You Won't Find Real Love Without Heartbreak

You Won't Find Real Love Without Heartbreak

Real love stems from heartbreak


Heading into 2019, the last thing anyone wants to think about is getting their heart broken. I know I for one would truly prefer not to experience that again as I have in 2018. The heartbreak I experienced last year was one for the books, but looking back now almost a full year later, I couldn't imagine who I would be without it. Love comes easily for some while for others it feels like searching for a needle in a haystack. It's scary to get back out there, whether you are recently single or have been single for a while and want to become more active in finding a boyfriend or girlfriend.

We cannot let the idea of getting our hearts broken be a deterrent for finding the love we know we deserve.

Obviously skipping harsh break-ups full of arguments and sadness is what anyone could ask for when searching for the right person, but we cannot find our true love without going through any sort of heartbreak. Every wrong partner leads you one step closer to the right one. Tired of picking the wrong people? Everyone has to go through a wakeup call when they finally realize enough is enough.

Once you've gone through one heartbreak too many and then taken a ton of personal time for yourself, only then will the right kind of person you need can start to pop up into your life.

Maybe you finally found someone you thought could be the one, but something about the timing is wrong. They could be going away for a long time, or you find yourself swamped with work and cannot put proper effort into the relationship. Sometimes we have to meet these people to see what we need and realize what we want may not be what is best for us. If this person is meant to be with you, they will be. Some may say bad timing means the relationship isn't meant to be but I beg to differ.

Take these glimpses into what you need and start writing a whole new chapter of the story of your life.

It's so hard to take anyone you meet on a dating app seriously, especially when you get older and guys just seem to keep getting younger. The maturity level between you and the pool of people to choose from is vastly different, so it's easy to want to give up on the whole idea of dating. It's hard to trust that the new person you start talking to won't ghost you or cheat on you when you finally start to have faith in relationships again.

We have to be gutsy if we want real love.

Being afraid to get hurt will prevent you from chasing after what you want. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and feel real, possibly gut-wrenching pain because the rainbow is just around the corner, where your pot of gold and dream person is waiting for you. Getting your heart broken makes you so much stronger. Yeah, it really sucks at the moment, but in the end, you'll be able to look back and be thankful for those hard times. The heartbreak made you into the amazing person you are right now, and that's something those trashy exes of yours will never get to take away.

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6 Important Must Knows For Dating Sassy And Sarcastic Girls

Brace yourselves boys, she's a tough one.

Dating a girl with a big personality can be tricky. They are some of the most amazing girls but to keep them, one needs to understand them. Here are six important things you must be aware of before you give your heart to a sassy and sarcastic girl.

1. Stubborn

She is going to be the most stubborn creature you will ever meet. I say "creature" because she might actually scare you with how much she refuses to back down until you have full proof she is wrong. And if you can’t prove her wrong, just suck up your pride and let her be right or she’ll never quit. But just remember that she’s simply passionate about whatever it is and you should be proud of her for that.

2. Bluntness

She is going to be blunt. So be prepared to hear the truth. She isn’t going to care how mad you get, if you’re being rude, she won’t be afraid to put you in your place. If your choice of clothing isn’t matching, she’ll tell you. Whatever it is, she isn’t going to keep the truth from you. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes she’s just a little too straightforward.

3. Sensitivity

Be careful sometimes with your choice of words. Though she is blunt, she is also sensitive. Her sarcastic personality is sometimes just a defense mechanism because she fears opening up. She worries a lot and continues to ponder the things you say. Remind her she is loved.

4. Friends

She is going to have a lot more guy friends than she will have girl friends. Why? Because guys tend to find more humor in her sarcasm and don’t take it so personal, whereas other girls take it as she’s being serious and just rude. However, don’t be jealous because trust me, you’re 100 percent hers and those guy friends are just that — friends.

5. Insults

She’s not going to flirt with you by giggling and blushing and calling you cute. She’s going to call you an idiot and smack you across the shoulder or back because to her, that’s easier than being all giddy and speechless over how much she likes you. And even when she’s calling you names, which really is in all fun and games, she doesn’t mean it seriously, she’s actually just saying “I love you” in her own special language.

6. Shorty

If she’s short in addition to being sassy and sarcastic, you’re in for a big treat with her. She is not only going to be full of fast wit, but she is going to have so much spunk in her you won’t know what to do. She will be so feisty that she won’t be afraid of anything or anyone and you yourself won’t even know how to handle her. That’s what makes her special.

It takes a certain type of person to be able to give their heart to someone who can so easily break it with their strong headed personality. But a sarcastic and sassy girl is going to be the one girl who is going to love you with all that she has. Treat her right, and she’ll treat you right.

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I'm Learning To Appreciate Low Key Dates As Much As Fancy Ones

My boyfriend once told me he considered Taco Bell drive thrus and funny Youtube video binges dates, and I didn't really appreciate that until recently.


When I was little, I had really grand ideas of romance and friendship. Older kids went on big fancy dates, with cute dresses, flowers, and spontaneous situations. When I came to be that age though, the idea of fancy dates became kind of lost on me, but I still liked the idea of big fancy dates if the opportunity ever arose. I'm one of those people who loves to create grand expectations for themselves, builds situations and ideas up before they even happen.

However, as I've grown up, started earning my own income, and learned to appreciate the person more than the setting, I've learned to appreciate the cheap, low effort dates for what they are, time with a person you care about a lot, with the added bonus of more money staying in your pocket.

My boyfriend and I are long distance, so a lot of our dates are just eating dinner together over Facebook video call and attempting to synchronize funny Youtube videos we can laugh at together. We don't get a lot of opportunities to see each other in person during the school year, so we try to make the best out of what we have. As much as I love the fancy parts of dressing up and trying new foods that come with what I guess would be considered more traditional dates, I feel more comfortable and relaxed with our low effort, low budget video call dates. A lot of that has translated into us being more comfortable around one another, something that definitely adds to our dynamic when we are around each other.

When we are together, we like to plan these big fancy dates, but we don't always follow through. Sometimes, having no plan is more fun than sticking to one for the whole day, and figuring out fun stuff to do together. Overall, it just seems like spontaneity helps us try new things and avoid just doing the same old movie date we like to do whenever we see each other.

My boyfriend recently told me he considers anytime we've gone to Taco Bell together a date, and we go there together a lot. At first, I thought this was silly, but then I thought of the drives we go on after or the times we've just sat there, eating and talking without having to yell over a hundred other conversations. Nothing means more to me than honest and open communication and discussion, so it started to make sense to me that we would consider all these drive-thru runs dates. We always seem to come away from them knowing a little more about the other person. Even if the food isn't exactly Michelin star quality, the relationship definitely is.

As a romantic person, I love dates of all kinds, but in finally learning to embrace drive-thru dates, I've remembered what the whole point of a date is. A date isn't for the cute, aesthetic stories, or a reason to get dressed up (even though I really like that part).

The whole point of a date is to get to know the person better.

Even though I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, there's still a lot about him I have yet to know, and I feel like there's no better setting for that then when we're at our most comfortable. And sitting on our beds two states away from each other on Facebook video chat, or stuffing our faces with cheap fast food in a parked car in front of my hometown's lake seem like pretty comfortable places if you ask me.

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