If Being Honest Is A Bad Trait, How Many Other Traits Of Mine Are 'Toxic?​'
Start writing a post

If Being Honest Is A Bad Trait, How Many Other Traits Of Mine Are 'Toxic?​'

"Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom."

-Thomas Jefferson

If Being Honest Is A Bad Trait, How Many Other Traits Of Mine Are 'Toxic?​'

I recently was told that I was too honest. As a woman, I am used to being told that I am too much. Too much effort, too emotional, too outspoken, and the list goes on. However, too honest? Is there such a thing in 2019 as being too honest? I didn't think so until recently.

I studied abroad this last semester through a program that offered endless opportunities. One of these opportunities was being able to blog for the program about my experiences abroad, which I was stoked for! However, little did I know that the things I wrote about my experience were too honest and not of good quality for publishing.

When I went abroad there were so many things that I didn't know that I wish I had been told before I arrived. From simple things like how to work public transportation to more complex and dark things like homesickness, depression, and friendships. I wanted to write about the struggles you endure while studying abroad. I didn't want to sugar coat everything that I had experienced, I wanted it to be raw and real for my audience of prospective students. I wanted to convey the challenges that come along with the experience of a lifetime. I thought that conveying my experience through raw humor and sarcasm that my articles would be a hit. The people above me did not.

Upon submitting my first article, "Ten things nobody tells you about studying abroad," I was told that my work was too dark. It was too honest, too personal, and too negative. "We don't want to scare prospective students into not studying abroad. We want to encourage them to come abroad through our program." I totally understand this. I get it. However, what I don't agree with is the fact that you are only advertising the good things that happen when you study abroad. This particular company didn't advertise or educate prospective students on the following things that I wanted to.

-What to do if your passport is stolen

-How to and why you should register your trip abroad with the US Government

-How cell phones work in other countries

-Culture shock!!

-Why the US Embassy in other countries is so important

-What the US Embassy does and where they are located

-Public transportation

-The fact that most water in Europe is undrinkable and therefore you have to budget for water bottles

-How expensive other countries can be

-Healthcare in other countries: How does insurance work? Where does one go for basic illnesses to mental health counseling?

-Counseling services in your area

-Depression and anxiety will come knocking on your door at 3:00 AM- how to handle that

These are just a few things that I wanted answers to after I arrived in London. I strived to write articles for this company that explained these things and more. I wanted my audience of prospective students to hear these things from a study abroad student, not from a fake, plastic prototype that gets paid to say nothing but good things.

Despite the fact that studying abroad has its downs and low points, it is a life changing experience and you really do discover someone that you didn't know existed. Studying abroad teaches you things you can't ever learn in a classroom. Like how to navigate across countries where English isn't the first, second, or even third language of some people. I wanted to write about good things, too. But often times we only get people who write good things. We don't have enough honest writers who are willing to share their raw experiences with a sarcastic and humorous twist. Honest writers and people, in general, are not the worst people. Their work isn't trash or unacceptable for being real.

If being an overly honest, overly emotional and personal woman is the worst insult I receive in these twenty years of life, then I will wear that label across my back in red ink because I am proud to be honest and share my personal experiences with younger generations who have a great curiosity in life. I will strive to be nothing less than overly honest because I would rather be too honest and too blunt than to be a cheat and a liar. But go ahead. Tell me my honesty won't get me very far. Tell me that my raw way of storytelling is twisted and that younger generations don't need to hear it. Younger generations are hungry for information and stories from experienced adults. I am that experienced adult and I will tell younger generations exactly what went right and wrong while studying abroad.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
the beatles
Wikipedia Commons

For as long as I can remember, I have been listening to The Beatles. Every year, my mom would appropriately blast “Birthday” on anyone’s birthday. I knew all of the words to “Back In The U.S.S.R” by the time I was 5 (Even though I had no idea what or where the U.S.S.R was). I grew up with John, Paul, George, and Ringo instead Justin, JC, Joey, Chris and Lance (I had to google N*SYNC to remember their names). The highlight of my short life was Paul McCartney in concert twice. I’m not someone to “fangirl” but those days I fangirled hard. The music of The Beatles has gotten me through everything. Their songs have brought me more joy, peace, and comfort. I can listen to them in any situation and find what I need. Here are the best lyrics from The Beatles for every and any occasion.

Keep Reading...Show less
Being Invisible The Best Super Power

The best superpower ever? Being invisible of course. Imagine just being able to go from seen to unseen on a dime. Who wouldn't want to have the opportunity to be invisible? Superman and Batman have nothing on being invisible with their superhero abilities. Here are some things that you could do while being invisible, because being invisible can benefit your social life too.

Keep Reading...Show less
houses under green sky
Photo by Alev Takil on Unsplash

Small towns certainly have their pros and cons. Many people who grow up in small towns find themselves counting the days until they get to escape their roots and plant new ones in bigger, "better" places. And that's fine. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought those same thoughts before too. We all have, but they say it's important to remember where you came from. When I think about where I come from, I can't help having an overwhelming feeling of gratitude for my roots. Being from a small town has taught me so many important lessons that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.

Keep Reading...Show less
​a woman sitting at a table having a coffee

I can't say "thank you" enough to express how grateful I am for you coming into my life. You have made such a huge impact on my life. I would not be the person I am today without you and I know that you will keep inspiring me to become an even better version of myself.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

college students waiting in a long line in the hallway

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments