8 Ways To Be A Good Person, Even When You Really Don't Want To Be

8 Ways To Be A Good Person, Even When You Really Don't Want To Be

Look here, it's 2019 and its time to be nice.


It is so easy to be mean. It is so easy to get so wrapped up in your own life, problems, and busy schedule that you forget that other people are also dealing with their own issues. If you are guilty of being a little mean (sometimes) then maybe this post is for you. Here are eight easy ways to be a nicer person.

Make an effort to smile.

This is something that is super simple, smile at the person who is walking past you on the street, the older people at the stores, and maybe even people that you see in class. That one girl that was in your BIO lab like four years ago... smile at her.

Not only is this a mood booster for you, but it can also make people feel noticed and as people recognize them out of the masses. You also look super happy and friendly and more people are likely to strike up a conversation with you.

Listen to comprehend.

This is one of those rules that I think that everyone should follow no matter what because if people listened to understand there would be WAY less confusion in the world. When someone is speaking in class, in passing, whenever, listen to them because they may be saying something super awesome. People will think that you are the nicest person if you genuinely listen to what they have to say.

Try your best not to interrupt others when they are speaking.

I am so guilty of this, and to be honest, I am still working on not interrupting people. This is so important because you don't want other people to think that you don't care at all about what they are saying, and this could make someone in a group project stop talking forever because they feel like what they are saying isn't being found to be important.

moral: people say what they want to be heard, so listen.

Hold the door for people.

You're walking to class with a hot coffee in one hand, your phone in the other, and the person in front of you holds open the door, so think about how grateful you are for them... now think about what it would have felt like if they didn't hold it open... not so good. You should always, if possible, hold the door for people that are near to you.

Please and thank you.

"Remember please and thank you
'Cause they're the magic words
Use 'em in the morning, at noon and night
'Cause it's a great way to be polite
'Please and thank you'
They're the magic words"
-Please and Thank You: Barney

Other than the fact that the purple dinosaur has never lead me wrong, being polite is super nice, and you don't want to come across to anyone as someone who doesn't know the basics in being nice. Also if a toddler can say please and thank you... so can you.

Help them out.

if you see someone struggling with a million books, papers, cups, help them. This goes along with if you see someone drop things on the ground... help them and don't just stand there and stare at them for their embarrassment. I can tell you this, they are already embarrassed and you staring at them just makes you look bad for not helping.

But I also understand that sometimes you are unable to help in certain situations, and that is OK, but instead of staring at them, give an understanding glance and keep going.


Being compassionate is something that I have found that a lot of college-aged kids don't understand. Understanding that someone may have forgotten something important because of an emergency is a key mindset to have. Not everyone has a life like yours, and some people have it rough, let them catch a break.

Plus: if you offer to help them out they will be forever grateful.

Be conscious of your actions.

This is the most important way to be nicer to people. Be aware of when you are being mean when your actions are questionable, and when you are speaking without care.

Here's what this means: Gossip, when it's about someone, is mean. Cutting someone off in the fast lane and slamming on your breaks is mean. Purposely making someone feel bad about something they can't control is mean.

Think and reflect on these 8 things and with some work and practice you'll be nicer in no time.

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27 Things To Do With Your Friends When You're Bored

A little bit of fun for any season.

I am sure many could relate: you are texting or sitting around with your friends and no one knows what they want to do, everyone is bored, and everyone is flat out of ideas that are actually realistic and achievable. Boredom makes an appearance at it's finest moments... always.

Here are 27 things you can do with your friend in just about any season (some are exclusive to a particular season) when boredom takes over!

1. Find a local coffee shop to try out.

2. Or better yet, find a local restaurant that you’ve all been wanting to try.

3. Go shopping at each others' favorite stores.

4. Tie balloons with positive messages inside of them to random places in your town to uplift a few souls.

5. Cook a homemade meal for a homeless person and deliver it.

6. Get crafty and create a time capsule that you and your friends can open after (x) amount of years.

7. Make your own sushi.

8. Plant flowers in little pots for your homes.

9. Road trip to random local cities and do some exploring.

10. Have a photo shoot.

11. Buy or create a blank page’s journal filled art, writing, sketches, and pictures of your friends that can be used as a memory book.

12. Visit a pumpkin patch.

13. Go stargazing in the middle of the night with a blanket and a few midnight snacks.

14. Go to a haunted house.

15. Go to a movie with the group.

16. Have a giant sleepover with board games, snacks, movies, and crazy pajamas.

17. Have a game night with the peeps.

18. Have a gingerbread making contest.

19. Have a bonfire when it gets cool outside.

20. Make homemade ice cream.

21. Search on maps for the nearest natural spring or river and go swimming or canoeing.

22. Take a camera, your group of friends, and stroll around town taking pictures of your adventure.

23. Use the pictures you take on your adventures and create a photo wall in your home.

24. Have a "Madea" movie night.

25. Throw a themed party.

26. Write letters of encouragement to children (or adults) in hospitals.

27. Look up random keywords on YouTube for possibly some of the best videos ever.

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What It's Like Being An Introverted Leader

Different people lead differently.


When you think of the qualities a leader or someone in a leadership position should have, being out-going is often mentioned. However, I don't think that always has to be the case. I've been a part of many different leadership opportunities and programs, yet I'm still the same socially awkward hermit I've always been. Being out-going and extroverted doesn't qualify someone to be a good leader, just like being shy and introverted makes you a bad one, it's about your skills.

When I went to a leadership program at a summer camp, I often heard that I didn't talk very much or I was too quiet and shy for a summer camp entertaining kids, I should have been more talkative. I'd also get a few counselors coming up to be that when they were in the same program I was in, they were also the same things I was and not to worry about it. Even now, I'm still quite and relatively shy person, but that doesn't discredit my ability to be a good leader, or anyone else's.

In my high school ASB (Associated Student Body) class, we took a fun personality test to find out what kind of leaders we were; someone who likes to be in charge, be in the spotlight, more organized, or stay in the background. I got someone who likes to be in the spotlight, which was a surprise to me too, but thinking about it, it makes sense. I'm not overly out-going, but given the right motivation, I don't mind going up to people and striking up a conversation.

I can also say that at some point I have possessed all four of these personalities or traits over the course of my different leadership roles. The reason I'm even bringing this personality test up is that it definitely shows that there are different types of leaders out there, and not all of them have to be extraverted. I tried to find the one I took but couldn't find the exact one, but if you're interested there are a ton of different ones out there.

Over time, I've learned and worked on many valuable skills, like conflict resolution, time management, actually listening to what others have to say, and more. I keep myself up to date with my surroundings and what's going on in the world, and I still meet and hang out with people, when I have time. People grow and learn on their own pace, we should let them without overly critiquing them.

In the end, whether someone is out-going or not shouldn't determine the ability they have to be a good leader, sure in some cases it's better to more extraverted, but it's not a make or break trait. So long as they have their mind in the right place and know how to handle different tasks and situations, it doesn't matter.

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