You've Been Where? With Who?

You've Been Where? With Who?

What you need to know about "being off the market."

We have all seen the memes about the uber-obsessed, stalker-like girlfriend who talks about all the things any sane individual wishes to avoid in a relationship. Cheating, lying, distance, the whole nine yards. But, what people do not realize that, though these memes are funny and totally outrageous, they bring light to a very serious issue, especially to the newer generation, my own included.

Relationships have become a thing of the past. It seems everyone my age and younger is looking for “hook ups,” or sex and no commitment. And that has had a negative backlash when people are looking for someone to settle down with near the more adult years of their lives.

I am not saying that it isn’t OK to date around, but you cannot expect respect if you don’t give yourself some. Too many times, media makes it seem like being committed to one person makes you weak, like you’ve given too much power to the other person. A real relationship is about compromise. It’s about finding the faults in someone and loving them because it makes them who they are. It’s about arguing, fighting for each other and proving that no matter what you disagree on, you’ll stick it out.

If a guy refers to you as his "main girl," you should be worried because the only reason for him to differentiate between you being the “main” would be if he had other people on the side. If a girl keeps accusing you of cheating, even though you haven’t given her any reason to think that, then it’s time to sit down and have a talk, because that means she doesn’t trust you. And isn’t that what a relationship is all about: trust?

I’m no expert by any means, but I do know that I’ve seen too many friends put all their hopes, dreams and effort into making a failing relationship last, knowing full well it was sucking more out of them then what they were getting back. As a generation, we need to learn how to tough it through the fights we have with a boyfriend or a girlfriend, because it is through these arguments that we learn the most about each other. As a generation, we need to learn how to respect each other's beliefs and wishes, because forcing a relationship to work is worse than addressing the issues then and there. As a generation, we need to know what love is and the difference between loving someone and falling in love with someone because all too often we through these words and terms around without fully realizing the gravity what it could bring. As a generation, we need to stop being afraid of the commitment and responsibility associated with being in a relationship, because it is a practice for the rest of our lives.

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When You Give A Girl A Dad

You give her everything

They say that any male can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. That dads are just the people that created the child, so to speak, but rather, dads raise their children to be the best they can be. Further, when you give a little girl a dad, you give her much more than a father; you give her the world in one man.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a rock.

Life is tough, and life is constantly changing directions and route. In a world that's never not moving, a girl needs something stable. She needs something that won't let her be alone; someone that's going to be there when life is going great, and someone who is going to be there for her when life is everything but ideal. Dads don't give up on this daughters, they never will.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a role model.

If we never had someone to look up to, we would never have someone to strive to be. When you give a little girl someone to look up to, you give her someone to be. We copy their mannerisms, we copy their habits, and we copy their work ethic. Little girls need someone to show them the world, so that they can create their own.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her the first boy she will ever love.

And I'm not really sure someone will ever be better than him either. He's the first guy to take your heart, and every person you love after him is just a comparison to his endless, unmatchable love. He shows you your worth, and he shows you what your should be treated like: a princess.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her someone to make proud.

After every softball game, soccer tournament, cheerleading competition, etc., you can find every little girl looking up to their dads for their approval. Later in life, they look to their dad with their grades, internships, and little accomplishments. Dads are the reason we try so hard to be the best we can be. Dads raised us to be the very best at whatever we chose to do, and they were there to support you through everything. They are the hardest critics, but they are always your biggest fans.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a credit card.

It's completely true. Dads are the reason we have the things we have, thank the Lord. He's the best to shop with too, since he usually remains outside the store the entire time till he is summoned in to forge the bill. All seriousness, they always give their little girls more than they give themselves, and that's something we love so much about you.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a shoulder to cry on.

When you fell down and cut yourself, your mom looked at you and told you to suck it up. But your dad, on the other hand, got down on the ground with you, and he let you cry. Then later on, when you made a mistake, or broke up with a boy, or just got sad, he was there to dry your tears and tell you everything was going to be okay, especially when you thought the world was crashing down. He will always be there to tell you everything is going to be okay, even when they don't know if everything is going to be okay. That's his job.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a lifelong best friend.

My dad was my first best friend, and he will be my last. He's stood by me when times got tough, he carried me when I just couldn't do it anymore, and he yelled at me when I deserved it; but the one thing he has never done was give up on me. He will always be the first person I tell good news to, and the last person I ever want to disappoint. He's everything I could ever want in a best friend and more.

Dads are something out of a fairytale. They are your prince charming, your knight in shinny amour, and your fairy godfather. Dads are the reasons we are the people we are today; something that a million "thank you"' will never be enough for.

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7 Things To Remember When You're Sad About Being Single

I don't need a significant other, I have my significant self.


Let's stop the stigma around being single. Those who aren't in a relationship are not "weak," "missing out," "lonely," etc. We're doing just fine on our own, honey. There may be many plus sides of being in a relationship such as having a cuddle buddy, someone who, without a doubt, will always buy you food, or sharing your love for in each other in endless, cute ways. Buuuuttt... let's not forget these reasons why being single can be so amazing!

1. You save money 

Less shopping for you on Valentine's Day, birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, etc. SAVE THAT MONEY, HONEY!

2. You can flirt with whoever you want...

...for the most part, at least. Definitely not if they already have a significant other. But now, you don't have to feel guilty for having googly eyes for someone else!

3. You can completely unplug whenever 

You don't have to worry about constantly keeping tabs on someone. No more answering to someone's every call. You can go completely tech-free whenever!

4. You have more time... find yourself, love yourself, and put yourself first. Also, just more time to watch Netflix and hang with family and friends.

5. You are saying goodbye to heartbreak 

No one can breakup with you if you're single, #facts.

6. Everything you do is for yourself 

Decision making can be hard as it is, so making decisions that benefit you AND another person can be draining. Now, you don't have to worry about making someone else happy.

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