Your New Year's Resolution NEEDS To Be Having A New Year's Resolution

Your New Year's Resolution NEEDS To Be Having A New Year's Resolution

It's better to fail than to not try at all.
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How many times have you made a New Year’s resolution, but never went through with it? I know that my answer to that is far too many. I've tried it all, too: changing my diet, working out more, being kinder, stop procrastinating. For whatever reason, nothing seems to stick. It always ends up feeling like I'm locked in the same place I've always been, and nothing really ever moves forward. If you’re not like this, and you have truly made a resolution come true, I am in awe of your resolve.

But for the rest of us, after years of telling yourself you’re going to start going to the gym four times a week, making resolutions you know aren’t going to happen to get old. There’s only so many times you can let your own self down before you just give up the jig and comes to terms with the fact that no matter how many New Year's resolutions you make.

If you feel this way, I'm totally with you.

But, then again, isn't better to try and not succeed than to not try at all?

Sure, it is frustrating when you say you're going to do something, and to fervently hope that it does, just for things to not work out how you wished they would have. Sometimes that's just the way the cookie crumbles. On the other hand, though, even when those infamous resolutions don't come to fruition, you are never truly at a loss — deciding on self-improvement is self-improvement in itself, even if it doesn't exactly pan out. Simply choosing to better yourself in some type of way is a great thing. It means you care enough to at least try to be the best version of yourself. Even if you don't get the results you want immediately, or just when you think you will, the fact that you even tried in the first place is what actually matters. Sometimes it takes a few failed attempts to make any sort of change anyways.

Don't give up because it hasn't happened yet. Keep trying because it will.

You might not even notice the change within you because it wasn't the one you were expecting. That's okay, keep trying anyway. Go make that resolution, try your best to succeed. If you don't, at least you don't have to regret not trying at all. New year, new you, even if you don't live up to the expectations you thought you would.

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19 Struggles Only Girls With The 'Looks Thin In Clothes But Not In A Bikini' Body Type Will Understand

A resounding 'thank you' to whoever decided one-pieces were cool again.
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We grew up thinking the world was black and white. There's tall people and short people. There's old people and young people.

There's fat people and skinny people.

But as you get older, you realize there is a lot more in between those two ends of the spectrum than you ever thought possible. Especially when it comes to weight. And you do a lot more realizing if you're in an awkward position on that scale... Literally.

1. People always tell you to stop saying you are fat

Obviously, your friends SHOULD prevent you from talking negatively about yourself. And if you only saw you when you were fully dressed, you'd probably tell yourself to stop saying you're fat, too.

2. And are kind of surprised by your actual weight

You've definitely had friends who are shocked by the number on your scale because you can carry it pretty well when you are fully dressed.

3. Sometimes you feel like a catfish

Have you ever changed out of your super cute, flattering outfit and looked at yourself in the mirror and thought... Wow, am I lying to people?

4. But you know this is probably true for most people

When you're wearing clothes, typically the parts of a body that bring about insecurities (stomach, namely) are covered. No matter the body type, you realize most people are more comfortable in clothes than out of them.

5. Your confidence is often contingent on the month

November? Yep, won't need to be in shorts or a bikini for about 7-8 months. I am good to go.

February? I'll need to be in a bikini soon.. I could use some work.

6. You are thrilled by the one-piece bathing suit making a fashion come back

A resounding 'thank you' to whoever decided it was time to give one-pieces a try again. The stomachs of us in-between gals are appreciative.

7. Crop tops are 95% of the time not your top of choice

Yeah, okay, clothes are supposed to work for me and not against me.

8. You honestly don't understand jean sizes

I have fluctuated in weight a lot of my life, most recently losing 25lbs, and I still did not budge in jean sizes.

9. You wonder what other people think when they see you

Do other people see me as thin in clothing? Or fat in a bikini? What size am I perceived as?

10. Shopping is kind of a nightmare

Have you ever found about 27 items you liked, added the prices and thought, ah, it is going to be so tough to choose from all of these items? Only to go into the fitting room and realize only 2 of the items fit you well? Yep, me every single time I go to the store.

SEE ALSO: 7 Struggles Of Being The Girl Who Is "Not Skinny" But Also "Not Fat"

11. You're thankful that at least you've got boobs

You can kind of hide them in clothes, and then let them steal the show away from your tummy in a swimsuit.

12. You have a hard time setting weight-loss goals

You aren't really sure how overweight you are (if you are, at all) and you don't want to be at an unhealthy weight on either side of the spectrum.

13. Body positivity comes and goes

There are days, weeks or even months when you feel like the most beautiful person on the planet, and then something happens (old jeans don't fit, you try on a new bathing suit, etc.) and you convince yourself that all of that confidence was wrong and undeserved.

14. You always try on the biggest size first

Either this or you're in a weird limbo between the smallest plus sizes size and the biggest generic sizes size.

15. Half of you knows every body is a bikini body, and half of you is convinced that yours is not

You know that your body is worthy of wearing whatever you want to wear, but looking at yourself and seeing what society (and you) sometimes deem as unattractive can eat away at that knowledge.

16. But you also know self-love and confidence are key to beauty

Even if you have to fake it, you know that feeling confident is going to carry you pretty far.

17. Being in a bathing suit is a constant game of readjustment

Okay, I am sitting. Pull the bottoms up to cover as much as my stomach as possible and the back of the top down to cover any back rolls.

18. You've avoided the mirror after a shower before

You know that you are just going to lose all the comfort you felt in your body during the day when you see yourself, so sometimes it is best to just avoid it.

19. Ultimately, you know your beauty is not contingent on what you are wearing

The goal for everyone should be to get to a point where it doesn't matter if you're in a snowsuit, a bathing suit or a birthday suit... You can see your beauty no matter what and feel confident despite what you have on. It'll take time, but falling in love with the way you look is worth it.

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New York City’s Most Underrated Hot Spot

Beautiful flowers kept in true conditions
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Good news New York: Spring has sprung! And that means spending time outside.

Personally, one of my favorite things to do on a nice day is spending time in the Botanical Gardens, conveniently located across the street from Fordham. Even more convenient is that Fordham students have free admission to the grounds.

But what is unfortunate is that we don’t get access to the shows. Currently, there is an Orchid Show. I splurged—ok my mom bought them not me—and went with my family over the weekend.


Even though it isn’t the cheapest event, I highly recommend it. Basically, the show is split into two parts: rainforest and desert. The flowers are beautiful and kept in true conditions. I learned that these flowers are actually poached and over half of the orchid species are endangered.

But it makes sense! They’re beautiful but hard to maintain. They have very specific watering instructions. But the Botanical Gardens preserves them for everyone to admire. The staff of the Botans spends time collaborating with artist and experts in the field to create an amazing experience. They time all the time to get every detail right, and audiences of all ages can appreciate it.

Going to school right next to the Botanical Gardens means I have easier access to it than most New Yorkers. But I still say it is worth the trip. It is a great place for a picnic and a long walk. The shows, like the Orchid Show, are truly worth it. It’s a different world than the city: the perfect escape for the New Yorker looking for fresh air.

The Botanical Gardens can be a whole day or an hour, it is exactly what you make it. I recommend going to the show early—especially if it’s a nice day—the lines will get long quickly.

In the spring, the Rockefeller Rose Garden opens, along with all the other flowers that are coming in bloom. I also recommend the Azalea Garden, which is along the way to the Rose Garden.

Now is the perfect time to make your way to the Bronx and appreciate its beauty!

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