There have been moments in recent years that I know for a fact I was overextending myself. Then, of course, I snapped. It's easier to ignore your emotions than address them, but that doesn't make it the best choice in the long run.

Growing up, I've learned that we should treat others the way we want to be treated, and with time, that has turned into putting others' needs ahead of my own. Spoiler alert: I had to learn the hard way that this won't always be the best advice to follow. I'm going into my fourth (and hopefully last) year of college this fall and while my studies have obviously been the focus, I've had to learn fairly quickly about myself. Specifically, what I need from myself in order to be happy and successful.

Until I was truly on my own after, I didn't have to think about what I need to put in place in my life to support me now and in the future. I've faced my fair share of dark times and I feel like I've spent more time in that place because I thought I could go on normally. I thought if I kept doing what was expected that I'd be able to get over whatever turmoil was happening in my heart.

I've learned that it's hard to be intentional with others if you aren't being intentional with yourself. Taking the time to really check in with your well-being is vital to how well your relationships are with others and how well your relationship is with yourself. How do you expect to serve others if you get to a point where you ultimately have no more to give? It's impossible.

Being intentional with yourself is the same as checking in with an old friend. You make it a point to reach out. And a great way to check in with yourself is to put time towards yourself. One way you can do this is by "treating yourself" and that doesn't mean you need to break the bank to do so.

I love being able to take myself to T.J. Maxx and roam around the store looking at different pieces of clothing or smelling the different candles they have. I know most people think it's weird to go places alone or go eat alone, but I recently got dinner out by myself and it was so nice to not worry about any expectations. If I were back home, I would take advantage of the twenty-minute drive to the beach to watch the sunset.

Do yourself the favor of taking care of yourself before you try and be there for others. By doing so, you'll be able to do enjoy being there for others and really be able to be intentional with your time.

Finding life's little moments and enjoying them is a way to be purposeful with your mentality and can do so much for you. Basically, stop and smell the roses. You're as helpful to others as you are yourself.