Let’s all laugh harmoniously at the fact that I thought I would be married with a career and life all together at the age of twenty-three. Now that the joke is out of the way lets realize how hard God laughs as we attempt to make plans for our lives, especially when what we want is extremely less than what he has for us. It is amazing how at seventeen I thought my twenties were solely for me to get a degree, find a mate, a career, and, start a family. I didn’t even factor in the fact that I didn’t even know who I was, that I needed to find myself and most importantly find myself in Christ before anything else.

I am currently five months from turning twenty-four, just got out of a four year relationship and am currently unemployed with a college degree I may add. Although this may seem uninspiring to you, this is the happiest I may have ever been in my life. It is has given me a chance to recognize what I don't want and time to develop everything I deserve. I am not telling you this to discourage you from anything, I am simply stating this to show you that your twenties are solely for YOU. As adolescents we feel that in our twenties we are suppose to settle down and just ride happily ever after into the sunset with a six figure job and who knows what else. But nine times out of ten it will not be that way, unless God has some crazy plans for your life early on. I want you to understand that your twenties are not for you to constantly compare yourself to your succeeding peers around you. They are not for you to bash yourself because you are not where you THINK you need to be and certainly not for you to obsess over a fantasy relationship.

Your twenties are for you to grow independently, for you to make mistakes, learn how to get up, build your trust and faith in God, create long lastly experiences. We often ruin our twenties trying to force a life built off of societal norms and customs when we aren’t even suppose to live by them in the first place. I encourage you to let go of these “goals” that are making a home in your mind. Get off of tumblr, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and whatever else you are on living in a false reality and learn how to experience life without allowing these sites to build a fake perception of life for you. These are the years where you are building who you are, what you want and praying those prayers for dreams so big they scare you. Learning discipline and obedience for God and his will for your life. I am grateful that God came and wrecked the mediocre plans I tried to force upon myself instead of allowing life to flow freely. One of our biggest mistakes made in our twenties is that we become to impatient with the current pace of our lives that we try speed it up and ultimately push ourselves back further.

I urge you to develop peace with yourself and your journey. Patience and understanding that you will reach your destination but the process needed to get there is just as important as the end result.

So instead of being upset that something did not work the way you wanted it to and instead of trying to force things that were never meant for you in the first place. Rejoice in the lesson, find peace in your pain and prepare to move forward stronger than ever before. We have a lot of work to do, this is just the beginning.

With Love,

Di.