No Shame In The Blame Game - Removing The Sources In Your Life That Don’t Make You Happy
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No Shame In The Blame Game - Removing The Sources In Your Life That Don’t Make You Happy

The only thing between you and your happiness is you.


"We accept the love we think we deserve." - The Perks of Being a Wallflower

"How you love yourself / is how you teach others / to love you." - Milk and Honey, Rupi Kaur

"Truly beautiful quotes, but let's give them the hard and honest truth." - Kerre Lattanzio

Here. We. Go.

Know your worth.

Acknowledging sources of unhappiness in your life is hard, and removing them takes guts. Scared? Of course! So stop the effort now, right? You could easily settle today and accept your life for what it is - the good, the bad, and the ugly. And get where? Nowhere. Why set the bar so low when you could be setting the bar so high? The only thing between you and your happiness is you.

Define the sources of your unhappiness.

That class? That job? Your roommate? Friend? Partner? Just 1 of them? How about 3? Maybe you're hitting the jackpot with all five? Welcome to the blame game. The harsh reality is that increasing your happiness is a selfish process. Selfish times call for selfish measures, and that is okay. You happiness is valued and you are simply protecting it. You have to define now in order to say goodbye later.

Break down the advantages and disadvantages.

Real talk: Are these sources benefiting you? Or are you spending more time benefiting them? Are you putting in more effort? Or is the effort mutual? In these circumstances, it is time to focus on what you are gaining rather than what you are giving.

Determine if the sources need to stay or go.

Step one: Imagine life without the sources. Completely mind-blowing step two: Imagine life with the sources. If you are more at ease without, then honey, it's time for that unhappiness to go. You will feel a sense of pride and recognition when something making you happy should stay.

Realize that you are going to be okay.

The first few days living without your sources of unhappiness are the toughest because it is all you know. How will you go on without them?! But amazingly, you do. With each day that goes on, your confidence is increased, and you become rejuvenated in a new routine. Trust me on this. Your future, happier self will thank you.

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