Think Before You Speak (Inspired By Sweatpants & Toothpaste)

Think Before You Speak (Inspired By Sweatpants & Toothpaste)

The most important lesson of the times.


A few weeks ago, when getting ready to have a night on the town, a female friend of mine said, "I'm going to go out in my sweatpants one day."

And what was the instinctual response that catapulted straight into my head?


Seconds after having that thought, a wave of embarrassment flooded my whole being. Was that sexist of me to think? I let my friend know what had internally occurred so we could sort it out together, and she pointed out a very fascinating factoid:

I was dressed and ready to go out…

in my sweatpants…

and I had done it many times before.

I immediately berated myself for that sexist thought, of course. It is silly of me to have different standards for what a woman can wear versus what a man can wear for a fun night out. But my friends stopped me in my tracks, saying that it was fine that I had the thought because I recognized my fault and altered it before it could come out of my mouth.

It is okay to mess up, as long as you work to change in the future. That seems to be the message here—the reality might actually be a little more complicated. In the environment we live in today, one mistake can last a lifetime, and rightfully so.

Kanye West can't run from saying that slavery was a choice.

Governor Ralph Northam won't ever escape those photos from his college yearbook.

Donald Trump will be forever be branded with the slogan "grab 'em by the pussy."

"It is okay to mess up, as long as you work to change in the future" isn't the message here.

When I was younger my mother was a coach for Girls on the Run. I stayed after school with her somedays and sat in on a few lessons. I remember one lesson particularly well. She squeezed some toothpaste onto her fingers.

"You see how easy that was to squeeze out? Now try to put it back into the tube."

You might be able to force some of the toothpaste back in. Apologizing might take some of the heat away. But still, actions have consequences. Words have consequences.

Nobody is perfect. Growth takes time and exposure. You are going to mess up. You are going to become a better version of yourself. Just be careful. Make sure what you are doing and what you are saying is honest. Kind. Helpful. Understanding. Loving.

So the lesson here might be something more along the lines of:

Always think before you speak.

And don't be afraid to go out wearing sweatpants every once in a while.

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These Are 4 Proven Ways That Vaccines Cause Autism

Stock up on those essential oils.


Let's just start with the first (and main) point.

1. They don't.

Susan in your anti-vax group is not a scholarly source (despite her hours and hours of Google research).

2. But in case you still believe Susan...

Maybe you'll believe Autism Speaks who says, "Scientists have conducted extensive research over the last two decades to determine whether there is any link between childhood vaccinations and autism. The results of this research is clear: Vaccines do not cause autism."

3. And if Autism Speaks still didn't convince you...

Feel free to take a look at this comprehensive list of studies that all say that there is no relationship between vaccines such as the MMR vaccination and the development of autism.

4. But here's what you should know...

There have been a few studies lately that have shown that autism develops in utero aka before a baby is even born AND before a baby can even receive vaccinations.

Vaccinations have prevented COUNTLESS deaths and illnesses. Vaccination rates are continuing to fall and do you know what that means? Measles will make its way back. Whooping cough will come back. Rubella, mumps, and polio will come back and there will be no way to stop it.

So, now that you know that vaccines do not cause autism, you're welcome to go tell Susan from your anti-vax group that as well as tell her that the Earth isn't flat. But, don't forget to mention it to her that her essential oils and organic foods are not keeping her children safe from the measles or tuberculosis.

Vaccinate your children. And, besides, even IF vaccinations caused autism, wouldn't you rather have a child with a developmental disorder rather than a child who died from the measles?

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Being Sick In College Is A Real Struggle

Being sick in college is definitely not as fun as having a sick day in middle school or high school.


Something that I have had to deal with multiple times these past two semesters is being sick while in school. It can be a real pain especially depending on what type of sickness it is. I have had tonsillitis, mono, and I'm pretty sure I also had the flu.

Being at school and away from home can make being sick worse because there is nobody to take of you such as your parents. Another thing is having to make the decision to get the rest that your body needs in order to feel better or staying on top of your assignments to avoid falling behind. My parents will always tell me to get a good night's sleep so my body can feel better the next day. However, sometimes I will feel more stress if my work isn't getting done and I feel like I'm falling behind and leaving things to get done in the last minute.

Currently, I am sick now and the past few days haven't been easy, but I still attended all my classes so I wouldn't miss any material or assignments that were given. I usually end up feeling the worst at night when trying to fall asleep, and by that time the doctors are not present at the student health center. Even though my health is important I usually don't like taking too much time out of my day to go to the health center to see a doctor. Some days I don't really have much free time before the evening.

I don't believe I have been over-exerting myself, but I don't want to just stay in my bed all day and sleep, even though that may be what is best for me. Most professors will be understanding if I email them and provide them a doctor's note as well, but I also just got back from a conference where I had to miss two days of classes next week.

I have been trying to keep hydrated so that way my body can fight the sickness. Also, I have been told if you stay hydrated you can flush the virus out of your body quicker.

Eating can also be a pain when you have a sore throat, for the past couple of days I have tried to have some soup in order to help. Most meals I would have to force myself to eat something of substance in order to give my body some type of energy in order to get through the day. It's also never fun not being able to breathe out of your nostrils. If it wasn't my nose being stuffed, then it would be constantly runny so there was no winning that battle.

Looking back, I probably should have done a bit more work over spring break in order to get ahead in the case that something like this would happen. I wanted my break to be exactly that, a break. After not being home for a few months I just wanted some time off to relax.

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