What To Do When You're Out Of The Loop

What To Do When You're Out Of The Loop

The struggles of coming home from college

During these next few weeks, most college kids will be coming home for the summer and even if you are a year higher than a freshman, you can relate to what happens. When you come home for the summer, it's almost like everything has changed. Members of your family who weren't friends before are now and sometimes the rules change too. Sometimes, they talk about things and people and you just have to nod your head and pretend like you know what's going on. Also when you come from college, you realize just how out of touch you are with the culture where you live.

Whenever I come home, the first thing I notice is the language that is being used. I usually don't understand what my siblings are saying when they talk in memes or slides or whatever people watch on their phones now. They use slang that I've never heard before and it makes me so confused. A word advice with this, you can either try to learn the new slang that is being spoken or you can just continue to act like a grandpa like me. Honestly, I don't know what people in high school are saying.

The second thing I notice is the change of structure. What I mean by this is who is in charge of certain things and who does what. This also includes a different set up of the house or your room because maybe your parents turned your room into a gym while you were gone. I don't actually know anyone's parents who have done this. A way you can deal with structure is just kind of merging into life and allowing yourself to just kind of fall into place. An important thing to remember when dealing with this is, they have been living without you for about eight months, so you have to adjust, not the other way around.

The next is dealing with being forgotten. I know that when I am home sometimes, my family just kind of forgets about me. Maybe it's going somewhere or doing something. Don't worry, it will happen to you. This will also happen when they are telling stories and can't remember if you were here or not. You have to understand and forgive them because imagine being your parents and having to remember where your kids are at all times. Don't get mad if they forget one thing, they aren't just a parent to you, in my case they are parents to three other people.

You will never put your stuff in drawers again. If you're anything like me, I keep my stuff from college in my bag for as long as I can because I just don't want to put it away. Last summer, I eventually did put them away in drawers, but then a month or two later, I just had to get them back out. I keep my college stuff in its boxes all summer long and don't open them until I'm getting ready to move back to school. You will slowly realize just how much stuff you own and then remember that you actually did use all of it.

When you are up at school, you are the only person in charge of you and you get to decide what you want to do and eat and everything. When you come home, that all goes away because your parents are now in charge again. The first time you come home, there will probably be a good amount of arguments, but they'll go away. You and your parents will have to work together because you are no longer a high school kid, you are an independent college student.

While you're at home, if you feel weird and almost like you don't belong at home, don't worry it will go away and you'll back to normal. Your parents might get onto you about grades and how you're not doing anything, but don't worry, they just want what's best for you and they want to give you what they didn't get. Remember while you're at home to appreciated your parents and even if you feel like it's killing you, in a short three months, you'll be back on your own.

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10 Things I Threw Out AFTER Freshman Year Of College

Guess half the stuff on your packing list doesn't really matter

I spent the entire summer before my freshman year of college so WORRIED.

I also spent most of my money that summer on miscellaneous dorm stuff. I packed the car when the time finally came to move in, and spent the drive up excited and confused about what the heck was actually going on.

Freshman year came and went, and as I get ready to go back to school in just a few short weeks (!!), I'm starting to realize there's just a whole bunch of crap I just don't need.

After freshman year, I threw out:

1. Half my wardrobe.

I don't really know what I was thinking of owning 13 sweaters and 25 T-shirts in the first place. I wear the same five T-shirts until I magically find a new one that I probably got for free, and I put on jeans maybe four times. One pair is enough.

2. Half my makeup.

Following in the theme of #1, if I put on makeup, it's the same eyeliner-mascara combination as always. Sometimes I spice it up and add lipstick or eyeshadow.

3. My vacuum.


One, I basically never did it. Two, if I REALLY needed to vacuum, dorms rent out cleaning supplies.

4. Most of my photos from high school.

I didn't throw them ALL away, but most of them won't be making a return to college. Things change, people change, your friends change. And that's okay.

5. Excess school supplies.

Binders are heavy and I am lazy. I surprisingly didn't lose that many pens, so I don't need the fifty pack anymore. I could probably do without the crayons.

6. Cups/Plates/Bowls/Silverware.

Again, I am lazy. I cannot be bothered to wash dishes that often. I'll stick to water bottles and maybe one coffee cup. Paper plates/bowls can always be bought, and plastic silverware can always be stolen from different places on campus.

7. Books.

I love to read, but I really don't understand why I thought I'd have the time to actually do it. I think I read one book all year, and that's just a maybe.

8. A sewing kit.

I don't even know how to sew.

9. Excessive decorations.

It's nice to make your space feel a little more cozy, but not every inch of the wall needs to be covered.

10. Throw pillows.

At night, these cute little pillows just got tossed to the floor, and they'd sit there for days if I didn't make my bed.

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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.


If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

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