If You Love Something, Let It Go

If You Love Something, Let It Go

The possibility that it may not be meant doesn't make you miss something you love any less.

Growing up, Mr. Jenkins always lived down the street. My parents always told me not to bother him. They never gave me a reason, they just told me not to leave the man be. I walked by his house every morning on my way to school and every morning he was sitting on his porch in his rocking chair next to an empty matching rocking chair. He was never doing anything, like reading the paper, just sitting watching the few cars that drove down our street go by. He just became a fixture in the neighborhood for me, like the big maple tree across from the elementary school.

Then I was home from college one holiday season and my mom asked me to take the dog for a walk. While I was out I realized that Mr. Jenkins was still sitting on his porch, still doing nothing but watching the cars go by. I turned the dog back to my house and decided to ask my mom the question that had been haunting me for years.

"Mom, why does Mr. Jenkins always just sit outside? Even when it's freezing and bitterly cold he just sits out there in his rocking chair." She gave me a small but sad smile, put down the dishcloth in her hand and sunk down in a kitchen chair.

"Come sit." She waited for me to join her at the table and then continued." Jim's wife, Claire, left him a long time ago."

"Okay, but why does he just sit outside waiting for her?" I was deeply confused. People leave their significant others every day, but what does that have to do with him sitting on the porch by himself.

"Claire and Jim were high school sweethearts. They got married as soon as they turned eighteen, saved all their money to buy that little house. They tried forever to have kids, but they just couldn't. It almost killed them both. But, then one of their friends died in a car accident. She had a little boy and after his mother passed he had no family that would take him. He was about to go into foster care until Jim and Claire offered to adopt him." This was such a sad story but, I was still confused.

"Mom, that's moving and everything, but why does he sit on the porch?"

"Calm down. Calm down. I'm getting there. Anyway, so they were all a perfect little family. Tommy was getting ready to graduate when the planes hit the towers, so after graduation, he took off for the Marines and never came back. Then, Claire left a week after the funeral and no one has seen her since."

I was crying now, this was so awful.That was horrible. He had been through so much. His only child dies then his wife leaves him.

"But, wait. Why does he sit outside all the time? He always looks like he's waiting for something. Is he waiting for his son?" My mom smiled sadly.

"No, he's waiting for Claire."

"But why? She left him, right?"

"Going through life we always hear, 'If you love something let it go. If it's meant to be it'll come back.' But, that doesn't make it hurt any less. The possibility that it may not be meant doesn't make you miss something you love any less." After that she got up and went upstairs.

Finally, I understood why Mr. Jenkins sits on his porch. He sits there waiting for his wife every day because he misses her, because he loves her so much that he allowed her to leave with the hope that she would come back to him one day.

A few months later, I came back to visit my parents and Mr. Jenkins was not sitting on his porch. I don’t know why he was't in is rocking chair on that porch, but I like to think that Claire came back.

Cover Image Credit: Seyfettin Dincturk

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9 Reasons Crocs Are The Only Shoes You Need

Crocs have holes so your swag can breathe.

Do you have fond childhood objects that make you nostalgic just thinking about your favorite Barbie or sequenced purse? Well for me, its my navy Crocs. Those shoes put me through elementary school. I eventually wore them out so much that I had to say goodbye. I tried Airwalks and sandals, but nothing compared. Then on my senior trip in New York City, a four story Crocs store gleamed at me from across the street and I bought another pair of Navy Blue Crocs. The rest is history. I wear them every morning to the lake for practice and then throughout the day to help air out my soaking feet. I love my Crocs so much, that I was in shock when it became apparent to me that people don't feel the same. Here are nine reasons why you should just throw out all of your other shoes and settle on Crocs.

1. They are waterproof.

These bad boys can take on the wettest of water. Nobody is sure what they are made of, though. The debate is still out there on foam vs. rubber. You can wear these bad boys any place water may or may not be: to the lake for practice or to the club where all the thirsty boys are. But honestly who cares because they're buoyant and water proof. Raise the roof.

2. Your most reliable support system

There is a reason nurses and swimming instructors alike swear by Crocs. Comfort. Croc's clogs will make you feel like your are walking on a cloud of Laffy Taffy. They are wide enough that your toes are not squished, and the rubbery material forms perfectly around your foot. Added bonus: The holes let in a nice breeze while riding around on your Razor Scooter.

3. Insane durability

Have you ever been so angry you could throw a Croc 'cause same? Have you ever had a Croc bitten while wrestling a great white shark? Me too. Have you ever had your entire foot rolled like a fruit roll up but had your Crocs still intact? Also me. All I know is that Seal Team 6 may or may not have worn these shoes to find and kill Osama Bin Laden. Just sayin'.

4. Bling, bling, bling

Jibbitz, am I right?! These are basically they're own money in the industry of comfortable footwear. From Spongebob to Christmas to your favorite fossil, Jibbitz has it all. There's nothing more swag-tastic than pimped out crocs. Lady. Killer.

5. So many options

From the classic clog to fashionable sneakers, Crocs offer so many options that are just too good to pass up on. They have fur lined boots, wedges, sandals, loafers, Maryjane's, glow in the dark, Minion themed, and best of all, CAMO! Where did your feet go?!

6. Affordable

Crocs: $30

Feeling like a boss: Priceless

7. Two words: Adventure Straps

Because you know that when you move the strap from casual mode chillin' in the front to behind the heal, it's like using a shell on Mario Cart.

8. Crocs cares

Okay, but for real, Crocs is a great company because they have donated over 3 million pairs of crocs to people in need around the world. Move over Toms, the Croc is in the house.

9. Stylish AF

The boys will be coming for you like Steve Irwin.

Who cares what the haters say, right? Wear with pride, and go forth in style.

Cover Image Credit: Chicago Tribune

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From One Nerd To Another

My contemplation of the complexities between different forms of art.


Aside from reading Guy Harrison's guide to eliminating scientific ignorance called, "At Least Know This: Essential Science to Enhance Your Life" and, "The Breakthrough: Immunotherapy and the Race to Cure Cancer" by Charles Graeber, an informative and emotional historical account explaining the potential use of our own immune systems to cure cancer, I read articles and worked on my own writing in order to keep learning while enjoying my winter break back in December. I also took a trip to the Guggenheim Museum.

I wish I was artistic. Generally, I walk through museums in awe of what artists can do. The colors and dainty details simultaneously inspire me and remind me of what little talent I posses holding a paintbrush. Walking through the Guggenheim was no exception. Most of the pieces are done by Hilma af Klint, a 20th-century Swedish artist expressing her beliefs and curiosity about the universe through her abstract painting. I was mostly at the exhibit to appease my mom (a K - 8th-grade art teacher), but as we continued to look at each piece and read their descriptions, I slowly began to appreciate them and their underlying meanings.

I like writing that integrates symbols, double meanings, and metaphors into its message because I think that the best works of art are the ones that have to be sought after. If the writer simply tells you exactly what they were thinking and how their words should be interpreted, there's no room for imagination. An unpopular opinion in high school was that reading "The Scarlet Letter" by Nathaniel Hawthorne was fun. Well, I thought it was. At the beginning of the book, there's a scene where Hawthorne describes a wild rosebush that sits just outside of the community prison. As you read, you are free to decide whether it's an image of morality, the last taste of freedom and natural beauty for criminals walking toward their doom, or a symbol of the relationship between the Puritans with their prison-like expectations and Hester, the main character, who blossoms into herself throughout the novel. Whichever one you think it is doesn't matter, the point is that the rosebush can symbolize whatever you want it to. It's the same with paintings - they can be interpreted however you want them to be.

As we walked through the building, its spiral design leading us further and further upwards, we were able to catch glimpses of af Klint's life through the strokes of her brush. My favorite of her collections was one titled, "Evolution." As a science nerd myself, the idea that the story of our existence was being incorporated into art intrigued me. One piece represented the eras of geological time through her use of spirals and snails colored abstractly. She clued you into the story she was telling by using different colors and tones to represent different periods. It felt like reading "The Scarlet Letter" and my biology textbook at the same time. Maybe that sounds like the worst thing ever, but to me it was heaven. Art isn't just art and science isn't just science. Aspects of different studies coexist and join together to form something amazing that will speak to even the most untalented patron walking through the museum halls.

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