No matter the letters and no matter what tier the sorority sits on, I can guarantee that at least once in a sorority woman’s college career, she wonders if she chose the right sorority.
Even the most dedicated girl that bleeds her sorority’s colors has probably had a moment where she thought, “I wonder if ABC would have been a better fit than XYZ”. We worry about things like tier status, which sorority has the most homecoming queen victories, which sorority has won Greek week most, which sorority had that super cute sisterhood event that you keep seeing pictures of on Facebook. We get caught up in the superficial aspects sometimes and occasionally we wonder if we should have been somewhere else.
Well listen up ladies. It’s time to have a moment of clarity. Most sororities have basic values they follow: truth, loyalty, scholarship, love, etc. We differ in our philanthropies, how we were founded, why we were founded, and we have amazing aspects to our ritual that makes our organizations unique and wonderful. However, during recruitment we are only looking at the face value of each organization: which sorority has the most fun, wins the most competitions, and has the girls that we click with the most. We get our bid card, we celebrate and we give our hearts into an organization.
And then we have those moments of curiosity, sometimes rarely, but for some girls, they are frequent. So this is where it’s time to have your realization. Your sorority experience is what you make of it. If you want to be super involved and want all of your best friends to be in your sorority, then you need to be really involved and go to every event that you can. It can be intimidating to put yourself out there, especially if you feel like there are cliques in your sorority. But it is so worth it to branch out and make more friends. If you want to have friends outside of your sorority, then that is great too. Just because you accepted a bid does not mean that you gave up your rights to associate with other girls outside your organization.
If you’re upset that your sorority isn’t considered top-tier, then make it a goal to work on improving in areas that your sorority is “lacking”. Which by the way, the tier system is crap anyways. What defines top-tier? Hanging out with a certain fraternity? Having more socials? Having a bigger house? Does it honestly matter what tier your sorority is in as long as you are hanging out with people you love that make your life brighter and more fun?
When it comes down to it, every sorority member shares a similar experience. We all go drink with our sisters, have study dates in the library, binge on wine and chocolate while we cry about guys that broke our hearts, wear spirit jerseys, throw what we know, get ready for socials together, and put every ounce of love we can into our letters.
So it’s time to let all of the superficial stuff go. It’s time to make our sorority experience the best experience of our college lives because it only lasts four years and then it’s over. Don’t waste your time wondering about what things could have been like in another sorority; just spend your time making your experience what you want it to be like.
