I Use My Faith In Everyday Life, I Stay Kind

I Use My Faith In Everyday Life, I Stay Kind

Being kind is often one of the hardest things to do on a daily basis. Here's how I try to stay kind.


For those of you just tuning in, I'm an 18-year-old Christian going to a state university. I'm not going to lie it's pretty hard sometimes to keep up with and maintain my faith. Here's how on a regular basis I keep God in my life. There are three main ways that I personally try to keep Him present in my life. I have so much to say about each thing that I'll be doing sort of a short three-part series on them so tune in for the others. Also, keep in mind that I'm not perfect and there are definitely days where I could be doing these things better but like everyone else I try to live my life one day at a time. That being said let's jump right in.

As a Christian, I believe it's important to "live Christian". To me, that means to be kind, fundamentally love everyone, and to stay in the word. These are three things that I try to base my days on. In this particular article, I'll be speaking on how I try to stay kind on an everyday basis. It seems pretty easy but when you really look at it is kind isn't always our instinct. I best apply this to my life by giving everyone I meet immediate grace because when you really look at it who am I to judge them? I have my own stuff and I'm no better than anyone I meet no matter who they are. We're all just humans trying to be our best selves. God gives us grace every day. It's not something we have to earn from Him so why should it be something other people have to earn from us.

The other way I attempt to live kind every day is being slow to anger. This goes hand in hand with grace. Obviously, I mess up sometimes but I generally try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. If I find myself getting really mad at someone or a certain situation I'll step back and ask myself "is there anything to gain from being mad?" and "do I even have the right to be mad right now?". Most of the time the answer is no because when you step back and look at your anger most of the time you'll realize that it's so dumb that you're so mad at this moment. It's just not worth it and most of the time getting angry doesn't help the situation. Another thing to note it, taking a step back doesn't get rid of the anger but it does help. It can be hard sometimes to do. When you're really mad at a certain person or situation and anger takes over it can be difficult to take a deep breath and remove yourself. I do this as much as possible and when I do I notice that I'm a lot less stressed out because I'm not constantly fuming about things I can't even control.

James 1:19 says,

"Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger."

These aren't just commands that God is telling us. It's so we can live every day with a peace in our hearts knowing that there's a choice between anger and happiness at that moment. Why not choose to let it go and be happy? Show others kindness.

This is an article I've wanted to write for a while but I've been a little scared honestly. I don't want anyone to think I'm shoving God down their throat but that's the beauty of this platform if you don't care about or want to hear what I'm writing then don't click. I'm writing this for the people that are struggling or are just curious to see what I'm doing. It's also important to note that this is just what I do personally. Everyone has their own way of doing things. This topic is important to me so I hope this article can help at least one person. Thank you so much and have a great day!

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Christian Boys Vs. Godly Men

It is time to stop settling for the lesser of the two.

Ladies, there is a huge difference between a Christian boy and a Godly man; therefore, it is time to stop settling for the lesser of the two.

So many times I hear girls saying:

“Well, he’s a Christian.”

“He goes to church with me.”

“He listens to Christian music.”

“He went to church camp.”

“He has a favorite bible verse.”

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Well, all of those things are just peachy and there is nothing wrong with doing those things. I mean, they’re all good things to do. But how is his personal relationship with God? How is his prayer life? Does he talk about his relationship with God, with you? Is he truly a follower of the one true God in all aspects of his life? These are some of the characteristics you should be looking for that makes a Godly man.

Ladies, a man will love you great when he loves God greater.

A Godly man will pursue an honest relationship with you. He will be clear of his intentions. A Godly man will worship, pray and passionately praise God with you. Whereas, a Christian boy might open the door for you, a Godly man will open his bible and explore God’s word with you so that you both may grow spiritually, together. While a Christian boy may put on an outward show, a Godly man will live out the love of Jesus daily.

So ladies, are you catching on to this ongoing trend? A Godly man does more because you deserve more.

A Godly man will be a leader. Trust me, I know that in today’s society Godly men are few and far between while Christian boys come in plenty. But you deserve a man who is after God’s heart not just a boy who goes to church. And I know that this Christian boy may seem great and have some really stellar qualities at the time but money and looks fade, whereas, an ongoing love for our savior will not.

The greatest thing a man can do for a woman is to lead her closer to God than himself. (Yes, yes, yes).

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So I beg of you, do not settle. Do not settle just because you’re tired of being single, it’s convenient or because you want the relationship your friend has. Single does not equal available and a relationship status does not define you. God uses your season of singleness to prepare you for what is to come. And if you’re dating a Christian boy, he needs to step it up or you need to move on. Wait for a Godly man who is ready to lead you. God’s timing is always better, always. No matter the circumstance. So, do not rush God. (I mean, He is, after all, pretty good at His job). Therefore, turn your full focus to Him and He will direct your path.

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

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If God Didn’t Intend For Women To Be Equals, Why Did She Make Us So Incredible?

Yeah, I said She.


An article that absolutely infuriates me has gone viral. As a feminist, as a writer, and simply as a woman, it drives me up a wall to see another woman proclaiming that God's plan for women was to "submit to their husbands."

I don't know where to start with all the issues I found in reading the piece, so I'll start with what a feminist is. It's a subjective term and its connotation varies from person to person.

But to me, feminism is being empowered and expressive individuals with open minds and open hearts. They are activists for change and equality. They have concerns about the environment and global warming. They acknowledge issues within sexism and racism and then try to figure out how to solve them. They see that the world isn't perfect.

Feminists are the reason we can vote. They're the reason birth control is an option for us. They're why we're allowed to wear pants. They're why we have careers. The female pioneers paved the way for anything we're allowed to do, and they are why we celebrate the power of women every March.

But instead, the woman who wrote "I'm A Christian And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals," used our month of pride for clout. And took justification from The Bible to do it.

The Bible is not an instruction manual. It was written over many, many years by hordes of sexist men whose existence we have minimal proof of. And over the last thousand years, it's been translated and reinterpreted more times than anyone could ever keep track of. That's not to say it doesn't have some good lessons, but lessons are all they are.

Thinking your worth and capabilities were planned for you thousands of years in advance is ignorant. Religion and The Bible and God are as subjective as feminism. Everything is open-ended. One person's view of who or what God is not going to be the same as the last.

Commonly, God is seen as a man at the center of the universe who holds all existence in his hands. He is the reason why anyone does anything. He is the rule maker. And He is judging us and waiting for our every mistake.

But as a proud feminist, I've chosen to have my own idea of this holy being. I wasn't brought up in church, but I decided to believe in something much greater than myself or anything I've ever seen just because I wanted to. I want to believe that faith has to come from somewhere, and I didn't want a book making the rules for me.

Just by watching life move through time, I happen to believe God is the good in all of us. Not one being, but he beginning and the end of everything. The push and the pull. The conscious and subconscious. And considering that God is the creator, I've concluded God must be a woman because women are the creators.

And in my experience, women have proved themselves to be much stronger and more capable than any man.

As for what She creates, I think She makes no mistakes. I think She tests our patience and beliefs by giving us what we don't expect. There's intent and love in everything She gives us. I think every woman was made to be relentless, imperfect, fearless, and even a little rebellious.

And if we're saying Adam and Eve were the start of it all, then God proved that right off the bat. God saved the best for last, and then made her a badass. Yes, the first woman came into this world as a rule breaker. She questioned authority. And since the beginning of time, authority has been a snake. The world is our forbidden fruit to bite.

The sole purpose of a woman isn't to submit to anyone. A woman can do whatever she damn well pleases, just as any man. A woman's worth isn't tied to what kind of wife or mother she is and how closely she follows the rules. I was raised by the most incredible mom and wife. She did happen to stay at home with me and be the traditional woman. But while she was home, she taught me how great it is to be a woman. She made sure I knew I could be whoever I wanted and would pay no consequences for that.

My parents didn't raise me in a church. And I never saw that as a flaw or lack of judgment. My southern home was like a church; full of faith and love. But on Sundays, we would sleep in and have a big breakfast at noon because we had too much fun staying up late Saturday night dancing around our living room to music. Whitney Houston, Dolly Parton, Shania Twain, and Madonna led the choir — singing about independence and the power of being empowered as women.

As a feminist, I will not judge those who haven't accepted all the honors of being female. I can just tell everyone how wonderful it is to stand for something. I can set an example so that more women will go forward.

And despite what anyone thinks of feminism, there's nothing exclusive about it. Feminists don't think they're any better than men, they just want the chance to prove their capabilities. It's so much bigger than thinking men suck. The truth is, we should have men at our side, not in front of or behind us. And not for romantic partnerships, but as allies. The best men are feminists too. We can make this walk alone, but there's power in numbers and in diversity.

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