disbelief, wondering where the time went. You guys made it to the day you've been counting down to all year long.

You'll start to reminisce on things like your first pep rally and the dorky outfits you wore freshman year. You'll laugh at things your old teachers did and remember the ones who left to teach somewhere else. You'll wonder how the guys in your grade actually managed to grow up and laugh at how young you all looked when you had just begun. You'll remember all of the football games you attended and consider how strange it will be seeing other people wearing your guy friends' numbers when the Thanksgiving game rolls around. You'll drive by the soccer field and think of all the blood, sweat and tears you gave to it over your high school career.

You'll recall your first real kiss and joke about how upset you were when the first boy broke your heart. It'll feel like yesterday when you walk through those doors for the final time and look around at all of the empty lockers. You'll gather with your classmates together in the same place for the last time and think about how you're all going to be in different places next year. You'll be excited but nervous because in a few hours, life as you know it will change.

So before you sit down to hear the Valedictorian's speech and walk the stage to receive your diploma, make sure you take the time to appreciate the memories you made in those halls. Thank your teachers, even the difficult ones, because when you're sitting down in your first college class, you'll feel grateful for the work they made you do. Thank your parents for supporting you. It's not easy raising a teenager, but they did not give up on you regardless of how brutal puberty was.

Thank your friends. They're the ones that got you through your first heartbreak and made sure that you were going to be okay. They listened to your complaints after a big fight with your mom, even if they thought you were wrong. They forgave you when you were wrong and understood your bad days. They stood up for you when you got yourself in a bad situation. They brought you coffee when you didn't have time to get it yourself. They took you home when you couldn't make it there alone. They celebrated your good news and helped you through the bad. They made you laugh uncontrollably and created memories that you'll hold on to forever. They made you who you are today.

After you receive your diploma and throw your cap in the air, make the most of the time you have left with your high school friends before you all head off to college. You only have a few months before you're sitting in a dorm room surrounded by unfamiliar faces. Work, but don't forget that memories last longer than money. Go to the beach, take lots of pictures, go out on Friday nights and enjoy the days that summer has to give. Trust me, college will be awesome, but you'll never be the same person that you are today.

Sincerely,

Your College Self

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9 Facts Of Life When You Call A Veteran Mom Or Dad

The military is a part of your parent's identity, and it is consequently a part of yours as their kid, even if you haven't realized it yet.

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If your parent is a veteran, odds are the military runs through their veins. You don't remember when you learned what the military was or how it worked. All you know is that you did learn and at a very young age at that. During your time growing up, your parent has probably received multiple military-themed gifts and has told you about the good ole military days more than a few times.

So, if your parent is a veteran, here are nine facts of your life.

1. Curse words are a frequent form of expression

Bad words are beautiful gifts to the languages. Odds are your parent not only knows all the curse words in the English language but probably some others in a foreign language. My dad knows quite a few in German.

2. Guns are not inherently "bad"

While I cannot speak for everyone's parents' political beliefs, odds are guns are not hated in a military household, considering the military relies on them a lot of the times.

3. Pretty much ALL gifts you get for them are military-themed

We have gotten my father a LEGO tank model, many other tanks models, military T-shirts, veteran-made coffee, glasses with bullets stuck in the sides, and many more items that I could list off if I so wished.

4. There are at least 20 t-shirts with the American flag on it in your household

This goes along with the gift thing. A fair majority of your parent's wardrobe is made up of military-related clothing, and there is no denying it. USA loud and proud.

5. Alcohol and coffee = the two main forms of sustenance

Now that I think about it, I have never met a veteran that doesn't enjoy at least one of these things immensely. Like... ever.

6. You'll learn weird phrases or sayings that you have never heard any one else's parents say

My father always says, "Well, that's a dead soldier!" after a bottle is emptied in my house. According to Google, this phrase derives from WWI times, in which people referred to empty bottles as "dead soldiers" or "dead marines" because the bottle has served its duty. Also, my dad has explained to me many times that the f-word is actually an acronym referring to early prostitutes.

So, that's fun.

7. You'll hear the same military stories a THOUSAND times

For example, my dad once lived in a barracks that all the soldiers claimed was haunted. They would hear boots going up and down the halls late at night while everyone was in bed, or so the story goes over and over and over...

8. And when you try to INTERRUPT the military stories, they just take more time to tell it

OMG I KNOW THAT IT WAS HAUNTED. PLEASE JUST LET ME STARE INTO THE FRIDGE MINDLESSLY

9. You are proud to call them your parent

They served for their country. Now, they serve you as your parent and a great parent at that.

I love you, Dad!

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