No Shame In The Blame Game - Removing The Sources In Your Life That Don’t Make You Happy

No Shame In The Blame Game - Removing The Sources In Your Life That Don’t Make You Happy

The only thing between you and your happiness is you.


"We accept the love we think we deserve." - The Perks of Being a Wallflower

"How you love yourself / is how you teach others / to love you." - Milk and Honey, Rupi Kaur

"Truly beautiful quotes, but let's give them the hard and honest truth." - Kerre Lattanzio

Here. We. Go.

Know your worth.

Acknowledging sources of unhappiness in your life is hard, and removing them takes guts. Scared? Of course! So stop the effort now, right? You could easily settle today and accept your life for what it is - the good, the bad, and the ugly. And get where? Nowhere. Why set the bar so low when you could be setting the bar so high? The only thing between you and your happiness is you.

Define the sources of your unhappiness.

That class? That job? Your roommate? Friend? Partner? Just 1 of them? How about 3? Maybe you're hitting the jackpot with all five? Welcome to the blame game. The harsh reality is that increasing your happiness is a selfish process. Selfish times call for selfish measures, and that is okay. You happiness is valued and you are simply protecting it. You have to define now in order to say goodbye later.

Break down the advantages and disadvantages.

Real talk: Are these sources benefiting you? Or are you spending more time benefiting them? Are you putting in more effort? Or is the effort mutual? In these circumstances, it is time to focus on what you are gaining rather than what you are giving.

Determine if the sources need to stay or go.

Step one: Imagine life without the sources. Completely mind-blowing step two: Imagine life with the sources. If you are more at ease without, then honey, it's time for that unhappiness to go. You will feel a sense of pride and recognition when something making you happy should stay.

Realize that you are going to be okay.

The first few days living without your sources of unhappiness are the toughest because it is all you know. How will you go on without them?! But amazingly, you do. With each day that goes on, your confidence is increased, and you become rejuvenated in a new routine. Trust me on this. Your future, happier self will thank you.

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10 Fun Facts About Animals That Will 100% Make Your Day

A little animal pick-me-up.


The beautiful world that we live in is filled with so many different animals that are all unique and special. There's something to learn from each living creature on our Earth. Here are some facts about animals that will surely make you smile and maybe give you the pick up that you need!

1. 3% of the ice in Antarctica is made of penguin urine

Penguins really make their mark.

2. Dolphins name their friends

Dolphins associate a sound to each of their friends.

3. Cows love to listen to music

Cows have been shown to produce more milk when listening to slow music.

4. And they have best friends

They get stressed out when their best friend is not with them.

5. Honeybees know how to dance

They dance to survive and tell fellow honeybees where the flowers are.

6. Rats like to be tickled

Rats laugh when tickled. Who doesn't like to be tickled?

7. Squirrels will adopt orphans

If baby squirrels are left abandoned, fellow squirrels will take them in.

8. Elephants self-soothe

We all need some self love.

9. Worms want companionship and with companions snuggle

We all love to snuggle, even worms.

10. Quokka's can smile

I think I found my new favorite animal.

Hopefully, these facts about animals make you feel warm and fuzzy. Have a great day.

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A New Years Resolution Must PART 2


**If you haven't read, A New Years Resolution Must, I wouldd take a peek at that real quick before you get too into this because it will make MUCH more sense :)

Quick thought before I get to the main point of my article:

I really really enjoyed the 25 Days of Kindness Cards and I definitely want to do something similar again in some way shape or form. I have not decided yet but in scrolling through some of the older articles I've written, I remembered what I wrote this past year for Lent. In 10 Things To Give Up For Lent Other Than That Favorite Candy Bar, I talked about writing letters to different people. My original plan was to write 40 letters, one for each day of Lent. It failed miserably. 40 is a lot! But I definitely think approaching that in the same way I wrote the 25 Days of Kindness Cards will be a better way to spend some time in reflection, not just during Lent, but during any point of the year. You don't just have to write a letter. You can just send the little quotes of kindness. Leave them in random people's mailboxes or slip them under a door or leave them on a bus seat or a park bench. You never know who'll need it.

NOT THAT LENT IS ANYTIME SOON... I don't want to rush the seasons. Just a thought or two to get you thinking if you were considering taking on something like this. Or maybe to get you thinking :)

Okay, now to the real point:

In keeping with the theme of my last article-spreading little bits of kindness all over-I wanted to share with everyone the 18 different kindness quotes that I put in each of the 25 Days of Kindness Cards. Like I said in the little blerb before, you don't even have to write a letter. Print these out and spread them out in your dorm building, across campus, or any other place you can think of. Save them and text a different one to a different person each day. Maybe these will be the few that get you going on your small acts of kindness journey!

How do we change the world? "One random act of kindness at a time"

Surprising Effects Of Kindness

You will never regret being kind

May every word that is ever spoken by our mouths or typed by our fingers be words that lift up and never words that tear down

Be good to people. You will be remembered more for your kindness than any level of success you could possibly attain.

Kindness begins with me

Kindness is like snow-It beautifies everything it covers.

Do small things with great love.  (Couldn't not put this one in there :) )

Kindness is not an act. It is a lifestyle.

Sometimes it takes only one act of kindness and caring to change a person's life.

One kind word can change someone's entire day

Kindness is free. Sprinkle that stuff everywhere.

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.

Be silly. Be honest. BE KIND.

Be the reason someone smiles today.

A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions. And the roots spring up and make new trees.

You never know what light you might spark in others just through your kindness and your example.

I found it is the small everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keep the darkness at bay... small acts of kindness and love.

Be somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody.

Choose kind over cool.

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