We make assumptions about what women think of themselves. But do you ever stop to think another woman's head is turning for you?
I work out a lot. Usually in just a sports bra and leggings. So there's not too much left to the imagination.
I'm fairly comfortable in my body, but that doesn't mean I don't beat it up with my words every single day.
"You're not as skinny as she is."
"You'll never have abs like hers."
"How does she look that good without makeup?"
"She definitely has it all together."
"I wish I had confidence like that."
I've come a long way with body image. I used to use boys as a distraction from how much I hated my body. If it could be validated by a man, even though I hated it, then maybe it wasn't as bad as I thought.
Bad coping mechanism.
So nowadays, I just stare around the room while I'm working out, wondering why I will never think my body is enough.
But lately, I've paused when those thoughts creep in.
As women, we make these assumptions about other women. That she must be comfortable in her body. That she must love the way she looks. That she never doubts she's making heads turn when she walks in the room.
But that's just not fair to other women. Because odds are, they're thinking the same thing about you.
Too often we pit ourselves against other women, especially when it comes to the gym. My favorite compliment to receive is, "You look so strong."
You know what? Damn, right I do. I've worked hard to lose 30 pounds. I've worked hard to build muscle. I've worked hard to get out of my head and my comfort zone so I can show up to work out looking like I do.
I always think my body isn't enough. That it doesn't meet society's standards. But, odds are, someone else in the room is thinking that their body doesn't live up to mine.
And that's why we, as women, need to not be afraid to talk about how we feel in our bodies, to validate each other, to change the language we use.
We're not just pretty. We're not just fit. We're not just boobs and butts.
We're strong. We're healthy. We're beautiful.
The best way to combat the voice in your head that says your body isn't enough? Lift another woman up.