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10 Questions To Ask A New Friend

For those of us who are straight-up exhausted of small talk-- let's mix it up a little.

Molly Bebko

Mar 05, 2020

Bowling Green State University

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Conversation is really, really important to me. Think about it--what a special gift that we have, just to know someone and be blessed by their thoughts and jokes and stories. But what if you don't know how to start? Quite often when we meet someone new, we can't figure out what to say and the discussion fizzles out before it even starts. Read below for some ideas on how to get to know someone better, faster.

What's the color of your soul today?

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In other words, what is your emotional state? What has been occupying your thoughts, and what color do you associate with the feelings you have?

If you could replace the main actor or actress from any film with Mike Wazowski from Monsters Inc., who would you choose?

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I love hearing the goofy answers to this. My go-to is Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson from San Andreas.

What is something that happened today that made you happy?

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This question goes beyond "how was your day." It introduces an opportunity to reflect and be mindful of what is important to a person and how this life has moments of such beauty.

What did you get in trouble for when you were a kid? P.S. Do you still get in trouble for it?

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It always makes me giggle when I hear a full-grown adult reminiscing about lying to their parents that they didn't feed their veggies to the family dog as a child.

What do you think is the most fundamental human desire?

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Be careful with this one-- it gets real deep, real fast. What I've found is when people answer this question, it also gives you insight into how they live their lives. For example, I think catharsis is the most fundamental human desire (Inception, anyone?). I spend a lot of my time solving problems and I'm studying a health science so that I can provide rest and peace for people. Makes sense, right?

What is your most favorite time of day?

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Some people say mornings, or nighttimes. Others say a specific few minutes each day when they wake up with their family, or see a significant other. What a sweet way to celebrate people's personalities!

If you only had 90 seconds to go to the grocery store, what would you get?

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This is how to find out if someone is a health nut or a vegan or a pretzel fiend or a picky eater. I'd choose cereal and bell peppers.

What song have you been listening to on repeat lately?

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Great segue into talking about what music you love listening to. Of course, everyone has an opinion about country. Ask them! Ask why! Celebrate your differences!

What is your most precious human relationship?

Is it a significant other/spouse? A family member? A roommate or friend? A coworker? A child? The possibilities are endless. This question is so fruitful for developing shared empathy. Almost everyone has someone they love, someone they let their guard down with, someone to tackle life with.

Do you want to grab coffee sometime?

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Friends love coffee days! Eating or drinking together in a casual place can be so fun.

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Cool Off with These 8 Beers!

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Summer is hot and humid, and it's almost like summer was made specifically to drink the refreshing, cold, crisp wonderful, delicious, nutritious nectar of the gods. Which is none other than beer; wonderful cold beer. With summer playing peek-a-boo around the corner while we finish up this semester, it's time to discuss the only important part of summer. And if you haven't already guessed, it's beer. There are few things I take more seriously than my beer, in order are: sports... and beer. Here are my favorite summer brews:

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10 Questions To Ask A New Friend

For those of us who are straight-up exhausted of small talk-- let's mix it up a little.

What's the color of your soul today?

If you could replace the main actor or actress from any film with Mike Wazowski from Monsters Inc., who would you choose?

What is something that happened today that made you happy?

What did you get in trouble for when you were a kid? P.S. Do you still get in trouble for it?

What do you think is the most fundamental human desire?

What is your most favorite time of day?

If you only had 90 seconds to go to the grocery store, what would you get?

What song have you been listening to on repeat lately?

What is your most precious human relationship?

Do you want to grab coffee sometime?

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Appreciation for some of life's most discredited pleasures.

1. Sun showers

2. Smiles

3. Tight hugs

4. Discovering new foods you like.

5. Laying in bed after a long day.

6. And being completely relaxed

7. "This reminded me of you"

8. Breakfast foods

9. Over-sized clothes

10. Contagious laughs

11. Car rides with that one person

12. Random (I miss you/ I love you) texts

13. The city at night

14. Surprises

15. Blanket cocoons

16. Good hair days

17. Really good coffee

18. Days where you're in a good mood naturally and for no particular reason

19. Conquering a fear

20. When they give you a lot of guac at Chipotle

21. Being so comfortable with someone that you can literally talk about anything

22. Home-cooked meals

23. Tattoo stories

24. Leaves changing color in fall

25. Butterflies in your stomach

26. Peanut butter & jelly sandwiches

27. When you can't stop laughing

Cool Off with These 8 Beers!

Coors Light Summer Brew:

Leinenkugel Summer Shandy

Leinenkugel Sunset Wheat

Want to know more about beer?

Sam Adams Summer Ale

Hell or High Watermelon

Blue Moon Summer Honey

LandShark Lager

Corona

75 degrees and sunny, plus, no humidity. I mean do I really need to say more?

Perfect Weather

You'll get an effortless tan

You can exercise with a view

You don't have to worry about bug bites

In n Out all day, every day

We have outdoor concerts

We live where people vacation

Because let's be honest, we all use lyrics.

1. “Don’t get too close, it’s dark inside. It's where my demons hide.”

2. “Tonight, we are young.”

3. “Cuz I may be bad, but I’m perfectly good at it.”

4. “Tell me how they got that pretty little face on that pretty little frame.”

5. “I can’t wait to fall in love with you, you can’t wait to fall in love with me.”

6. “Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin with no makeup on.”

7. “Why you so obsessed with me?”

8. “We ain’t ever getting older.”

9. “I didn’t know that I was starving until I tasted you.”

10. “Didn’t they tell you I’m a savage?"

11. “I’m gonna make you miss me.”

12. "Cheers to the freakin weekend.”

13. “Love’s a game. Wanna play?”

14. “You don’t know about me, but I bet you want to.”

15. “Let’s set each other’s lonely nights, Be each other’s paradise.”

16. “Trippin’ on skies, sippin’ waterfalls."

17. “Wish we could turn back time, to the good old days.”

18. “But you will remember me for centuries.”

19. “Something about you makes me feel like a dangerous woman."

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1. "Talk about a dream
Try to make it real
You wake up in the night
With a fear so real
Spend your life waiting
For a moment that just don't come
Well don't waste your time waiting." (Badlands)