You're Worth So Much More, Best Friend

You're Worth So Much More, Best Friend

Never let him tell you otherwise.
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A girl is lucky to have a person she can rely on in her life, and I'm super lucky that I have you. You've been there for me through thick and thin, and I know we'll always be there for each other whenever things go badly for one of us. Lately, you've been having an issue with moving on from someone that hurts you. I get it, because I'm the same way and you've helped me find my way out of a number of bad situations similar to this one. I know that you think that this guy may be right for you, and I know you hear it from me every day, but again: he isn't.

He was a complete jerk. You may not have been completely fault free but you did not deserve to be lied to, led on or disrespected. Hurting my best friend is like hurting me, and I won't let this guy (or any guy) get away with it. I won't drag you back into the drama because I know it will lead to more hurt for you, but I'll certainly find a way on my own to help karma work it's magic.

You're a beautiful girl with a bright future. Don't let him dull that future of yours because he's too blinded by your light to let you shine. Go out and live your wildest dreams, and the perfect guy will come along when the time is right. I know it's easy to slip into those old habits, because just like you, I have been there. Words can't express how hard those habits are to break, and late nights lead to deep thoughts and even regrets. Please never regret doing what was best for you and being strong. I'll be here for you at 3 a.m. or first thing in the morning, and no matter how far away I might be, you can always call me. You got me through my latest heartbreak, and now I will get you through yours, whatever it takes.

You are worth so much more than someone who treats you any differently than you should be treated. Do not settle for being cheated on, played with or used. You should not ever let yourself be an option, if you're not his first priority, he should not be yours. I know that it hurts, and it hurts me to see you hurting. I also know that it takes a while to heal, but I'll be here for you until and after you finally do.

There is no one more deserving of a loyal, respectful, successful guy than you are. Please do not forget that. You will end up kissing many frogs before finding the prince. Don't settle for an amphibian when you can end up with royalty. Be sure that you put yourself first for a while and don't rush back into a relationship until you're ready. Have some time to figure yourself out and just breathe. You need to see how amazing you are. I know that he may have changed the way you view yourself, but I'll always be here to remind you that you're special.

I love you best friend, more than you'll ever know. You deserve someone who loves you as much as I do (if that's even possible...), so please stop settling for less than you deserve. Never forget that you are worth so much more, and you will find it one day. And until you do, I'll be here for every girls night and venting session that I can, I'll help you through this. We may have to watch about 100 romantic comedies or sing a ton of loud rap songs together, but eventually you'll get there. In the end, the only one with sadness and regret will be the loser who was not good enough for you in the first place.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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Finding Your Niche In College Starts With Finding You

Attempting to be someone you are not for the sake of having company only hurts you in the long run.

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Transitioning to college is hard enough, but trying to find a place where you feel "at home" can make this time even more stressful. Here are some tips on how to find that place/group of people that make you feel like sunshine.

I have always felt a little out of place wherever I went, but it wasn't until college that I realized that this feeling was so special and more people should capitalize on their differences rather than conforming to a certain mold. Transitioning to college and finding your place among so many people can be very overwhelming. The added stress of attempting to be someone you aren't for the sake of having company adds a whole other layer to this problem. The easiest thing for me to do in any situation like this is trying to make the setting a little smaller. One of the most obvious ways to do this on a college campus is by getting involved!

It is inevitable that within the first few weeks of the semester at any college, there will be an organization fair. This is a chance to scope out all that your school has to offer! Chances are there will be some type of group or club that lines up with your interests. Most college campuses have extracurricular opportunities ranging from social sororities and fraternities, professional ones, intermural sports, vocal groups, and so many more. You are more than likely going to find some type of organization that you can call home if you seek them out. Joining an organization is such an easy way to interact with people with similar interests. An interest can bring two completely different people together and create some beautiful friendships. It is situations like this where it is important to be your authentic self and mingle with those you share something with.

That being said, finding your place in college isn't always about being involved. Getting involved on campus is just one of the simplest ways to start. There are so many other opportunities on campus to meet people whether it be among others in your residence hall, people in your classes, or just people you find yourself stumbling upon! Finding people to spend your time with is easy; however, you should make it a point to surround yourself with people who bring you up.

Once you have a set group of people that you find yourself spending time with, it is important to pay attention to the way you feel when you're around them. If you find yourself feeling bad about yourself or get the impression that you need to change something in order to "fit in," chances are the people you're around are not the best for you or your self-esteem. It is important to surround yourself with people who allow you to feel comfortable in your own skin. That being said, you also want people who encourage you to make good decisions and help you reach your goals. People who encourage toxic behavior in your life might be fun in the short term, but in the grand scheme of things, you need to be surrounded by people with your best interest in mind. Essentially, surrounding yourself with people who influence you to be your best self is one of the best decisions you can make short and long term.

The key to all of this is being conscious of your own feelings and needs. Pay attention to who reaches out to you to hang out. Notice the ones who pay attention to you as you speak when it feels like no one is listening. More than anything, be conscious of who you're with and where you're at when you experience moments of pure happiness. Life is too short to waste your precious time on people who don't build you up. Wouldn't you rather spend your time with more moments of pure joy than self-hate? Start living for you!

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