You Aren't Wasting Your Summer By Being At Home

Just Because You Aren't Living it Up Every Moment Does Not Mean You're "Wasting Summer"

A great time can be whatever you want it to be.

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We've all been there: 2 p.m., horizontal on the bed, bowls of almost empty snacks balanced on haphazard blankets, curtains drawn, laptop streaming the 10th (11th?) episode of a show on Netflix. A bright light from your phone signifies that your friend from math class has posted a picture on Instagram. You grab your phone lazily and swipe through the app with fingers coated in Hot Cheeto dust. Picture after picture of tanned girls in skimpy swimsuits on the beach or by the pool catch your eye. You can't help but think about how much fun they're having, how much they're making use of their summer, how much they're enjoying the sunshine and warm breeze before school starts again.

You can't help but think that you're doing the exact opposite, wasting your time being a self-proclaimed sloth in your bedroom, barely even letting the sunshine graze your skin through the gaps in the blinds. You think you're wasting the summer away doing nothing. You're wrong.

Having a great summer is often associated with going to the beach, getting a tan, lying by the pool or travelling to exotic destinations. But you don't need to do any of those things to have a great time. A great time is not limited to these four things. A great time can be whatever you want it to be. You don't necessarily need to spend money on a fancy trip to the seaside or lay outside on your pool chair if you don't want to. Sitting in your room watching Netflix is a perfectly good way to spend your summer.

If you ever feel like you're wasting summer, think about the stress you go through on a daily basis when school is in session. You barely have time to eat and sleep. School dictates when you wake up, when you sleep, what you wear (to some extent) and the activities that comprise your day. When you're on vacation, you're free from all those rules. You can sleep as early or late as you please and wake up at a time that would normally have meant that you missed second period. You can choose to laze in your pajamas all day or wear dangerously tiny booty shorts without getting dress coded. You can spend the entirety of your day not being productive. What can be more relaxing than that?

While I agree that typical summertime activities are extremely enjoyable and are a great way to enjoy the weather, I also think that simple plans for one's day are also just as important for relaxing and refreshing the mind. Listening to your favorite music in your backyard or in your room with the windows open can be an effortless yet tranquil way to spend your evening. Whipping up a new recipe in your kitchen (like these ones, that'll set you back 10 minutes at most) can be just as fun as dining in at a fancy restaurant.

It's all about perspective. You don't need to attend a concert or take a roadtrip to be "doing something." You're doing something right now, and I hope you find it enjoyable.

When school or college starts, you want to feel recharged and ready to take on the new semester. You want to go back with memories of things you did and people you met. And while the fear of missing out is a common trepidation, it's important to understand that you aren't really missing out on anything if you choose not to go. Don't hesitate to choose a night in sometimes. See where the Netflix episode takes you. Watch the sunset from your back porch. Taste buttercream icing you whipped together with your own hands. Snuggle under covers, and hear the sound of your own breathing. Do what makes you happy. That's more important than any standard you have to meet and any image you need to maintain.

All in all, summer is what you want it to be. It can be a season full of going out to tropical places, a season of staying in bed all day or a little bit of both. Summer is your season; it is what you make it. So go forth, seize the day and do what you enjoy!

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Please Spare Me From The Three Months Of Summer Break When People Revert Back To High Schoolers

They look forward to swapping stories with their friends at the local diner, walking around their old high school with a weird sense of superiority, and reminiscing their pre-college lives.

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I know a surprising amount of people who actually couldn't wait to go home for the summer. They look forward to swapping stories with their friends at the local diner, walking around their old high school with a weird sense of superiority, and reminiscing their pre-college lives.

Me? Not so much. I don't mean to sound bitter. It's probably really comforting to return to a town where everyone knows your name, where your younger friends want you around to do their prom makeup, and where you can walk through Target without hiding in the deodorant aisle. But because I did this really annoying thing where my personality didn't really develop and my social anxiety didn't really loosen its grip on me until college, I have a very limited number of people to return to.

If you asked someone from my high school about Julia Bond, they would probably describe her as shy, studious, and uptight. I distinctly remember being afraid of people who JUULed (did you get high from it? was it illegal? could I secondhand smoke it and get lung cancer?) and crying over Algebra 1 in study hall (because nothing says fun and friendly like mascara steaks and furious scribbling in the back corner while everyone else throws paper airplanes and plays PubG Mobile).

I like to tell my college friends that if I met High School Julia, I would beat her up. I would like to think I could, even though I go to the gym now a third of the time I did then. It's not that it was High School Julia's fault that she closed herself off to everyone. She had a crippling fear of getting a B and an even worse fear of other people. But because she was so introverted and scared, College Julia has nothing to do but re-watch "The Office" for the 23rd time when she comes back.

Part of me is jealous of the people who came into their own before college. I see pictures of the same big friend groups I envied from a distance in high school, all their smiling faces at each other's college football games and pool parties and beach trips, and it makes me sad that I missed out on so many friendships because I was too scared to put myself out there. That part of me really, really wishes I had done things differently.

But a bigger, more confident part of me is really glad I had that experience. Foremost, everything I've gone through has shaped me. I mean, I hid in the freaking bathroom during lunch for the first two weeks of my freshman year of high school. I never got up to sharpen my pencil because I was scared people would talk about me. I couldn't even eat in front of people because I was so overwhelmingly self-conscious. I remember getting so sick at cross country practice because I ran four or five miles on an empty stomach.

Now, I look back and cringe at the ridiculousness because I've grown so much since then. Sure, I still have my quirks and I'm sure a year from now I'll write an article about what a weirdo Freshman Julia was. But I can tell who had the same experience as me. I can tell who was lonely in high school because they talk to the kids on my floor that study by themselves. I can tell who was afraid of speaking up because they listen so well. I can tell who was without a friend group because they stand by me when others don't. I can tell who hated high school, because it's obvious that they've never been as happy as they are now.

My dislike for high school, while inconvenient for this summer, might be one of the best things to happen to me. I learned how to overcome my fears, how to be independent, and how to make myself happy. I never belonged in high school, and that's why I will never take for granted where I belong here at Rutgers.

So maybe I don't have any prom pictures with a bunch of colorful dresses in a row, and maybe I didn't go to as many football games as I should have. Maybe I would've liked pep rallies, and maybe I missed out on senior week at the beach. But if I had experienced high school differently, I wouldn't be who I am today.

I wouldn't pinch myself daily because I still can't believe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I wouldn't smile so hard every time I come back from class and hear my floormates calling me from the lounge.

I wouldn't well up when my roommate leaves Famous Amos cookies on my desk before a midterm, or know how to help the girl having a panic attack next to me before a final, or hear my mom tell my dad she's never seen me this happy before.

If I had loved high school, I wouldn't realize how amazing I have it in college. So amazing, in fact, that I never want to go home.

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What It's Like Being An Introverted Leader

Different people lead differently.

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When you think of the qualities a leader or someone in a leadership position should have, being out-going is often mentioned. However, I don't think that always has to be the case. I've been a part of many different leadership opportunities and programs, yet I'm still the same socially awkward hermit I've always been. Being out-going and extroverted doesn't qualify someone to be a good leader, just like being shy and introverted makes you a bad one, it's about your skills.

When I went to a leadership program at a summer camp, I often heard that I didn't talk very much or I was too quiet and shy for a summer camp entertaining kids, I should have been more talkative. I'd also get a few counselors coming up to be that when they were in the same program I was in, they were also the same things I was and not to worry about it. Even now, I'm still quite and relatively shy person, but that doesn't discredit my ability to be a good leader, or anyone else's.

In my high school ASB (Associated Student Body) class, we took a fun personality test to find out what kind of leaders we were; someone who likes to be in charge, be in the spotlight, more organized, or stay in the background. I got someone who likes to be in the spotlight, which was a surprise to me too, but thinking about it, it makes sense. I'm not overly out-going, but given the right motivation, I don't mind going up to people and striking up a conversation.

I can also say that at some point I have possessed all four of these personalities or traits over the course of my different leadership roles. The reason I'm even bringing this personality test up is that it definitely shows that there are different types of leaders out there, and not all of them have to be extraverted. I tried to find the one I took but couldn't find the exact one, but if you're interested there are a ton of different ones out there.

Over time, I've learned and worked on many valuable skills, like conflict resolution, time management, actually listening to what others have to say, and more. I keep myself up to date with my surroundings and what's going on in the world, and I still meet and hang out with people, when I have time. People grow and learn on their own pace, we should let them without overly critiquing them.

In the end, whether someone is out-going or not shouldn't determine the ability they have to be a good leader, sure in some cases it's better to more extraverted, but it's not a make or break trait. So long as they have their mind in the right place and know how to handle different tasks and situations, it doesn't matter.

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