Just Because I'm Younger Than You Doesn't Make You More Mature

Just Because I'm Younger Than You Doesn't Make You More Mature

Maturity has nothing to do with age.

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I am a 21-year-old college student. I work for a transportation company where I am the youngest one in my building. So you can imagine that a lot of the time, at first sight, people would think my maturity level is not the greatest.

That is entirely incorrect.

Due to my past and the way I was raised, I've been told by many people that get to know me, that my maturity goes way past my age. That I present myself very well for someone so young. It's been that way my whole life. So when someone speaks to me as if I am a child, because they are the slightest bit older than me, I take it with a grain of salt.

I'm mature enough to realize that, while they think they can speak to me in such a manner, that I will not allow them to speak to me that way. I work very hard in each of the positions I work in (I work 3 jobs) and with every job, I work to my best ability and beyond to prove that I am capable of the position I work.

Why do people think that maturity has to do with age?

To be truthful, maturity really has to do with your morals. Respect, understanding and the capability to listen to others, are all qualities that are needed for a high maturity level. Having a calm state of mind when dealing with tough situations is another. I've seen way too many people, young and old, that whine and cry whenever things don't go their way. That's not mature. It doesn't matter if you are 14 or 62 if you don't work for what you want, expect it to get handed to you and then complain when things don't go your way, you are immature.

If someone that is of a younger age than you, whether it is a two-year difference or a 15-year difference, is in charge of you, you listen. You respect them and treat them with the same level of respect that they give you. Not only because they are your boss or higher up, but because we are humans and humans deserve to be treated with respect.

At 19 I was given a position where I was in charge of a group of people I worked with. All ranging from 16 to 40. It baffled me that the ones older than me were the ones to disregard any task given. They would ignore my authority and do whatever they thought to be right. Within time, I made my point clear that I was given my position for a reason. I work hard and I know what I'm doing and what my team should be doing to get the job done effectively. If they didn't want to follow that, they could speak with the higher up from me.

The point being is that age has nothing to do with someone's work ethic, maturity level, or even intelligence. It's all in what people take in on their day to day lives. Are there things that 40-year-old's know more about than I do? Absolutely. Are there things that 16-year-old's know more about than I? Yes.

But there are also things that I have more knowledge on then both of those age groups. It's all about experience. And, while an older generation has experienced more, they haven't experienced the same as I. Just like I haven't experienced all the same of that younger than me.

No matter what the age, race, or gender, be mature and respect each other.

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'Baby, It's Cold Outside' Is NOT About Date Rape, It's A Fight Against Social Norms Of The 1940s

The popular Christmas song shouldn't be considered inappropriate.

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The classic Christmas song "Baby, It's Cold Outside" has recently come under attack. There has been controversy over the song being deemed as inappropriate since it has been suggested that it promotes date rape. Others believe that the song is another common example of our culture's promotion of rape. You may be wondering, where did they get that idea from?

The controversy has led to one radio station, WDOK, taking the song off the air and banning it from their station. Some people believe that this song goes against the #MeToo movement since it promotes rape. However, people are not considering the fact that this traditional Christmas song was made in the 1940s.

People are viewing the song from a modern-day cultural perspective rather than from the perspective of the 1940s. "Baby, It's Cold Outside" was written in 1944. Many people have viewed the song from the perspective of our cultural and social norms. People believe that the song promotes date rape because of lyrics that suggest that the male singing is trying to stop the female singer from leaving, and the female singer is constantly singing about trying to escape with verses like "I really can't stay" or "I've got to go home."

When you first view the song from the perspective of today's culture, you may jump to the conclusion that the song is part of the date rape culture. And it's very easy to jump to this conclusion, especially when you are viewing only one line from the song. We're used to women being given more freedom. In our society, women can have jobs, marry and be independent. However, what everyone seems to forget is that women did not always have this freedom.

In 1944, one of the social norms was that women had curfews and were not allowed to be in the same house as a man at a later time. It was considered a scandal if a single woman so much as stayed at another man's house, let alone be in the same room together. It's mind-blowing, right? You can imagine that this song was probably considered very provocative for the time period.

"Baby, It's Cold Outside" is not a song that encourages date rape, but is actually challenging the social norms of society during the time period. When you listen to the song, you notice that at one part of the song, the female states, "At least I can say that I tried," which suggests that she really doesn't want to leave. In fact, most of the song, she is going back and forth the whole time about leaving stating, "I ought to say no…well maybe just a half a drink more," and other phrases.

She doesn't want to leave but doesn't really have a choice due to fear of causing a scandal, which would have consequences with how others will treat her. It was not like today's society where nobody cares how late someone stays at another man's house. Nowadays, we could care less if we heard that our single neighbor stayed over a single man's house after 7. We especially don't try to look through our curtain to check on our neighbor. Well, maybe some of us do. But back then, people did care about where women were and what they were doing.

The female singer also says in the lyrics, "The neighbors might think," and, "There's bound to be talk tomorrow," meaning she's scared of how others might perceive her for staying with him. She even says, "My sister will be suspicious," and, "My brother will be there at the door," again stating that she's worried that her family will find out and she will face repercussions for her actions. Yes, she is a grown woman, but that doesn't mean that she won't be treated negatively by others for going against the social norms of the time period.

Then why did the male singer keep pressuring her in the song? This is again because the song is more about challenging the social norms of the time period. Both the female and male singers in the song are trying to find excuses to stay and not leave.

On top of that, when you watch the video of the scene in which the song was originally viewed, you notice that the genders suddenly switch for another two characters, and now it's a female singer singing the male singer's part and vice versa. You also notice that the whole time, both characters are attracted to one another and trying to find a way to stay over longer.

Yes, I know you're thinking it doesn't matter about the genders. But, the song is again consensual for both couples. The woman, in the beginning, wants to stay but knows what will await if she doesn't leave. The male singer meanwhile is trying to convince her to forget about the rules for the time period and break them.

In addition, the complaint regarding the lyric "What's in this drink?" is misguided. What a lot of people don't understand is that back in 1944, this was a common saying. If you look at the lyrics of the song, you notice that the woman who is singing is trying to blame the alcoholic drink for causing her to want to stay longer instead of leaving early. It has nothing to do with her supposed fear that he may have tried to give her too much to drink in order to date rape her. Rather, she is trying to find something to blame for her wanting to commit a scandal.

As you can see, when you view the song from the cultural perspective of the 1940s, you realize that the song could be said to fight against the social norms of that decade. It is a song that challenges the social constrictions against women during the time period. You could even say that it's an example of women's rights, if you wanted to really start an argument.

Yes, I will admit that there were movies and songs made back in the time period that were part of the culture of date rape. However, this song is not the case. It has a historical context that cannot be viewed from today's perspective.

The #MeToo movement is an important movement that has led to so many changes in our society today. However, this is not the right song to use as an example of the date rape culture.

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His Name Is Jacob Anderson And We, The Students Of Baylor, Do Not Claim Him

As a female Baylor student, I am ashamed of us.

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Brock Turner was witnessed raping an unconscious woman behind a dumpster and sentenced three months in prison.

Cyntoia Brown was kidnapped at 16, forced into sex trafficking, and sentenced 51 years without parole for killing her assailant in self-defense.

On December 11, former Baylor Phi Delta Theta President Jacob Anderson who allegedly drugged, raped and choked a female student at a party was given no jail time and did not have to register as a sex offender as part of a plea deal.

All of the above are gross miscarriages of justice and a reflection of our values as a nation.

Judge Ralph Strother of Waco, a former Baylor undergrad and Law School alumni, accepted a plea deal from Jacob Anderson. ADA Hilary LaBorde, also a Baylor alumna, agreed to dismiss four counts of sexual assault as part of Anderon's plea deal. Anderson's punishment for one of the most heinous crimes a human being can commit is a slap on the wrist in comparison to the punishments of people like Cyntoia Brown. Anderson has agreed to get counseling and pay a $400 fine in return for nothing on his record relating to his probation.

The victim of Jacob Anderson's case immediately took action and contacted the appropriate authorities, submitted a crime report, and even agreed to a rape kit which confirmed she had been raped.

Despite doing everything a victim should do in this case, she is not given justice with Anderson's verdict. Since then, a petition with over 25,000 signatures has been launched opposing the plea agreement. Judge Ralph Strother claims the signers are "misinformed."

Looking at cases like Brock Turner and Jacob Anderson, where money and power are potential sources of abuse to get what they want, is our justice system only open to the highest bidder?

As a female Baylor student, I am ashamed of us.

I am ashamed that rape and sexual assault has a home and history on our campus. I am ashamed that there can be people on campus that are capable of crimes like Jacob Anderson. I am ashamed that Baylor alumni like Judge Ralph Strother and Hilary LaBorde made the decision they did, and I am ashamed at the values and morals they have chosen to showcase through their actions after having gone to a Christian school.

On behalf of the majority of Baylor students, I want to say that people like Jacob Anderson are not reflective of our student body and that we do not claim him as one of our own.

We stand in support of all victims who have not been served justice, though I cannot speak for anyone else who is affiliated with Baylor and not a student.

Jacob Anderson is currently enrolled in UT Dallas and attending until his graduation next week.

He has been given a job offer by BDRC Real Estate Firm.

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