Heading into 2019, the last thing anyone wants to think about is getting their heart broken. I know I for one would truly prefer not to experience that again as I have in 2018. The heartbreak I experienced last year was one for the books, but looking back now almost a full year later, I couldn't imagine who I would be without it. Love comes easily for some while for others it feels like searching for a needle in a haystack. It's scary to get back out there, whether you are recently single or have been single for a while and want to become more active in finding a boyfriend or girlfriend.
We cannot let the idea of getting our hearts broken be a deterrent for finding the love we know we deserve.
Obviously skipping harsh break-ups full of arguments and sadness is what anyone could ask for when searching for the right person, but we cannot find our true love without going through any sort of heartbreak. Every wrong partner leads you one step closer to the right one. Tired of picking the wrong people? Everyone has to go through a wakeup call when they finally realize enough is enough.
Once you've gone through one heartbreak too many and then taken a ton of personal time for yourself, only then will the right kind of person you need can start to pop up into your life.
Maybe you finally found someone you thought could be the one, but something about the timing is wrong. They could be going away for a long time, or you find yourself swamped with work and cannot put proper effort into the relationship. Sometimes we have to meet these people to see what we need and realize what we want may not be what is best for us. If this person is meant to be with you, they will be. Some may say bad timing means the relationship isn't meant to be but I beg to differ.
Take these glimpses into what you need and start writing a whole new chapter of the story of your life.
It's so hard to take anyone you meet on a dating app seriously, especially when you get older and guys just seem to keep getting younger. The maturity level between you and the pool of people to choose from is vastly different, so it's easy to want to give up on the whole idea of dating. It's hard to trust that the new person you start talking to won't ghost you or cheat on you when you finally start to have faith in relationships again.
We have to be gutsy if we want real love.
Being afraid to get hurt will prevent you from chasing after what you want. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and feel real, possibly gut-wrenching pain because the rainbow is just around the corner, where your pot of gold and dream person is waiting for you. Getting your heart broken makes you so much stronger. Yeah, it really sucks at the moment, but in the end, you'll be able to look back and be thankful for those hard times. The heartbreak made you into the amazing person you are right now, and that's something those trashy exes of yours will never get to take away.