I'll Always Be An Organ Donor

I'll Always Be An Organ Donor

I mean, outside of the cute little heart I get to have on my state ID.

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Check yes, nod at the clerk, give them a big thumbs up... It's really not hard to sign up as an organ donor. For me, it looks less than five seconds when buying a state ID to tell my clerk that yes, I did want to donate my organs to anyone in need after I died.

Organ donors like myself are always in high demand, especially because only 3 in 1,000 people die in ways that allow for an organ transplant. That wouldn't be too bad if the vast majority of people were organ donors, but only 54% of Americans are signed up to be donors.

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But why aren't people donors?

One word: religion.

While most all major religions are not in opposition of organ donation, studies have found that people will cite their religious beliefs are why they're opposed to donating their organs. Many people believe that they may not have access to the afterlife if their bodies aren't fully intact, but I have a problem with this logic.

"God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them." Hebrews 6:10.

"None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself." Saheeh Al-Bukarhi.

Most large religions have this reoccurring theme of altruism, and that's what organ donation is all about: sharing something you have with someone less fortunate. Giving them a body part that I'll no longer be using won't harm me, it will help them, and it will hopefully look good if there's a Big Guy Upstairs.

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So go watch an episode of "The Bachelor." In those 60 minutes, 6 people have been added to the organ transplant list.

Go spend a relaxing weekend at the beach. In those two days, 40 people died waiting for an organ transplant.

Go to the DMV. Check that box. Save a life. Save eight lives, even. Be that person's shot at a second life.

It's not like anything is stopping you.

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A Love Letter To The Girl Who Cares Too Much About Everyone But Herself

You, the girl with a heart full of love and no place big enough to store it all.

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Our generation is so caught up in this notion that it's "cool" not to care about anything or anyone. I know you've tried to do just that.

I'm sure there was a brief moment where you genuinely believed you were capable of not caring, especially since you convinced everyone around you that you didn't. But that just isn't true, is it? Don't be ashamed of this, don't let anyone ridicule you for having emotions.

After everything life has put you through, you have still remained soft.

This is what makes you, you. This is what makes you beautiful. You care so deeply and love so boldly and it is incredible, never let the world take this from you.

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You are the girl who will give and give and give until you have absolutely nothing left. Some may see this as a weakness, an inconvenience, the perfect excuse to walk all over you. I know you try to make sense of it all, why someone you cared so much about would treat you the way they did.

You'll make excuses for them, rationalize it and turn it all around on yourself.

You'll tell yourself that maybe just maybe they will change even though you know deep down they won't. You gave them everything you had and it still feels as if they took it all and ran. When this happens, remind yourself that you are not a reflection of those who cannot love you. The way that people treat you does not define who you are. Tell yourself this every day, over and over until it sticks. Remind yourself that you are gold, darling, and sometimes they will prefer silver and that is OK.

I know you feel guilty when you have to say no to something, I know you feel like you are letting everyone you love down when you do. Listen to me, it is not your responsibility to tend to everyone else's feelings all the time. By all means, treat their feelings with care, but remember it is not the end of the world when you cannot help them right away.

Remember that it is OK to say no.

You don't have to take care of everyone else all the time. Sometimes it's OK to say no to lunch with your friends and just stay home in bed to watch Netflix when you need a minute for yourself. I know sometimes this is much easier said than done because you are worried about letting other people down, but please give it a try.

With all of this, please remember that you matter. Do not be afraid to take a step back and focus on yourself. You owe yourself the same kind of love and patience and kindness and everything that you have given everyone else. It is OK to think about and put yourself first. Do not feel guilty for taking care of yourself. You are so incredibly loved even when it doesn't feel like it, please always remember that. You cannot fill others up when your own cup is empty. Take care of yourself.

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I Asked People On Tinder The 36 Questions That Are Supposed To Make You Fall In Love

According to a New York Times article, there are 36 questions lead to love. I brought them to Tinder to test that theory.

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I recently read a New York Times article about 36 questions that, supposedly, help people fall in love. According to the article, when two people answer these 36 questions together, their chances of intimacy accelerates because of the vulnerability created from these personal questions. The questions talk about family, morals, habits, negative things, positive things, and other touchy subjects that people usually do not address with one another, especially not people they have just met. So I decided to take these questions to Tinder to see if 36 questions really can lead to love.

Interviewee Profiles

Before getting started, I had to ask for some background information, just to get a better perspective of their love-lives and past experiences with love. Here are quick profiles I came up with to condense the answers (names changed for privacy):

Anna: Has been in love once before. It took her about three months and lasted a year. She knew she was in love because she "couldn't spend a day without thinking about them." [She] knew it was starting up but then one day it hit like oh [she's] been in love for a while now." It fizzled out as the relationship ended and because they spent time apart.

Patrick: Thought he was in love once but wasn't really. He knew that because he "cared more about the way she made [him] feel than [he] cared about her. And that's not love." To him, love is "really caring about the other person. It's a warm feeling in your soul when you think of them. Like a calm in the storm. Like a deep permeating wave of kindness that you feel."

Dylan: Has been in love before. It lasted three months, it was "...like falling asleep. Gradually and then all at once." He still loves her but in a friend kind of way. He thinks this experiment is meant for "people to see if they're meant for each other and maybe be more inclined to go out, but maybe not immediate head over heels in love."

Most Interesting Answers

36 questions yielded a lot of interesting and telling answers, so here are a few of them:

"Do you have a secret hunch as to how you will die?"

Anna: "I have a feeling cancer cause that takes everyone out...and I'm not special y'know"

Patrick: "Lol damn that's too real. Probably either getting depressed and killing myself when I'm 30 or 40 or a mugging went wrong."

Dylan: "I don't know why exactly but it's always been like a 'hero's death' like putting someone else's life over my own. Saving a baby from a burning building."

"For what in your life do you feel most grateful?"

Anna: "I feel most grateful for my mom 'cause she's like my best friend."

Patrick: "I guess my mind. Just being myself."

Dylan: "My family and my good health. I may not be rich but I'm grateful for all of what I've been given."

"Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?"

Anna: "I wanna move to New York. I haven't yet 'cause I'm waiting to transfer out of my college to go to one in NYC."

Patrick: "A good night's sleep lol mostly 'cause I haven't had time."

Dylan: "Learning French or taking a dance class. I just haven't found a good opportunity yet!"

"How close and warm is your family?"

Anna: "Ooo my family is meeeaaann. But it's like playful mean where like we make fun of each other a lot but like sometimes it's like... whoa that's mean. My childhood wasn't the happiest but maybe 'cause I was unaware I was very content with it. I'm very optimistic so I think I just focused on the positive parts."

Patrick: "I don't feel awfully close with my family but I love them and would do anything for them. I feel like I had a normal childhood, y'know the ones that give you enough trauma to work on through your teen years and maybe become a better person from but not so much that you turn into a sociopath/ ax murderer, you know? 😂"

Dylan: "Lol not close at all. It sucked real bad."

So, Did It Work?

The verdict's out, people. I tested the 36 questions with three strangers, and here's what they replied with when I asked if it worked and if they were actually in love with me after answering these questions:

Anna: "Lol, I'm infatuated. But honestly, it's smart to do that instead of the average like 'Oh, hi, how are you.' It helps you get a sense of that person and see if you wanna continue talking. I liked it. It was fun."

Patrick: "I feel like I definitely got to know you better through all of this. Who knows if it's love, but I definitely feel like I know you better and that there's more connection after answering those questions than if we just started talking randomly about whatever."

Dylan: "I liked it! They were really insightful questions and it gave me a chance to get to know you better. You really kept it interesting. I don't know if it's love, but I feel like I know more about you as a person after this and wanna keep talking."

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So love may not have been found, but I definitely made some new friends and got to know these people better, so if you ever get tired of the same old 20 Questions game, maybe give these questions a shot.

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