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How To Manage And Tame Your Curly Hair In The Summer Heat
Is it even possible?
29 July 2019
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You can't, you just can't. Nothing works, so just throw it up in a messy bun and look homeless all summer.
Is it even possible?
You can't, you just can't. Nothing works, so just throw it up in a messy bun and look homeless all summer.
Big shirts and Nike shorts doesn't mean you aren't "girly."
It is so annoying to see girls share memes that say stuff like, "I'm not a normal girl. I don't wear a lot of makeup and I'm always wearing sweatpants and a messy bun. I guess that makes me more of a guy."
First off: No.
Second, why does having a laid-back look or liking football and beer make you less of a girl?
It really doesn't, so why keep pushing that idea?
I can't begin to explain the number of girls I follow on Twitter or Instagram who've posted pictures of them all dressed up for the day or getting ready to go out with captions like, "I finally wore something other than Nike shorts and t-shirt," but every week they're posting pictures with a full face of makeup and a cute, feminine outfit on.
There are girls who love to talk about how "boyish" they are because they never wear makeup, but you'll never catch them in public without some on.
Now, ladies, I don't know about you, but I don't lounge around in my house with a beat face and an Insta-worthy outfit on. I'm bare-faced—maybe some mascara—and in a tee with comfy pants.
This doesn't make me less feminine. Wearing this in public doesn't mean I'm not girly. Wearing this means I'm comfortable and not any less of a woman.
Girls are taught that being a girl means being dressed up and pretty, which can severely affect their body image. This eventually leads to girls not feeling "girly enough" when they don't dress up all the time.
It's such a toxic thing to enforce on women and girls, and only damages people.
Don't get me wrong, I love to dress up, do a full face and feel like a goddess. Looking good makes me feel good, but not being dressed to the nines doesn't make me feel any less confident in myself.
This is the way every woman should be.
You shouldn't have to be done up all the time to be seen as or feel like a woman.
If you identify as one, you are one—it's as simple as that.
There is no need to put pressure on yourself to always have a perfect outfit or a flawless face. You are a woman no matter what you wear or what you look like.
Whether you wear Nike shorts to class every day or show up like you just got back from NYFW, you're still a girl.
Wearing jerseys, sweatpants, oversized shirts, and hoodies don't make you "boyish," they make you comfortable.
Having a big messy bun and only a swipe of mascara doesn't mean you're not girly, it just means you took the simplistic route getting ready.
We need to stop enforcing the idea that the only way to be a "real girl" is to be done up all the time.
Feel like a girl and feel comfortable doing it.
I will wear whatever comfy clothes I want to class and continue to not care what you think.
Recently, I read an article talking about college girls and what they should and shouldn't wear.
Let me just say, every word in that article is total nonsense.
To start, it is completely directed at women, but why exactly is it only a problem when women wear Nike shorts and a t-shirt to class? Is this just another rule men seem to be exempt from?
Overall, I don't think it's anyone's business what another person is wearing regardless of gender, I just wanted to point out that the writer of this article who is in fact female, directly put down other women just for the fact that they are confident enough to wear what they want instead of what they are always told to wear.
If I want to wake up 10 minutes before class and go in sweats and a messy bun, guess what? I'm gonna do that. I had my share of the dress code in high school so I will definitely take advantage of my ability to wear sweats now that I can. I'm not paying thousands of dollars to be a model in a fashion show, I'm paying for an education.
To me, and I'm sure many others, the amount of information and skills my brain is able to obtain is not affected by how fancy my outfit is. If anything, the comfier clothing would help me more because I wouldn't be thinking about how uncomfortable the skinny jeans I have on are.
I would just be sitting in class, taking notes, minding my own business, and not worrying what those around me look like.
So to my fellow writer who believes it is her responsibility to tell other women like me what is and isn't appropriate to wear, please mind your own business because it is my body and therefore my choice and I am happy to be a very comfortably dressed and successful college student who knows how to get fancy once in a while if it is necessary.
As someone who has a very quirky personality, I can say without a doubt that it takes some getting used to.
Everyone knows that Zooey Deschanel is the queen of quirk, so it would be impossible not to mention how she is the perfect example of this attractiveness to quirkiness ratio. In her show, "New Girl," Deschanel's character is a fun, loving teacher named Jessica Day who does many "quirky" things, such as randomly breaking into song, wearing polka dots, and crafting with a lot of yarn. Her three male roommates and most of the world find her quirky personality adorable.
As a girl, I had to go through all of the most awkward phases: braces, glasses, and a bob cut with bangs, as well as wearing heavy makeup to school and posting inspirational quotes on Instagram every day. I outgrew all of that to become the person that I am today: a quirky girl trying to be her most authentic self.
I love being quirky.
I have always been eclectic, but instead of accepting being called weird, I prefer to be called what I truly am: quirky.
I cannot be defined by one specific quirk. I think that it is a combination of my need to break into song when I hear a phrase that reminds me of a lyric, my talent of tripping on thin air, my ability to talk so much that I could carry a conversation with a brick wall, and my innate ability to dance like no one is watching.
For others, it could be an insane love of lizards, a need to wear Crocs everywhere, or not being able to laugh without snorting. Being quirky means that there is no one else like you. Being unique is very challenging in a world that supports social norms.
I am awkward, I like baggy t-shirts and shorts, and I often wear my glasses with a messy bun. Being quirky is a way to show everyone what I am passionate about and who I truly am.
It can be very natural to shy away from your quirks and try to hide them from others, but being quirky makes you an individual. The truth about being quirky shows people that they shouldn't be afraid to be themselves, no matter how goofy. If you like blowing bubbles into milk? DO IT. Who cares that you are a Potterhead and read Harry Potter fanfiction? Honestly, no one.
Being quirky shows you who your true friends are. I never want to be afraid to be my authentic self. The honest fact is, people who care about your quirks shouldn't matter. Your true friends will love and support you no matter what. Allowing yourself to be goofy and relate to your imperfections shows your humility and proves that no one is perfect.
I get to wake up every morning with messy hair and put on my oversized glasses. I sing all the time, especially in the shower at the top of my lungs without question. I love that I have a passion for elephants. I get excited when I use essential oils after yoga. I love that I see the best in people.
But most of all, I love being quirky.
Sometimes low-maintenance girls are looked at as lazy or sloppy. But in reality, I think low-maintenance girls are just so confident in who they are that putting in that extra effort isn't important to them.
Here are 12 things that only low-maintenance girls understand:
Why spend the day uncomfortable in some tight jeans or a mini skirt when you can lounge around in some comfy clothes? We aren't here to impress anyone, we are just trying to sit back and chill.
If you catch a low-maintenance girl with makeup on, take it as a compliment. We are trying to touch our faces and rub our eyes as much as we'd like without makeup getting in the way. Not to mention, we wouldn't dare spend over $15 on some foundation.
Something low-key and low stress always sounds better than spending the time, and the money, for a night out. I am perfectly content with taking advantage of my $7.99 monthly payment for Netflix.
While your friends spend hours doing their hair, makeup and then finding the perfect outfit, you sit around and wait. Your 10 minutes thrown-together-look gives you time to nap while everyone else takes their sweet time.
Seriously, a date night off the McDonald's dollar menu is fine by me. I am not expecting you to wine and dine me on a big extravagant evening, I'm just trying to get a Big Mac in my mouth.
We aren't about to spend time curling or straightening our hair every day. Every day is a good day to throw your hair up into a ponytail or bun.
Who needs more than one pair of earrings? Diamond studs match everything… right?
Should I wear flip-flops or Converse?
Who has patience for finding the perfect designer brands or finding the best fit? I am perfectly content with my T-shirts and leggings. One size fits all.
A homemade card or a small gift that makes someone think of you is forever better and more meaningful than an expensive present. I don't want your money, I just want to know you thought of me.
I'm awesome and I know it. If a guy is worth it enough to be in my life, he can come after me. I am not down for any games or players. Just someone who embraces my low-maintenance qualities.
Giving your friends a ride or lending them two dollars isn't a huge deal. Just helping someone out gives you peace of mind. Everyone should have time to help a homie out.