You're Allowed To Choose Yourself
Start writing a post
Politics and Activism

You're Allowed To Choose Yourself

Sometimes you have to choose yourself; and that's okay.

You're Allowed To Choose Yourself
Nicole Grace

Am I too selfish? I want to do this for myself, but she needs my help…Should I just wait to do this for myself until I help her? Maybe I’ll just forget about it. I can just do it at a later time…She said it’s really urgent, so I guess my thing can wait. But when will I do it? Oh well, you know what, others always come first.

How many times do these thoughts pass through your head in one given day? If you say there are far too many to count, then you need to hear this: sometimes you have to put yourself first; and that’s okay.

In a world where friendship is a high commodity and helping others is a key to kindness, it’s hard to integrate yourself into that equation. But, you are just as important as everyone else, which means you deserve just as much care and attention. You should not always have to put others before yourself. And, more importantly, putting yourself before others does not make you selfish; it makes you self-aware. Sure, if you always put yourself above other, there's something wrong- but choosing yourself from time to time isn't selfish- it's watching out for your own well-being.

We grow up learning that we should treat others the way we want to be treated- and that golden rule doesn’t solely apply to prohibiting bullying. It also speaks to the fact that we all want to be prioritized; by ourselves and by other people as well. You are not a bad person if you choose yourself over someone else. The world is crazy, and at times unforgiving, which means that if you want to stay sane, sometimes you have to see yourself as the main priority. You will not, and do not, always have to be the shoulder for someone to cry on when you yourself are going through something astronomical. You do not have to help someone with their exam when you have your own time-consuming work. You do not have to listen to someone vent when you are over-stressed and over-tired. You should, however, be there for your friends when you can, without constantly sacrificing yourself.

With all of that being said, however, if you truly want to be that dependable friend, you can be. You have every right to be there for someone. But, remember that you are also a someone. You deserve to take time for yourself and care for yourself. Everyone is busy, which means that people are not always around. So learn how to choose yourself; learn how to put yourself before others, because other people already know how to do that.

This is an extraordinarily difficult task for some. It can be painful and confusing to choose yourself over someone else. It feels selfish and wrong. But I promise you, that is not always the case. Know that you deserve love and attention; especially from yourself. In the long run, it benefits you and your friends if you make time for yourself and your well-being. Then you can truly be in the moment with them.

Off of that, do not punish others for choosing themselves. If they choose themselves before you, know that there is most likely a reason. Or, know that you have other people there for you, who will not be looking out for themselves at that moment in time. But, the greatest solution for such a predicament is learning how to be there for yourself; even if it feels wrong, even if it feels uncomfortable.

So, choose yourself. Prioritize yourself. Do not sacrifice yourself 24/7. There are indeed selfish people out there, but choosing yourself from time to time does not make you one of them; it makes you a person who loves themselves, even if it’s difficult.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

7 Reasons SoCal Rocks!

75 degrees and sunny, plus, no humidity. I mean do I really need to say more?

woman in black and white long sleeve shirt carrying girl in red jacket in Venice beach
Photo by Jeff Hopper on Unsplash

SoCal summers are the best summers by far, and honestly, no argument is needed. But, if you aren't sure why SoCal summers are the best, here are 7 reasons why!

Keep Reading...Show less

25 Lyrics for Selfie Captions

Because let's be honest, we all use lyrics.

woman takes a selfie for social media

Sometimes you can't think of the perfect caption for your Instagram post. I love using lyrics as my captions because there's so many great lines in songs that just seem to fit in the moment. Here are some lyrics that could work for your selfie or pictures of you with your friends!

Keep Reading...Show less

Bruce Springsteen's Top 7 Lyrics

Everything Bruce says in his classic rock songs.

bruce springsteen album cover born in the usa

Anyone who was born and raised in New Jersey (or anywhere really) knows of Bruce Springsteen, whether or not they like him is a whole other situation. I hope that his hundreds of classic rock songs and famous high energy performances, even in his sixties he can put on better concerts than people half his age, are at least recognizable to people of all ages. Love him or hate him (I identify with the former) you have to admit that some of his songs and interviews have inspirational quotes and lyrics.

Keep Reading...Show less

New England Summers Are The BEST Summers

Why you should spend your next summer in New England.

Marconi Beach

Three years ago, I chose to attend college in Philadelphia, approximately 360 miles away from my small town in New Hampshire. I have learned many valuable lessons away from home, and have thoroughly enjoyed my time spent in Pennsylvania. One thing that my experience has taught me, however, is that it is absolutely impossible to beat a New England summer.

Keep Reading...Show less

Fibonacci Sequence Examples: 7 Beautiful Instances In Nature

Nature is beautiful (and so is math). The last one will blow your mind.

illustration of the fibonacci sequence

Yes, the math major is doing a math-related post. What are the odds? I'll have to calculate it later. Many people have probably learned about the Fibonacci sequence in their high school math classes. However, I thought I would just refresh everyone's memories and show how math can be beautiful and apply to physical things everywhere around us with stunning examples.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments