College was the biggest transition I was so unprepared to take on. I did not realize what I was truly into physically and emotionally. However, I knew that I could not do this alone. Secularly, I was alone. No friends, at least 12 pounds heavier, and I do not carry a Louis Vuitton.
While I felt alone in the secular world, I knew my Heavenly Father was with me.
The first thing about college is the people. In high school, you know most everyone, and you know them in and out. Contrastingly, it is so different than college. When you're on the elevator in a t-shirt and no makeup and another young woman walks in with her hair curled and makeup done, you tend to compare yourself. I know I did. I would look at the thousand other girls living in my dorm and wonder why I can't look like them, or have as much money as them, etc. I thought that I was less; like a misfit.
However, I learned that I am the opposite. I slowly realized that just because someone "looks" better than me, does NOT mean that I am less. And it does not mean that YOU are less either.
I have always labeled myself as fat no matter what size I was. Now, that I've gained weight due to stressed and not having time to workout, it has gotten awful. I feel like so many women label themselves as fat. And let me tell you something, if you got a tummy there is NOTHING wrong with that. We throw around fat like it is the worst, most monstrous thing you could be. Little do us women know that our mind is an endless universe that can literally change the world.
You are so powerful.
You are growing.
You are learning how you want your life to be lived.
You are planting your own seed into your own world.
I'm not excluding men by ANY means of course. I am just focusing on my ladies because I have seen and experienced myself the self-hate that women seem to be burying in their hearts. But women have such drive, motivation and talent in this world that goes unnoticed, don't let a physical label limit your endless possibilities and capabilities.
Your self-value should be in your career, or future career, your studies, your talents, your HEART.
What if we described ourselves as the way we treat others? Just think about that for a second. What if we wore our words and thoughts on a t-shirt? Would we be just as attractive?
Just remember, that comparing yourselves to others will not make you better or worse than them. You will literally just hurt yourself constantly because you can't be them, nor are you supposed to be.
"Your beauty does not come from your outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight." - 1 Peter 3:3-4