Girls like to creep on girls they can't stand on social media. It's just a fact, and it usually stems from jealousy, that usually involves a guy (not all the time, but that is the focus of this article). It can turn the kind-hearted girl into a complete monster, it happened to me in high school.
After months of finding any possible way to dislike the girl my crush was dating my senior year in high school, I talked enough trash about her to make sure it reached her in the next town over. To this day, it is one of biggest regrets in life and most out of character moment I can think of. The guilt ate me alive and I found her on Facebook two years later and apologized. She remembered me and forgave me, and she turned out to be a really sweet girl.
I know I am not the first to act on jealousy like this. Songs such as "Girlfriend" by Avril Lavigne thrive on the idea of hating a girl and bringing her down simply for the guy she is with. In the age of social media, we can reach almost anyone alive, including the girlfriends of our celebrity crushes. Girls have not hesitated from cyber bullying girlfriends of their celebrity crushes online, and it gets ugly. Danielle Peazer (pictured in the cover photo on the left side), professional dancer and ex-girlfriend of "One Direction" member Liam Payne received death threats and other forms of cyberbullying
during her time with Payne, and decided to take action. She became an ambassador for The CyberSmile foundation and has worked with them for three years helping to spread the word through her story.It isn't just posting nasty comments, a lot of us are guilty and don't even realize. When I found out my celebrity crush's girlfriend (who I will not specifically identify out of the respect that she deserves and obviously does not receive) was on Instagram, I followed her immediately. I never left a mean comment, but often thought negatively of her when her posts appeared in my feed and sometimes passive-aggressively liked her posts.
It sounds pretty harmless at first, but I really thought about it when I was bored in the airport recently and looked through some of her old posts. She made a simple post on how girls should stop bringing each other down. I couldn't help but think back to Danielle Peazer's story and couldn't help but imagine the mean comments this girl got on a daily basis simply for who she is dating. After a quick Google search, I found incredibly nasty comments about her all over the internet for anyone in the world to see.
Although I was not making mean comments, passive aggressively liking posts wasn't the nicest thing in the world. I went through some of her posts again with a more positive mindset and realized something that she was just like any other girl. Her pictures were great, her clothes were wonderful, and her hair and makeup was really pretty. I even left some positive comments and have come to admire her for persevering through all of the hate she receives.
Why do we get jealous and hate on other girls for stupid things? It is a waste of time and brings out the worst in all of us, we should be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down.
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