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Why Job Hunting Is An Absolute Nightmare

Is there an easy way out?


Since I was seventeen, I've moved from job to job with little to no stress. I utilized the common practice of finding a new job before you leave your old one. After working my first retail job for a little less than a year, I found out I would be relocating to a new state with my family. Without even thinking, I started applying to any and all retailers in the new state. The very next day, I got a call from my next employer. I worked for that big box retailer for a year while attending a local community college. I was studying architecture and my professor suggested it would be smart for me to have a job in my field. He set me up with an interview and I was working at a firm before I knew it.

Unfortunately, working at the architecture firm was not all it cracked up to be. I was miserable from the beginning, but I didn't consider quitting or looking elsewhere. Instead, I worked quietly and allowed the days to pass by. The end of the school year came along and with that came graduation. I had finished my two-year program and was ready to move onto bigger and better things. That included ridding myself of a toxic work environment. Instead of utilizing my practice from years ago, I decided to quit abruptly. Maybe it wasn't the best idea, but I wanted out because I wasn't happy or healthy.

I began job hunting the day I submitted my letter of resignation. I created a profile on every job site imaginable and applied for any job I came across, even if my qualifications didn't match. I needed to find something and fast. The thought of not having a steady income stressed me out. Emails started flooding in from companies days after telling me they had chosen someone else. Some were companies that fit my career path and some were not. It didn't matter to me though. I just needed a job where I could work to pay my bills.

It's been almost two weeks since I quit. I've heard from one potential employer, but that position doesn't start until June. Had I been less stressed in the final weeks of the semester, I would've been avidly searching for a job. It didn't occur to me until now that I probably could've had one lined up had I been a bit better at planning for the future.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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