Comparisons: The Silent Killer
In just five minutes, everything that I've worked so hard to build comes crumbling down, or does it?
Like many women, I have been internally at war within myself. I feel fine, look fine, and really do believe I have it all together. But then, I see a post from people around my age showing off their significant other, their new houses, their diploma, their ring, their pregnancy, their everything that I do not have.
I first remind myself that I'm "living as one, working on myself, working hard to radiate positivity" because if we are ever so lucky, karma will finally look at us and decide to give us everything we feel we deserve. But let's be honest, karma doesn't work as fast as any of us wants her to, and waiting can feel like an eternity.
So, instead, I dive down the slippery slope of what is, comparisons.
I start to doubt myself, wondering if I am falling behind. Should I be in a relationship? Should I be buying that house? Should I be planning for a family? My mind filled to the brim with should I's, that I forget where I am at now.
In just five minutes, everything that I've worked so hard to build comes crumbling down, or does it?
You see, as women, we have this strength that comes from within, where we can take any mindset we are in and make it into a comfortable one. We will find a way to make our lives meaningful as we literally fight against the biological clock that ticks inside of us. This makes us a force to be reckoned with, still able to stand even when everyone thought we would have been knocked down a long time ago.
Women have to realize that it is not a race. You stay in your lane and I'll stay in mine because we all have our own road to travel down. Honestly, what another woman does with hers, should not matter in yours, simply because it is not your life!
If it is not happening right now, it's not meant to. For many women, including myself, that is the hardest pill to swallow because there is nothing we can do about it. Despite what we have been told for decades and decades, Prince Charming is not going to come riding in on his horse and save us. Nor will he be climbing a Ferris wheel, risking his life just for us to go on a date with them.
We don't need saving, so why do we feel like we do?
It is okay to admit that you want the life of the husband and kids with a house and two dogs, and it is also okay to admit that you don't. But never let yourself dwell in the things that other people have. Those things are not yours to have, so let them keep it.
You are strong enough to make something just as uniquely beautiful on your own.
