People get busy. You're in school, You move. You work. You sleep. You go away.
But, people also backstab you, unfriend you, ghost you, pass away, IT SUCKS.
I just moved to a new state all by myself. I left a few close friends I had back in my hometown in Long Island. It sucks, but I did what I had to do to get my own place and leave a toxic situation.
Now I have been here for six months at an awesome job, great apartment, cute cat, but still no friends. I am realizing making friends after college and keeping in touch with friends is HARD; people get busy and trying to communicate with people in another state is difficult.
I also work overnights from 9 am to 11 pm so going out on weekends and trying to catch an event does not seem possible for me with a rotating schedule.
I got a cat which has been helping my loneliness but .that does not help. Breaking up with my boyfriend probably did not help either. It is also unlikely for me to hang out with my coworkers from my overnight shift as were all going to sleep during the day and we live almost an hour away from one another.
I try meetup.com and bumble BFF. I try to go to events but there are not much in the area by me unless I take an hour drive to Philly, which is a drag. Then when I get invited to events there either very very far, not my thing, or I'm too tired from my 10 hours shift and teaching dance and doing school.
It sucks leaving close friends and leaving my parents. NY was too expensive and I got a great job opportunity in PA. But what sucks is that I had to get used to being alone, for now.
I can't hang with my parents every day like I want to. I can't see my two best friends who moved to other states as well or simply because I moved away. I get ghosted by people who I thought were friends, get stood up, or you just lose touch. I get people are busy but I wish a phone call from someone once in a while would not hurt.
With being alone comes more anxiety and depression for me, I am not going to lie. Luckily I have school and dance and work to keep me busy, but I feel down for not being able to interact with others. I wish I could grab dinner with a friend or see a movie instead of going alone. Sometimes the alone time is nice, but not all of the time.
My friends visit and I visit home, but it is not the same when you are not near the people you love the most 24/7.
So I got used to being alone, it sucks. I just hope this soon shall pass.
